Long time lurker looking for support. DH and I have an almost 4 year old daughter, I'm 37 he's almost 41. I have always seen us having at least 2 kids, probably not more, due to age. Recently, we've had discussions about trying for a second, and he is adamant that he does not want another. He gives a lot of reasons that to my mind are BS-the biggest one he uses is finance (I make a six figure salary and we can definitely support another child). I am just very confused and hurt because when we got married he wanted many, many kids, and I was actually the limiter! I don't really feel that I have time to wait-due to a variety of issues, I don't feel particularly comfortable with being "advanced maternal age." Based on our discussions over the past week, we will not be having a second and it breaks my heart. Any advice?