Introduction of Loss

AnnaInman

Hi my name is Anna. My husband and I lost our baby boy last Saturday 10/18/14. We had went to a high risk doctor on 10/6/14 because I had a marker for cystic fibrosis and they wanted to check my husband because if he had a marker the baby could get it. After blood work we went back to get a sono. The doctor told I'd that our baby had fluid on the neck and we had a 80% chance of our baby having an abnormality. They gave me the Materni21 test which we had to wait for results. That's all she left us with. I was freaking out and called OB and she sceduled is for a 2nd opinion at another HR doctor. We went to this one on 10/13/14. This doctor said that there was a large cystic hygroma of 11mm on the neck and also there was fluid all along the babys tummy and back which was fetal hydrops. She told us that our baby wouldn't make it and we should discuss what we want to do. She said if we waited it out we would deliver a stillborn baby at anywhere between 16-20 wks. Left there devastated. Tuesday the next day I started spotting. Wednesday we went back to our Ob and she said his organs are shutting down. She wanted me to go into a forced labor that Friday to deliver our sweet pea. Our only other choice was D&C and that could cause future fertility problems. So Friday we got admitted to the hospital and she started to enduce me at 7am. I delivered our sweet boy at 5:58am on Saturday. He had already passed. I held him and he stayed with us in the hospital. I was released on Sunday. We took him to get cremated. It has been a very tough week. The high risk doctor said this just happens and it's nothing I did or did not do. She also said we have a 98% chance of having another baby with no problems like him. We have to wait 3 months till we can try again. So we will start trying in January.

jms627

I am so, so sorry for your loss.  Sending you hugs and prayers.

DanandVan

Your loss is so saddening to me. I am so sorry you and your H had to go through that. Be kind to yourself, and I hope you find the support you need here.

AnnaInman

Thank you.

forevermyfenix

I'm so so sorry for your loss of your baby boy.

mustlovedogs63

Your story made me so sad. I am so so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you

meredithcarole

I am very sorry for the loss of your sweet boy. Welcome to the board.

There are various check-ins that you should feel free to join such as the TTA (trying to avoid), the Newbie Check-in, and various month boards. You can join either the month board for your edd or the month board where you had your loss or both. I am sorry you find yourself here, but we are a very supportive community. Again, welcome.

laswett

So sorry for your loss.

AnnaInman

meredithcarole said:

I am very sorry for the loss of your sweet boy. Welcome to the board.

There are various check-ins that you should feel free to join such as the TTA (trying to avoid), the Newbie Check-in, and various month boards. You can join either the month board for your edd or the month board where you had your loss or both. I am sorry you find yourself here, but we are a very supportive community. Again, welcome.

Thank you so much.

flyoffeve

I am so sorry for your loss. (Hugs)

welly01

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I hope you can find some comfort and healing in this group. 

lovemybellag

So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you.

peregrinefalconx

I'm so sorry to find you here. Please take care.

meredithcarole

AnnaInman said:

meredithcarole said:

I am very sorry for the loss of your sweet boy. Welcome to the board.

There are various check-ins that you should feel free to join such as the TTA (trying to avoid), the Newbie Check-in, and various month boards. You can join either the month board for your edd or the month board where you had your loss or both. I am sorry you find yourself here, but we are a very supportive community. Again, welcome.

Thank you so much.

I said "boards", I meant "threads."

tlc35

I am so sorry for your loss.  Welcome to the board.

AnnaInman

Thank you all.

negritosmami

Aww man..I am soo sorry for your loss!! We're all here to support so I hope you find the support and comfort you need here!! Many hugs to you!

Nikolie93

I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you find the support you want on the board, there are many wonderful women here. *hug*

Elliecat17

I'm so so sorry for your loss! Huge creepy internet ((hugs)). I hope that this board offers you the support that you are looking for!

nikiswimr

I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby boy.  That's a terrible thing to have to go through.  Welcome to the board.

FutureMrsWright2012

So sorry for your loss. It is a devastating process to go through. Hugs to you. 

rslh10

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. Welcome to the board. ((Hugs))

LizBlue

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I hope you find some comfort here. Sending lots of hugs your way.

ImJessesGirl

Oh wow, I am so so very sorry for all you've been through and your loss.

QCSouthernBelle

How very sad. Sending hugs your way- this is not easy and you are brave for sharing your story.

ellebelle2384

So sorry for your loss. (hugs)

breaker0506

That must have been so difficult for you, you are so brave. I am so sorry for your loss.

monicababayov1

im so very sorry for your loss. sending you lots of hugs sweety! take care of yourself and be kind to yourself. ♡♡♡♡♡

AnnaInman

Thank you all! ❤️

jjbmstinco

I am sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.

kyliehopeful

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm currently on the miscarriage loss board and the women there have been a life line for me. Maybe check them out as well. (Hugs)

rmpar29

I'm very sorry for your loss.  I hope that you find the comfort and support you are looking for here.  (((((HUGS)))))