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February 2014 Moms
Meghan14
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SAHM Check-in 11/4
Meghan14
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Yay Tuesday!
What were your successes this week?
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
What helped save your sanity?
Topic for the week: I know this was discussed on F14 as a whole, but can we look at it here too? Sorry. Do you agree that there is a "default parents." As SAHMs are we automatically it? How are you dealing with this blessing and burden?
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/m-blazoned/the-default-parent_b_6031128.html
GTKY: Are you a dog person or a cat person?
Bonus GTKY: Halloween pics?
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.
F'14 October Siggy Challenge: Animals in Costumes
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Re: SAHM Check-in 11/4
What were your successes this week?
Keeping up with almost everything despite being super busy.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
LO is trying to change his nap schedule to go down to 2 naps, but neither of us can quite figure it out. I guess it's a good time with daylight savings, just get all the adjustments over at once even if it's a bit more difficult. I would have been super pissed if we had gotten on a new schedule 2 weeks ago, only to have it messed with.
Getting ready to host a shower on Saturday (I'm starting to think my co-host is flaking out) and helping with BILs wedding the following Saturday.
What helped save your sanity?
Coffee.
Topic for the week: Default Parent
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/m-blazoned/the-default-parent_b_6031128.html
There are huge issues I want to talk about with the article, but will focus on my own experiences. I may revisit this later and speak more in terms of society later.
Growing up I can't say we really had a default parent. My house was in no way a model for gender equality, my mom did way more of her share in keeping the house running, but parenting was actually pretty evenly split. In fact, to this day if I'm sick, I call my dad to whine, not my mom.
But when my friends started having kids I realized this was definitely the not the norm. In all but one case mom was the default. This was even when she worked full time.
I know as a SAHM I am setting the dynamic that I will be the default parent. I am fine with this now, but may see it as a huge source of stress when I return to work. I am trying to train H not to ask me about every detail, reminding him he's a parent too- figure it out.
GTKY: Are you a dog person or a cat person?
I loved my dog, but I am definitely a cat person.
Bonus GTKY: Halloween pics?
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.
I have had no time for bumping. I logged on today and there are so many threads I really want to check out and I so sad I'll have to wait until the afternoon nap. I can't even imagine all the good stuff I'm missing on days I can't log on.
What were your successes this week? Having MIL over for Halloween (even though I probably hogged the baby), making some plans to get some Christmas crafting done, reading a book. It's been small stuff this week.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week? Getting my feelings hurt by DH, time change and a couple rough nights, teeth, being so tired
What helped save your sanity? Early bedtime or going to bed early to read before sleep. It's amazing what even an extra half an hour of sleep does for me sometimes. And I really enjoy unwinding by reading.
Topic for the week: I know this was discussed on F14 as a whole, but can we look at it here too? Sorry. Do you agree that there is a "default parents." As SAHMs are we automatically it? How are you dealing with this blessing and burden? Hi, I'm the default parent. I think even if I worked full-time, I'd be the default parent. I know the inner workings of this house and LO much more than DH does. I know when our appointments are, I know what what we need at the grocery store, I know how to soothe LO, I know his routine, and I can predict LO's needs with decent accuracy. Part of me doesn't mind being the default parent because DH doesn't question what LO eats, when LO eats, what LO wears, the car seat LO rides in, etc., etc. But being the person responsible for every single thing gets old and tiresome. Sometimes I just need for him to pick out what LO is going to sleep in or what puree he's eating for dinner. Like @mevaroo said, DH does have his own things he's in charge of -- the cars, the yard work, the bills. So it's not like I'm a one woman show. It's just when it comes to LO, I'm the default.
GTKY: Are you a dog person or a cat person? Cat. I like dogs, but only certain dogs. I love my darling cats with my whole heart. They're kind of jerks, but they're also incredibly lovable and dependable. They seem to know when I need them for comfort, and they're happy to fill that role. I love LO (duh), but there's something about curling up with a good book and my cats that makes my heart happy.
Bonus GTKY: Halloween pics? Not until TB lets me delete. I'm on IG though.
Late to the game this week. Yesterday was long!
What were your successes this week? Got out for a date with DH! Just a move (the Giver) and car seat shopping, but it is still always nice when we get out for something we used to do before baby!
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week? Trying to make decisions about a trip to DC. BIL is getting promoted in the military and they are stationed in DC so some of my family is going. I'm leaving LO behind so I'm just struggling on trying to make decisions on flights to make it as short of a trip but long enough to do sightseeing as possible, but not leave LO and DH alone for too long. Torn between costs and my family.
What helped save your sanity?
Yesterday, working the elections was really fun surprisingly. It made me miss working a little bit, but I was glad to come home at the end of the day. Even though I miss working, I don't miss having to leave my son all the time!
Topic for the week:
It's nice to be the default parent. I feel like since my husband works and goes to school at night it makes it easier. LO loves daddy, but he's not at the age yet where all he wants is daddy. Honestly I think it's harder on DH than me. Even when it meant baby was only soothed by me, he took it personally I think. I've gotten used to it over time and am better at just going upstairs for a few minutes if I really need a break.
GTKY: Are you a dog person or a cat person? Definitely a dog person. Though I didn't grow up with dogs, I can't stand cats!
Bonus GTKY: Halloween pics?(see below...LO's name is Jack....people thought it was even cuter once they knew that fact)
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.
I'm trying not to freak out and be "one of those"moms on here. But LO is 9 mos on the 14th. He can kind of crawl but tucks is legs under and then reaches forward to crawl--modified army crawling I guess. He doesn't babble AT ALL. No consonants, no vowels, no mama or dada. All we get is grunting. The delay in crawling I'm not as worried about but I'm really starting to worry on the verbal thing. He definitely associates words with objects, and shows appropriate social skills with dad coming and going, just no talking. I'm starting to get worried. We have our appointment on the 17th so I'm trying not to freak out but with so many people with babies younger and just older than him, it's hard!