♡♡♡AMA check in 11/3♡♡♡

rubysi

Hello everyone,

This check-in is for Monday, November 3rd 2014

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This is a check-in designed for us that are AMA (35+) and dealing with that added challenge in our TTCAL journeys. Please feel free to share your insights, vents, thoughts, and anything else. Mostly this check-in is to remind all of us that we are not alone and to offer support to each other. Check in every other  Friday. New members: Post an introduction and your current TTC status and I will add you to the list! Welcome  Current members: Post your updates, link to your chart, upcoming appointments, and if you get a BFP, please PM me! If you get a BFP and do not PM me,  I will not post your BFP in the check-in.

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Current Members:

@buggirl72

@clh4444

@dajhughes

@furrypaws 

@gscoville

@HeyMrsPotter 

@HoldingOutHope 

@jenwashington

@katib77

@kboydbowman

@lesliem0901

@meredithcarole 

@Nikolie93 

@O2girl

@rmpar29

@rubysi

@scrang74

@sunflwra 

@Tablefor5

@tlc35 

@VesperLynch 

@yellowcat10 

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Please provide an update on how you are and what’s going in your life. 

Since this is a month to give thanks, let's hear what you are thankful for.

To anyone who missed last week’s check-in: how are you? 

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Hugs for everyone.

rmpar29

@rubysi - Hey lady!  How are you?

AFM: I'm just waiting to see what my body's going to do this cycle.  I should be Oing in about a week so we shall see. 

I'm thankful for my husband, whose been my rock this year and is really doing his best to take care of us. 

rubysi

rmpar29 said:

@rubysi - Hey lady!  How are you?

AFM: I'm just waiting to see what my body's going to do this cycle.  I should be Oing in about a week so we shall see. 

I'm thankful for my husband, whose been my rock this year and is really doing his best to take care of us. 

Thanks for asking I am doing ok, just getting over a cold. I hope you O soon. The first cycle off the pill always seems to be a mystery.

tlc35

@rubysi How is the TWW treating you?
@mmpar29 I hope your body gets back on track quickly.

AFM: I am OK.  I didn't have high hopes for this cycle but of course I had to test this AM at 12 dpo.  BFN and now I will try to just wait for AF.
I am ready to move on with the rest of my RE testing this cycle.  I lost my 2 day a week job basically because they wanted me to do things I felt were unethical but I knew it was coming.  Now there is even more pressure for me to get the dream job I really, really want.

I am thankful for my family, parents, siblings, husband.
I am also thankful my AMH came back good.  It takes the time pressure off a bit.

rubysi

tlc35 said:

@rubysi How is the TWW treating you?
@mmpar29 I hope your body gets back on track quickly.

AFM: I am OK.  I didn't have high hopes for this cycle but of course I had to test this AM at 12 dpo.  BFN and now I will try to just wait for AF.
I am ready to move on with the rest of my RE testing this cycle.  I lost my 2 day a week job basically because they wanted me to do things I felt were unethical but I knew it was coming.  Now there is even more pressure for me to get the dream job I really, really want.

I am thankful for my family, parents, siblings, husband.
I am also thankful my AMH came back good.  It takes the time pressure off a bit.

I am sorry about your job, it sounds like it wasn't the right one for you. Good luck with the dream job. I hope when the final testing is done  you and th RE come up with a good plan. Yay for a good AMH.

Those are some great things to be thankful for.

The tww has been tough. I got a bad cold and the trigger shot woke up some crazy dreams. 

rubysi

AFM: I am thankful for my DH. He is the sweetest, most supportive, and cuddly person in my life. He has been putting up with my horrible cold this week, he even made me some tomato soup from scratch.

Has anyone had weird dreams from the trigger shot? I haven't had more than a handful of memorable dreams since my loss October of last year, but this week has been weird ass crazy dreams every time I shut my eyes since the shot.

Nikolie93

Hi Ladies! :-h

@rubysi Glad you're getting over your cold! Temp just dropped a bit here in Florida so my day is coming soon I think

@tlc35 I would say sorry to hear about your job but it seems as if you did the right thing. FX that you run into your dream job soon! Do you mind me asking what that is?

AFM- My week was crazy at work but an alcohol filled Halloween night helped me stop thinking about it :-D I did realize that staying out until 4am really isn't for me any more. I really did need a night to let loose though.

I am thankful to MH how has learned to deal with my mood swings lately. I am also thankful to my mom who I call every day and she listens to my random babbling. I am also thankful for all the ladies here on TB. You've all helped me more than you will ever know

tlc35

@Nikolie93 I don't share specifics abut my job on the public pages for privacy reasons.  I will say that I work in healthcare (but nothing to do with OB).

rubysi

Nikolie93 said:

Hi Ladies! :-h

@rubysi Glad you're getting over your cold! Temp just dropped a bit here in Florida so my day is coming soon I think

@tlc35 I would say sorry to hear about your job but it seems as if you did the right thing. FX that you run into your dream job soon! Do you mind me asking what that is?

