So much for "let's just see what happens" aka: why you should temp

vh2014

So when DH and I decided to try again we decided we would just do LOTS of BDing and then see what happened.  Then we didn't need to worry about temping or tests because we'd hit O day regardless. It would be less stressful. Sounded good.... in theory.

The lots of BD is NOT a problem.  We've only missed a day or two and not in a row. (and its fun for us... but I get that doesn't work for everyone)  I figured I'd watch CM and  I generally feel when I ovulate so we (ok this one is all me) thought that wouldn't be an issue. I temped before and new I was on a pretty "clockwork" schedule.. but.... nope... let me be the loud voice that tells everyone why they should track and temp.

I am now a day "late" <-in quotes because without tracking there is no such thing as late.  BFN and wondering where the heck I am.  If I had temped I'd at least see the dip and could confirm ovulation... oh yeah... because I felt it on both sides and then I thought I felt something right at day 14 or so (again should have at least tracked this). Then a week later I had very minor spotting after some funny twinges so of course baby brain goes to implantation, which clearly it was NOT.  I even tested early and had a 2nd line show up on FRER and disappear 15-30 seconds later (still no idea on this but clearly it was a BFN).  Some other craziness I won't bore you with but needless to say anything but "clockwork" and "typical".

So now a month is gone and no idea where we are.  I downloaded FF and we will be temping next month, whenever it gets here.  The stress of not knowing where you are HAS to be worse than worrying about waking up and temping and OPKs.  

I know it's a long post, but I have 2 points:

1. I wanted to say THANK YOU all for talking about temping so much and helping me to see all of the benefits just by lurking on those threads. Those questions and answers are a big help even to those of us not participating.  Y'all are the very best! 
   
2. And to anyone new (or who got here through Dr. Google) run don't walk to your nearest drug store and get the BBT themometer.  I am your example of why your doc telling you to just do lots of BDing and come back in 6 months isn't so great. Learn from my mistake! 
   

kindershlitz

Good luck with this upcoming month! Knowledge is power so getting temps will help! 

tmorash

I do think that while the temping hasn't exactly dampened my crazy, it has at least given it a focus. I think I'd rather be crazy with that knowledge than crazy and untethered without it. I think.

vh2014

@kindershlitz thanks!  @tmorash that's all I can hope for... because getting rid of crazy hasn't happened for 41 years  I can't expect a little thermometer to take care of it now. LOL. 

wannabmama23

@tmorash‌ that's exactly what I think of temping. At first I was just going along, figured I'd BD and eventually get pg, but then I realized being crazy and not knowing what is going on it way worse...I love the way you phrased it...focusing the crazy, ha!

tlc35

Since I had EWCM for almost 2 weeks and O'd on CD 28 (confirmed by an u/s today) I would have been going crazy waiting for AF with BFN's this cycle.
Side note, the doc was pretty skeptical when I told him I O'd yesterday (based on my temps) and I loved being proven right.

vh2014

Thermometer purchased and by the bed for tomorrow morning. Yay! @tlc35 that is awesome.

lcwed

Good luck with the temping.  Hopefully your CD 1 isn't too far off so you can get started.

gscoville

Just to comment on the second line you thought you saw for 15-20 seconds - I'd advise not watching the test develop, I started out doing this but every so often I'd actually see the dye kind of show up where the second line would be, sit there for a while, then disappear. I've heard this scenario confirmed on these boards way too often to count. It's actually a result of the dye going over the test line on its way to the control line, sometimes it shows briefly as a second line and can't be trusted, all it does is fuel line-eye craziness. I learned to not watch the test and wait for the time indicated by the instructions to actually read the results accurately.

vh2014

@gscoville‌ good advice. I had never seen anything like it so I Googled it. .it said it could be a BFN or it could be a BFP which made me laugh. I assumed BFN and confirmed a few days later. It did shut the crazy down for a bit though.

Nikolie93

I am scared the temping will drive my crazy to full capacity. I always thought it would make me obssess even more but it seems like I may go down the temping road!

vh2014

@Nikolie93‌ that was our logic, which is why I posted this. First really weird cycle and you'll wish you had been doing it all along... or at least I did. Felt good to start this morning... like @tmorash‌ said, still crazy but focused crazy. Lol

Nikolie93

I can use some focused crazy haha

Really though, thanks for posting this up!