Drying Up Milk...

joywithsugar

Edited for less drama and hopefully just support. Any advice/links/insight for trying to get your milk to dry up? I am two days in and super uncomfortable. I was just wondering if it continues to be this uncomfortable or gets increasingly better each day.

Thanks for your support. 

rainbowdashh

It never gets better. You should definitely not stop nursing.


Is that what you thought people were going to say? We may be salty but we're not jerks.

flerlgirl

What's with the 'tude, bro?

JmeJoLee83

baby center?

joywithsugar

Ouch. Exactly what I thought I might find. Geez. I was looking for advice and I will definitely go to the thread that was listed. I guess there isn't much reason to be back if I can't really feel supported or understood. I just know breastfeeding is a hot button topic and didn't want to feel bad about stopping as there is always at least one in a crowd to ruin any support being given.  

Instead of this post making me feel better I instead feel bummed out and uncomfortable. Hoping I find some reasons on the other post given by Meg and Miss Renee. 

Sorry I hadn't been very active. I hadn't been needing too much support or advice since I delivered. So disappointed. 

MrsAy

How about coming to support others and get to know them? That's how this community was built, please don't come around expecting support and making assumptions about any of us judging a mom for doing what she feels is better for she and her baby.

shellbell813

1. It took me 3 weeks (yep) to wean.
2. I feel like this is Baby Center trying to provoke us with what they (wrongly) think is a controversial topic.
3. I just don't get when people who have obviously not spent any time looking around come on here and want to have a chummy conversation. It's weird yo.

joywithsugar

Oh my gosh. I am just a mom who hasn't had much time to poke around. I don't know how to run this site very well because honestly I find it confusing and just thought I could come on here looking for some anonymous support because I figured at least one other mom might be able to relate and help me out. I can't believe this dumb thread started such drama and is making me feel worse than I started with. If I knew how to delete it I surely would and never return to this site filled with rude people. Feel free to detail how to delete this thread or mods feel free to delete so that I can return to being "new here" and not relating to anybody. That seemed much better.

puttyeast

You think this is drama? This is not drama.

I'm sorry you didn't get the support you were looking for because this is a super supportive group of ladies here. As PP mentioned, telling people what to say/do in response never works on public message boards.

JmeJoLee83

And you picked June '14 randomly to ask questions and gain support?

There is a breastfeeding board on here if you don't get the answers you're looking for.

joywithsugar

I didn't really pick June 14 randomly as I just had a baby in JUNE 2014. Funny how that works. I used to visit these boards before I had my baby but never felt like I had much to add to conversations so I just lurked. 

I haven't been able to find the breastfeeding board but regardless figured with the timing of only having babies a few months ago more moms could possibly relate. 

p.s. I am amazed at the immaturity of some people that post. Even more amazing… they are mods. Wow. 

katekat8721

You know what's awesome about this board? If you go "oh man, sorry guys didn't mean to be a douche" then people would be like "eh ok" and let it go.

joywithsugar

I regret this thread and apologize for how wrong my seeking for advice went. I changed my initial question so please leave the thread at that unless a new person comes along with new info for me. Thanks amber for the link. Very helpful and more what I was originally looking for. Also I meant anonymous as in on a group filled with women who relate and have stuff in common rather than just post the question on my Facebook. Hope that makes sense...

rainbowdashh

I love when they jump to "mod delete".

Your first post came across badly. It didn't make anyone want to come in with advice. And if you've really lurked like you say you have, you would know that this is very tame.

shellbell813

joywithsugar said:

Edited for less drama and hopefully just support. Any advice/links/insight for trying to get your milk to dry up? I am two days in and super uncomfortable. I was just wondering if it continues to be this uncomfortable or gets increasingly better each day.

Thanks for your support. 

Probably the passive aggressive first line doesn't really help to remove all the drama.. but whatever.

To answer you questions and provide support: for me it took FOR EV ER to feel better. I hurt for 3 weeks. The only thing that helped was expressing some in the shower 2 or 3 times a day. I'm sorry you are hurting. It does end eventually though.

Read247

Don't come on this board demanding sympathy, tell us how to respond to you and then insult our mods. You've gotten some good advice on this thread as well as a helpful link.

Not one person has said anything negative about your decision to stop breastfeeding. It's your attitude that has everybody irritated.

flerlgirl

Dude. No one would ever judge you for stopping BFing here. If someone did we would kick their tails. But you didn't give us the chance to demonstrate that to you with your OP. I sincerely wish you the best going forward.

flerlgirl

PS I am VERY mature, thankyouverymuch. Except I do laugh when my son toots.

curlylocks3

It might be different since I never breastfed but everything was fully resolved within 10 days. Days 4-7 were the worst. Supportive bra, Motrin, cabbage leaves and ice packs all helped.


And for my unsolicited advice:
Yes people will judge you for stopping breastfeeding. The board as a whole has taken a stand of not tolerating it but that doesn't mean you won't hear little comments. It's not been that long since a regular poster said she didn't understand not breastfeeding. Yes, it was addressed- but you will still hear it.
This is only the first of many times you will likely do somethig different from your social circle. Own your parenting decisions and repeat after me: "I am doing what is best for my family".

clwheel

ugabamafans said:

flerlgirl said:

PS I am VERY mature, thankyouverymuch. Except I do laugh when my son toots.

Because farts are funny @flerlgirl.  That's not immature.  That's just a fact.

As my husband says... farts will always be funny no matter how old you are. Although I find kid farts funnier than adult farts

flerlgirl

CLWheel said:

ugabamafans said:

flerlgirl said:

PS I am VERY mature, thankyouverymuch. Except I do laugh when my son toots.

Because farts are funny @flerlgirl.  That's not immature.  That's just a fact.

As my husband says... farts will always be funny no matter how old you are. Although I find kid farts funnier than adult farts

It's funniest when DS gets scared of his own toots and jumps. That is my favorite.

FAWKES81

Motherhood has really mellowed us out.  We are not our usual snarky salty catfish ho selves.  I wish I was a better giffer I'd insert an image of a unicorn farting glitter.  That's what we've all become when we digress to laughing about farts instead of giving snark.

FTR, I don't really have a problem with this and it makes the whole baby center thing that much funnier to me.

 

otter1103

@FAWKES81, only because I wanted to search for that GIF

JmeJoLee83

We need a troll thread like July 14

MrsCase1

I'm bacccccccccccck!

1. WTF is up with this post?

2. If I'm going to actually respond, my suggestions are Sudafed or peppermint essential oil.

curlylocks3

Eh I'm willing to give people the benefit of the doubt when it comes to something like this. Judging moms for not breastfeeding is pretty prevalent and can get fairly nasty. I don't agree with telling people how to post or her attitude in her original posting but I certainly understand wanting to head off having that judgement directed at you.

elsa1688

curlylocks3 said:

Eh I'm willing to give people the benefit of the doubt when it comes to something like this. Judging moms for not breastfeeding is pretty prevalent and can get fairly nasty. I don't agree with telling people how to post or her attitude in her original posting but I certainly understand wanting to head off having that judgement directed at you.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that kind of judgement, whether in real life or on the boards. This shit* is hard and you should totally do whatever is right for you and your family.

*parenting in general