Frustrated daddy!

allis2991

my gf never wants to have sex anymore . Starting to think its me . Shes 6 weeks along ...

angielayne926

Give it time....she'll feel more like herself in a few weeks. Don't get defensive about it to her, but if it's something you're really worried about sit her down and have a talk with her, and let her know your concerns. A lot of people this early are worried about sex causing a miscarriage or other problems, so maybe her not wanting to is based on a fear or concern for the baby. Good luck!

dkleid

Women's sex drives change when they are pregnant because of all the hormones going through our bodies.. give her some time and she will come around.

cmcards83

My husband can feel your pain. I've had ZERO desire to have sex...at all. That's just not me but being pregnant has killed my desire. I know it'll come back and that it's temporary and my DH is so understanding! Be patient, first tri sucks for her because she's got a lot going on. Be supportive, communicate your feelings but be patient more than anything. She's growing another human in her body right now.

lilninny2

My DH could definitely relate! He's having a hard time with the dry spell but I've told him I just have absolutely no desire for sex. I remember this was the same with our 1st but it did come back around 2nd tri and with a vengeance! lol

BostonGayGal

Suck it up buttercup. There will be lapses in your sex life during pregnancy and probably for five years after you are done having kids. Then about the time you no longer care and just want to enjoy your new recliner, your wife will hit her sexual peak and run you ragged. Best of luck to you.

tachycardicdoll

I had sex with my hubby just over a week ago and spotted... so sex will be a no go until I'm further a long. Nothing to do with you at all! Some it up to, her recent symptoms, feeling sick, fatigue, maybe some cramping due to uterus stretching... and of course... hormones! Lol

spidermonkeymomma

Just wait until after the baby comes! I'm pretty sure I didn't let my husband touch me for a year. 

Trampslikeus

Would you settle for blowjobs instead?

I haven't been in the mood for sex AT ALL, and frankly, am nervous that if I end up spotting afterwards, which I know is common, its going to freak me out and I'll end up being one of those people calling to annoy my OB when there isn't a damn thing she can say to me other than "wait and see", and I don't want to be that person, and thats all a very big mood stab.

However, he's been so wonderful and supportive and cleaning and making dinner and being sweet and amazing and making me feel so lucky to have him, that I am happy to return the favor in a way I know is enjoyable to him.  (but you better be earning that, haha)

spidermonkeymomma

nettje said:

Ditto what @spidermonkeymomma‌ said. I was so exhausted the first year, DH barely got any then as well. When you're waking up every 3-4 hours to nurse, it just doesn't happen.

And when you are nursing, your boobs are just off limits. So much to look forward to again

allis2991

Yes a blowjob would be nice every now and then lol but i know i just have to be patient and take it day by day and be the man shes always wanted in her life and the father she expects

bttfbetty467

Dr said no sex bc of red bleeding. Abs no bj bc of my sensitive gag reflex. DH is pretty awesome though and is more upset about not being to able to make me feel good. So weve just been having "outer-course". Gets the job done and we feel closer and intimate without being able to actually do it.

carolyngrace

I gave DH a blowjob the other day (which I usually enjoy) and at the end I had to run to the bathroom gagging. Not fun for either of us. Man, this first trimester is just a lot of fun in so many ways!

Frogger5

comeongetdown said:

Ugh, I feel like death. I go to bed at 8 and I'm still exhausted. The thought of a blow job makes me throw up in my mouth. Give the girl a break, first trimester is the worst.

Also, I'm totally side-eyeing this post.

Agree with both points (exhaustion and the side-eye) and think the best solution is a little alone time for the OP.

Synnovus

The best thing for you is to talk to her about it and ask her how she feels about sex and why and if there is anything you might do to help with getting her sexual desire back. And yes, that might include doing more of the housework and look after that she get's enough rest...