AFM- My week was crazy at work but an alcohol filled Halloween night helped me stop thinking about it :-D I did realize that staying out until 4am really isn't for me any more. I really did need a night to let loose though.

I am thankful to MH how has learned to deal with my mood swings lately. I am also thankful to my mom who I call every day and she listens to my random babbling. I am also thankful for all the ladies here on TB. You've all helped me more than you will ever know

It is good to let loose occasionally. I always realize my age on nights like those.

Nikolie93

@tlc35, I completely understand that. I envy people that know what their dream job is...I still have no clue lol. Good luck to you!

rmpar29

@rubysi - I hope that you feel better soon!
@tlc35 - So sorry for the BFN!  ((((HUGS))))  Even without high hopes it still sucks. 
@Nikolie93 - I'm glad that you got a chance to let loose. 
@HoldingOutHope - Oh honey, so many ((((((HUGS))))))  I'm so sorry that you and hubby are at this place.  I hope that you can get some results and are able to try this month. 

Nikolie93

@HoldingoutHope Saturday was chilly! Not sure where you are in Fl but it was sooo windy here and I was out playing putt putt! Hopefully neither of us will get sick

I also want to give you a big *hug* for what you and your DH are going through. It's so very similiar to my story. We have also been having the end of the road talk and we are also planning to try one more time. You guys will be in my thoughts!

yellowcat10

@rubysi  thanks for the check-in.  Good luck to you and everyone who should be o'ing soon. 

@Nikolie93 I had a little too much fun on Halloween and then had to get up at 8 the next day to help some friends move, a bit of a struggle, but whatever...

We had our IVF consult today.  I was pretty positive going in but now and not feeling it.  I started to panic a little in the car on the way to work.  MH still does not know how to handle this and had a meltdown of his own.  My main issue is genetic testing and how that will throw the whole schedule off.  I have two big work trips (early December and early January),  December I can get out of, but January I cannot.  If we went ahead with the genetic testing we would have to postpone transfer until early March (clinic schedule in there as well).  If we didn't I could transfer as soon as Dec 10.  Since neither of us have any issues we decided to skip the testing this round.  I think I am ok with this, I know waiting months for a transfer will stress me out a lot more than not doing genetic testing.  Luckily we get three rounds covered for insurance, but  unfortunately testing is not part of it. 

I know everyone is thankful for their H, and mine is great, but right now I think I like my cats better.  He keeps telling me to be positive.  I am working on it, but can't promise him anything.

rubysi

HoldingOutHope said:

Hi, ladies. I'm sorry that I was absent last week...it was just so hectic, and I didn't even do an adequate job of keeping up with my MLL ladies, let alone anywhere else on TTCAL. Thanks for the check-in @rubysi - and for the birthday love last week. I did have a very nice birthday, and luckily I haven't even let it make me feel too sad about the current state of TTCAL. I hope you feel better very soon. I actually did have very vivid dreams during my medicated cycle, and I attributed it to the hCG. I only really seem to have vivid dreams like that when I am KU. Weird, isn't it?

@rmpar29 ~ FX your body cooperates and you O when you're expecting! Congrats on being off the bench again!

@tlc35 ~ (((Hugs))) for the BFN and the job situation. I hope you are able to land your dream job. That was great news about your AMH - very happy for you!

@nikolie93 ~ I'm in FL also, and yes - this temp drop has me worried about catching a cold also! Glad we're getting back to normal temps for most of this week though. Saturday was CHILLY! My Saturday night sounds like your Halloween night. Somtimes you just have to kick back!

AFM: Looks like my follow up with the RE will be right after I O this cycle, so I plan to call the office next week to hound for our test results so we can go ahead and try this month. The H and I have been having many "end of the road" discussions and I'm in a pretty sad place right now, but of course doing my best to stay positive. It's so hard, as all of you know. This will most likely be our last try, the last shot at having a child. No pressure or anything.

That said, I am thankful for my amazing husband. Even if we are not successful at starting a family, we have each other and he is more than enough. I am also thankful for our new life in FL and this beautiful home.

Big (((hugs))) and lots of love to you ladies this week!

((Hugs)) You are so amazing to allow us to be with you on your journey. I hope for a better ending for you. FX for good test results.

meredithcarole

Hi everyone.  @rubysi Thanks for the check-in.  Hope you are well and the 2WW isn't driving you too crazy.

I had my first RE appointment today (please see my AW novel on the main page).  I am very overwhelmed at the moment and really don't know what to think.  I almost stated crying in the grocery store after the appointment because I really don't know which way is up at this point.  Anyway, all thoughts and opinions are welcome.  

