I just told them I don't want one. You can refuse, they aren't necessary and don't really give you any info. Even if you were 4cm you could still go another week or two before labour...
Oh I had my 2nd today and it was just as painful as the first. My cervix faces back so apparently its not easy to reach. I was in tears today. It does help to breathe through them as deeply as possible but that's kinda hard too when someone is sticking their hand all up in there.
P.S. I told my Dr I had heard people say they aren't supposed to be painful and she laughed. Said it hurt everytime she had one done with each of her 4 kids.
IDK I'm probably just a big wuss and that's why they hurt me so bad.
Me 32 and DH 40
Fur-baby named Bella
1 MC Nov. 2013
DD born Nov. 2, 2014
Little 2 EDD Oct. 1
I have had 3 so far, because my blood pressure is being monitored very closely.
1st - my male OB, didn't hurt at all. Cervix was soft, long and closed. (Oct 21)
2nd - my male OB, holy hell! It hurt like a SOB. I think he was trying to do a sweep, but it wasn't very dilated. Wasn't much change according to the doctor. (Oct 27)
3rd - my MW. Definitely not the most comfortable thing ever. Was the longest exam of the 3. She talked me through what she was doing. Cervix was soft. Starting to thin. 1cm or so dilated. (Oct 29)