Thought I Might Be Pregnant

JessGirl17

Well. I'm not ttc. I'm on the pill, but this month I had a total fail of the brain and missed 3 pills. (I know, after years on the pill I make this mistake!) Flash to me immediately freaking out because fiance and I were active throughout the time I missed the pills. Then, my period was late and I had nausea, sore boobs, dizziness, etc. But I just took the test and bfn.

I'm graduating with my BA in May and getting married right after that. I'm still trying to lock in a job offer for a solid career after that. We're saving money for the wedding and while we own a home and are financially stable, many of you know how expensive that big day is! Also I'm only 22 (he's 29) and we want more time together before the babies come along. If an accidental pregnancy did happen, we'd get through it and we'd be fine, but it would be hard (not that it isn't always hard).

So I should be wildly relieved! Right? Instead... I feel sad, but that's crazy, isn't it? Now is not the right time and we have a well planned timeline going on. So why do I feel like I just lost something? This will probably be my only post here for years, but I'm hoping that someone can relate to this experience. Has anyone else gone through this? I know logically it would not be the best to have a child right now. I'm not going to now throw all my plans out the window either, and start ttc. At the same time, and I would never say this out loud, I really really want a baby. These competing thoughts are driving me crazy! Please relate...

asws1208

LO is 10 months old and I had a scare last month the same way. We are not ready for #2 quite yet with many plans over the next year or so. When my period showed up 8 days late, I felt disappointed in a strange way as well! Even though for those 8 days I was a MESS! 

EricaOO

LO is 11 months and I sometimes take pregnancy tests to ease my mind and make sure i'm NOT pregnant.  when i get bfn, i'm relieved and a little disappointed at the same time. I'm certainly not ready at the moment because I don't want my kids to be so close in age, but with a bfp, comes the excitement of a new baby!  So I guess it's normal to feel the slightest disappointment. 

sandrabrooke

I think its normal If anything we just want to know our bodies are working and able to make a baby!

acurtin713

I completely know what you mean!! Before we started TTC even though there was no way I could handle being a mother then once I got my period or saw the BFN I always felt that ping of disappointment.