@yellowcat10 I am right there with you on the mini-panic attack.  Sorry you are overwhelmed too, but it sounds like you know what you want to do.  ((hugs))

@tlc35 I am sorry about the job loss.  Sounds like it will sit better with you in the end though.  It is never good to compromise your principles.  I am really sorry about the BFN - even if you didn't have high hopes it still sucks.  ((hugs))

@nikolie93 4 AM!?  I am way too old for that!

@HoldingOutHope I am thinking about you.  ((hugs)) again.

@rmpar29 Sounds like you're doing well this week.

I am thankful for the support of everyone on the Bump, you all are an amazing group of women.  I am also very thankful for my loving and wonderful husband.  He makes everything a little bit better (and some things a lot better).  

rubysi

yellowcat10 said:

@rubysi  thanks for the check-in.  Good luck to you and everyone who should be o'ing soon. 

@Nikolie93 I had a little too much fun on Halloween and then had to get up at 8 the next day to help some friends move, a bit of a struggle, but whatever...

We had our IVF consult today.  I was pretty positive going in but now and not feeling it.  I started to panic a little in the car on the way to work.  MH still does not know how to handle this and had a meltdown of his own.  My main issue is genetic testing and how that will throw the whole schedule off.  I have two big work trips (early December and early January),  December I can get out of, but January I cannot.  If we went ahead with the genetic testing we would have to postpone transfer until early March (clinic schedule in there as well).  If we didn't I could transfer as soon as Dec 10.  Since neither of us have any issues we decided to skip the testing this round.  I think I am ok with this, I know waiting months for a transfer will stress me out a lot more than not doing genetic testing.  Luckily we get three rounds covered for insurance, but  unfortunately testing is not part of it. 

I know everyone is thankful for their H, and mine is great, but right now I think I like my cats better.  He keeps telling me to be positive.  I am working on it, but can't promise him anything.

Wow that sounds like a busy timeline. Good luck with that decision. It is OK to like your cats better. They can be a lot less demanding.

rubysi

meredithcarole said:

Hi everyone.  @rubysi Thanks for the check-in.  Hope you are well and the 2WW isn't driving you too crazy.

I had my first RE appointment today (please see my AW novel on the main page).  I am very overwhelmed at the moment and really don't know what to think.  I almost stated crying in the grocery store after the appointment because I really don't know which way is up at this point.  Anyway, all thoughts and opinions are welcome.  

@yellowcat10 I am right there with you on the mini-panic attack.  Sorry you are overwhelmed too, but it sounds like you know what you want to do.  ((hugs))

@tlc35 I am sorry about the job loss.  Sounds like it will sit better with you in the end though.  It is never good to compromise your principles.  I am really sorry about the BFN - even if you didn't have high hopes it still sucks.  ((hugs))

@nikolie93 4 AM!?  I am way too old for that!

@HoldingOutHope I am thinking about you.  ((hugs)) again.

@rmpar29 Sounds like you're doing well this week.

I am thankful for the support of everyone on the Bump, you all are an amazing group of women.  I am also very thankful for my loving and wonderful husband.  He makes everything a little bit better (and some things a lot better).  

I think you might need to take you fasting blood draw on a different day, or possibly have the fasting drawn first, go eat and come back a little later for the rest. The information you received was overwhelming but you have an obtainable goal, an uncomfortable and unexpected goal but a goal.

And most important here is a hug for you... >:D<

rmpar29

@yellowcat10 - Good luck with your IVF cycle.  I'm sure all of that is just so overwhelming and I hope you and DH can process it and feel more calm soon.  (((HUGS)))
@meredithcarole - I'm so sorry that your RE appointment was overwhelming.  Been there, done that.  I hope that with time you can feel better about it. 
@furrypaws - I hope the rest of your week flies by so you can know either way.  ((((HUGS)))

rubysi

furrypaws said:

Hi @rubysi‌ :-h Thanks for the checkin! Glad your cold is getting better!
@rmpar29‌ come on O!
@tlc35 sorry your work sucked. What is your dream job?
@Nikolie93‌ yeah, I can hardly make it to midnight anymore!
@HoldingOutHope‌ love you lady! All the (((hugs)))!!
@yellowcat10‌ three rounds covered! That is fantastic. You will be in my thoughts sweetie, xo
@meredithcarole‌ let all of the info soak in. Give yourselves time to think (((hugs)))
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AFM...we maybe in a TWW...I O'd earlier than expected this cycle. I'm thinking it's a no this time. I had a giant temp dip one day and I did POAS on 10DPO and it was a BFN. I know it was early, I couldn't help it!! I didn't get a BFP until 17DPO with our last Pg...so I'll prob wait and pee on something Thursday or Friday. We weren't actively trying this cycle but when I saw the early O I'm kind of antsy now. 8-}

I hate when the body changes... FX 

rubysi

VesperLynch said:

Hi there @rubysi, and thanks for checking in! Glad to hear you're getting rid of your cold. No fun at all. But it's super nice that YH took good care of you.

