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crs89crs89 member
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Hello everyone...I've been lurking for a few days now, trying to get the lay of the land and I think I'm finally ready to introduce myself and be apart of this wonderful support group!

On 10/27, I went in for an u/s after I'd had some spotting/bleeding over the weekend.  I knew before the technician even said it that she couldn't find a heartbeat.  It turns out that my baby had stopped developing around the 7-1/2 weeks and I was supposed to be 10 weeks.  I opted for a natural miscarriage and it happened on 10/29. 

My DH and I are both 25 and this was our first pregnancy.  We plan to start trying again right away.  I have the okay from my doctor to start trying again after one normal period.  I'm just scared that I might continue to have miscarriages.  How do you get over the fear of having to go through this again.  It was the hardest experience of my life. 

Me: 29  H: 30
Married: 4/27/13 
BFP: 9/16/2014 * EDD: 5/25/2015 * M/C: 10/29/14 @ 10w2d 
BFP: 1/25/2015 * EDD: 9/27/2015 * DS: 10/3/15
BFP: 1/13/19 * EDD: 9/28/2019

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  • ctk181ctk181 member
    Welcome, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how scary it is to think about going through something like this again and unfortunately, I don't know if the fear of mc ever really goes away, I know it has not for me. But I have heard others on this board say when the desire to try again outweighs the fear of MC then you are ready to try again, and I think that is good advice. It just takes time. Be patient with yourself and take the time you need to heal physically and emotionally. ((Hugs)) 
    Married: 4/28/12
    BFP: 7/2/14 ;  1st US 7/21/14 Baby measuring 7w5d, HB of 138;  Discovered MMC 8/18/14 at 11w2d, baby measuring 8w5d, no hb ; 8/19/14 D&C
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  • crs89crs89 member
    Thank you so much for your advice! I really appreciate it!
    Me: 29  H: 30
    Married: 4/27/13 
    BFP: 9/16/2014 * EDD: 5/25/2015 * M/C: 10/29/14 @ 10w2d 
    BFP: 1/25/2015 * EDD: 9/27/2015 * DS: 10/3/15
    BFP: 1/13/19 * EDD: 9/28/2019

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  • Km380Km380 member
    I'm sorry for your loss. @ctk181‌ covered the rest

    PgAL welcome


    Married 6/11/2011

    Me & Hubby: 34

    TTC journey started 12/2012

    BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks

    BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)

    Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.

    Also have hypothyroidism

    Started TTC again 12/2013

     

    IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN

    IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN

    Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.

    http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/502498

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  • kyliehopefulkyliehopeful member
    I'm sorry for your loss and welcome to the board.
    Married to a wonderful man

    TTC since 2001

    4 losses - last one in september 2014 (9 weeks - male trisomy 15)

    High FSH and low ovarian reserve

    Ever hopeful that one day my dreams will come true
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  • uromysuromys member
    I'm sorry for your loss. @ctk181 worded it exactly how I would. As scared as MH and I are we will not let the fear drive us from continuing our journey. These ladies are wonderful and full of knowledge and support. Welcome to the board.

    DH & I are both 28    Together: 12 years    Married: 09/24/2011

    BFP#1: January '12 - DD1 09/16/2012

    Preterm labor 31 weeks. Monitored for Hellp and diagnosed with oligohydramnios July '12

    BFP #2: 06/25 - EDD 03/05/15 MMC confirmed 8/1 - D&E 8/4 retained tissue discovered 8/20

    BFP #3 11/24 - 12/15 Heartbeat detected - DD2 07/29/15

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  • Nikolie93Nikolie93 member
    Welcome to the board and good luck!

    I'm with the other ladies, ctk181 covered what I was going to say.
    I am not sure how to say this without getting a "solicitation" warning so I guess I just say that I am not longer active on THIS site. 



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  • SunshineShadesSunshineShades member
    So sorry for your loss. I agree with the other ladies. The fear of another miscarriage probably never leaves. After 2, I know I will be afraid when we start TTC again. But the desire to have another baby outweighs that fear for me, it is something I sometimes need to remind myself of.

    BFP #1 05/03/12 DD: 12/18/12
    BFP #2 05/26/14 MMC: 6/26/14 D&C: 7/18/14
    BFP #3 10/09/14 MC 10/24/14


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  • flyoffeveflyoffeve member
    I am so sorry for your loss. (Hugs) Welcome.

    Me: 31 DH: 36
    Dated Since ‘02, Married in ‘06
    BFP#1 05/16/06, EDD01/16/07, MC 06/12/06 at 8 weeks
    BFP #2 08/14/14, EDD 04/22/15, MC 09/17/14 at 9 weeks

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  • schuebjaschuebja member
    I'm sorry for your loss, welcome to the board.
    Together since April 2004.  Married since June 19th, 2010.
     BFP #1: January 31st 2012: CP. 
     BFP #2: June 1st 2012, Due:2/8/13. Avery was born via unplanned c section on 2/13/13. 
     BFP #3: Sept. 25th, 2014. Due: 6/5/15.  MMC on 10/23/14. Confirmed complete molar pregnancy per D&C 10/29/14, 
    HCG officially negative 12/10/14.  Benched until June 2015.
                                                        
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  • LittleMrsWLittleMrsW member
    Welcome to the board, I'm sorry for our loss.




