Things are stressful right now. I am 8 weeks pregnant... apparently the kids' BM has been googling DH and I .... and she found our baby registry.
So last night she gets all upset.... she used DSD getting sick at school (which DH picked her up right away, just a sinus cold-- the school emails both of them when a nurse visit happens) and the fact DH was working so couldn't pick up BMs call and DSS was in school so couldn't answer a call as the "breaking point" to take him back to court.
When she could have just text or emailed DH and gotten a reply immediately. Then when she called later last night neither kiddo wanted to talk to her.... we encourage them to talk, but can't force it.
It is annoying because she isn't consistent with contact (van go months without any) and has just recently become more involved because we got married.
And now that she googled us and knows we are having a baby she is taking him back to court to make sure their kids are taken care of when "that baby comes along."
DH isn't too worried... just annoyed. I said it would be good for them to see her more often, so that is good. He said yes but too bad it is for the wrong reasons. ... I think he is being too laid back about it. I can see her forcing visits with her mother who lives here.... DH doesn't allow her mother to drive them anywhere because of times when she has and kids didn't have seat belts to wear. ... so all visits with her require one of us driving and picking up... which takes up entire days... But I also worry about BM trying to put controls over me... what I can and can't do with the kids... related to school, etc. I don't know. All I know is she is doing this out of jealousy. ... not out of love for her kids.... out of jealousy and hatred toward me.... so I am worried.
I asked him to have 2 things put into place since they are amending the parental agreement.. 1. No bad mouthing the other parent or SO of the other parent (since she spent their entire last visit bashing me), and 2. No bad mouthing future siblings. ... because I worry she will say things to disrupt DSD and DSS bonding with their new sibling.
Just venting.... feel kind of alone in this.