@rmpar29 - I hope you O when you expect to.

@tlc35 - ((hugs)). What a crappy week! I'm so sorry you lost your job. I hope something else is in your future soon, something better.

@Nikolie93 - whew, what a night! I can't remember the last time stayed up that late to party!

@HoldingOutHope - Happy late Birthday, lady! I'm sorry that the next steps in TTCAL are so serious...keeping everything crossed for you. ((hugs))

@yellowcat10 - Sending you calming thoughts and ((hugs)).

@meredithcarole - I have to read up on your other post! I hope though that things will start falling into place soon and seem more manageable.

@furrypaws - Stay strong! But I understand the urge to POAS :-)

AFM, no news. The same litany of busy, busy, busy at work. I have two days every week when I leave the house at 7 a.m. and don't come home until almost 9:30 p.m., and on the other days it seems like I'm catching up on little things like doing laundry or cleaning the house. I gave away my last OPKs, and I have one HPT left that I have not had to use. I'm very okay right now and am sort of suspicious of it--as if I know that at least one last breakdown is around the corner. I don't know. I feel like I should cut ties to TB because I am not contributing the way I used to or should, but I'm hesitant.

I'm thankful for DH who is my favorite person in the world, and I'm thankful that, even though this year was not easy, I've made it through okay with awesome support here and IRL. You guys rock.

We are here as you need us. I hope that breakdown doesn't appear. 

meredithcarole

@vesperlynch you of course have to do what's right for you, but I will seriously miss you if you leave TB

@furrypaws just remember, it's not over till it's over (and try not to POAS for a couple more days)

@rubysi I was wondering if I could have the fasting one drawn first and then eat something.

ETA: quote issues edited.

yellowcat10

@meredithcarole I used to literally pass out after bloodwork, a lot of it was my needle phobia.  But, after the last time which meant an emergency room trip I decided to bring orange slices and start eating them as soon as they took out the needle.  That has helped and unless it is a big draw I do not have problems anymore.  Maybe it is a mental thing, but some kind of security blanket may help you out like it did me.

(HUGS) everyone, @VesperLynch those work hours sound awful, I hope you stick around here,

Nikolie93

@VesperLynch Those hours are definitely hard I am glad you're doing ok now and I also hope that breakdown doesn't happen. *hug*

rubysi

@meredithcarole I would check with the place doing the draw. But I don't think it sounds like you would make it through the whole process otherwise.

yellowcat10

I have a question for anyone here who has done IVF or other medicated cycles while guests were in the house who you did not want to know what was happening.  H is very insistent my family know nothing about this and for now I am on board.  I have a family that feels entitled to know every aspect of each other's lives (I am talking extended family to your third cousin level).  I love them all and have enjoyed my share of (and been their) source of gossip but this is off limits at the moment.

My immediate family invited themselves for Thanksgiving (which is fine!) but that was before we decided to do IVF.  I know I will have one monitoring appointment the day before and likely one the day after Thanksgiving, plus shooting myself up in a house full of drunk adults and my sister's kids.  Any advice on sneaking out or not killing them all.  I cannot cancel at this point and I would really rather not postpone IVF because of my family visiting. 

Sorry that was longer than I thought it would be!

rubysi

yellowcat10 said:

I have a question for anyone here who has done IVF or other medicated cycles while guests were in the house who you did not want to know what was happening.  H is very insistent my family know nothing about this and for now I am on board.  I have a family that feels entitled to know every aspect of each other's lives (I am talking extended family to your third cousin level).  I love them all and have enjoyed my share of (and been their) source of gossip but this is off limits at the moment.

My immediate family invited themselves for Thanksgiving (which is fine!) but that was before we decided to do IVF.  I know I will have one monitoring appointment the day before and likely one the day after Thanksgiving, plus shooting myself up in a house full of drunk adults and my sister's kids.  Any advice on sneaking out or not killing them all.  I cannot cancel at this point and I would really rather not postpone IVF because of my family visiting. 

Sorry that was longer than I thought it would be!

This does sound tricky. Can your monitoring appointment just be a check up for your guests. They don't need the details of your appointment. On friday maybe your guests will be more interested in black friday and you could sneak off while they shop. Are the meds you are taking refrigerated? That might be more difficult to hide maybe a small ice chest in your closet... good luck. 

yellowcat10

@furrypaws and @vesperlynch thanks!  Not sure who has sisters but mine are up my ass (usually in a good way) all the time.  I think I could lie about having to go check a work site (I am an archaeologist and have a private property I am working on now) and they never take an interest in that.

I am not good at sneaky, maybe it is my middle child issues (or so my H says)!