    Me-27 DH-29

     TTC#1 January 2013

    BFP February 27th 2014, MMC ended in D&C

    Working on our rainbow!

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  • FutureMrsWright2012FutureMrsWright2012 member
    No advice to add, but sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.
    TTCAL December Siggy Challenge: Autocorrect Fails
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    TTC since 3/2012 
    DH - 34; nml swimmers; Me - 34; sinking AMH (now 0.55), low AFC, nml FSH/LH 
    Clomid + IUI #1 (6/2013) - BFN; #2 (7/2013) - BFFN 
    Bonus info: me - low TNF, low vitamin D, borderline low IGF (all improving) 
    IVF (May/June2014) 5R/5F/2T (ET 6/11) - no frosties. 
    + HPT 8dp5dt. Beta #1 - 71(6/20). Beta #2 381 (6/24) 
    U/S 7/11 (one perfect little bean, HB 150's). EDD 3/1/2015
    Baby boy Lincoln Alexander's HB stopped at 18w and was delivered at 19w (10/3/2014)
    All testing normal/negative including normal chromosomes - no answers... D&C 11/20/2014
    IVF#2 coming in Spring 2015
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  • meredithcarolemeredithcarole member
    I am very sorry for your loss. It sounds very similar to my experience. The desire to try again, as others have said, will eventually outweigh the fear. Welcome.
    TTCAL January Siggy Challenge: Animals in the Snow

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    About Me: 

    AMA 35 :  DH 33
    BFP#1 1/26/14 (EDD: 10/7/14).  MMC 3/10/14 D&C 3/14/14
    RE Consult 11/3/14 - AMH 2.25 "great" . FSH 7.10 . Low Vitamin D
    Myomectomy 12/17/14.  Benched until March.

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  • Elliecat17Elliecat17 member
    Welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss. Big ((hugs))
    Me: 24 
    DH: 25
    BFP: 1/12/14       EDD: 9/18/14     MC: 1/15/14
    BFP: 5/6/14         EDD: 1/5/15       MC: 5/10/14
    BFP: 12/29/14      EDD: 9/12/15      MC: 1/5/15
    Dx: PCOS - 8/20/14, Hashimoto's - 10/10/14, Gluten Allergy 10/10/14


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  • rmpar29rmpar29 member
    I'm very sorry for your loss.  I don't think you ever "get over" the fear.  Good luck and welcome.  ((((HUGS))))
    TTC #3 since 8/2012 image
    DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS     6/2010
     BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
    BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
    My chart here  All ALers welcome!
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickersLilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
    June 3Missing Our January Snowflake
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  • welly01welly01 member

    I'm so sorry for your loss and welcome.  I agree with the other ladies, when the desire to have a child outweighs the fear of MC, then you are ready to TTC again.

                                                                                              BFP #1 3/2/12, T born 11/7/12
                                                                                                 BFP #2  7/2/14, CP 7/6/14
                                 BFP #3 8/28/14, MMC 10/2/14 @ 9wks - misoprostol 10/6/14, D&C 11/3/14 for retained tissue
                                       BFP #4 12/25/14, EDD 9/7/15 - please stick baby, you are so loved and wanted!!!!!                                                                                           
                                                                                                                                                   
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  • incirincir member
    Welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss.  As others have said, take all the time you need to feel ready.

    BFP #1 ended with H born 2/2/13
    BFP #2 ended in loss @7weeks 10/15/14
    BFP #3 due 8/21/15 *please stick*
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  • tlc35tlc35 member
    I am sorry for your loss.  Welcome to the board.
    Me: 37                                               
    DH: 45
    BFP #1 3/19/14  EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
    BFP #2  12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
    Saw heartbeat 12/29.  Please be a rainbow.
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  • rslh10rslh10 member
    I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. ((hugs))
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    Hubs & I -29 • Met 5/18/04 • Married 5/8/10
    BFP #1 DS 2/7/11 (Born @ 34 wks via ECS due to Pre-e) TTC #2 since Aug '13
    DX Low AMH (.58) March '14 • FSH-7.5 • E2-35.5 (Nov '14)
    SA- Great numbers • SIS- Clear (Nov '14)
     Cycle 1- Clomid CD3-7 & Trigger-BFP • EDD 1/12/15 
    Ectopic @ 5w6d • Methotrexate Shot 5/18/14
    Cycle 2,3,4- Clomid CD3-7 & Trigger-- BFN
    Cycle 5- Letrozole CD3-7 & Trigger BFFN
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    • Everyone Welcome •
    TTCAL January Siggy Challenge • Animal Snow Interactions
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