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LGBT Parenting
Jazibel
member
Parenting Roster:
(Please let me know if you would like to be added)
@2brides – G & C born 5/18/06, other Mom is L
@Themommymonster – C (DS) born 2/18/09
@Mystjava – Little Bear (LB) born 3/31/10, other Mummum is Shawn
@winstan1 – J (DS) born 9/10 (currently 3.5 years old)
@Trisholio and @trisholiosboi – Proud foster parents to M born 2/6/12 and K born 8/22/13; baby Adalyn born 8/29/14
@jazibel – Kaden born 7/13/12 and Owen born 5/2/14, other parent (Aya) is EV
@newmompeanut – N (DD) born 2/12/13, other Momma is B
@CageyMack – W born 3/16/13
@JGY – Gabe born 3/24/13, other Mama is S.
@Stringy813 – M born May 2013
@Clairmeij – Alarico born 6/28/13, other mama is V
@Wallace323 – J and L born 8/8/13, surviving triplets born at 31 weeks
@Jrtmom – Henry born 8/15/13, other mama is L
@ATXmommas – Sebastian (“Ash”) born 11/21/13, other Momma is Z
@mwagner25 – Oliver born 11/27/13, other parent is L
@herbabymama – C (DD) born 12/10/13, other Mama is K
@Sarahtrpt – C born February 2014
@AmandaG47 – Twin girls born 2/22/14, other Mommy is J
@Mamosey & @Karlamo – R born 2/25/14
@shameless370087 - Anthony and Sati, born 3/9/2014, Other mom is S
@Filmfanatic82 – Charley born 3/15/14
@2momsinCA - B & O born 5/27/14
@KH826 – Will born 6/4/14
@redrockmama – M born 6/19/14, other Mama is J
@ball.and.chain – B born 6/28/14
@Flygirl1228 – Twins 7/25/14
@KLeigh1 - S born 7/25/14
@shelly2314 - Elise and Olivia, born 8/19/14, wife is M
@2MamazInSeattle - S born 8/21/14
@rkbo - Amelia born 9/22/14
Parenting Check-In (10/20)
Jazibel
member
Good Morning Everyone!
How was your weekend? Any new successes, challenges or milestones to report?
QOTD: What "career" do you think your kid(s) is destined for (based on their current interests and characteristics)?
Parenting Roster:
(Please let me know if you would like to be added)
@2brides – G & C born 5/18/06, other Mom is L
@Themommymonster – C (DS) born 2/18/09
@Mystjava – Little Bear (LB) born 3/31/10, other Mummum is Shawn
@winstan1 – J (DS) born 9/10 (currently 3.5 years old)
@Trisholio and @trisholiosboi – Proud foster parents to M born 2/6/12 and K born 8/22/13; baby Adalyn born 8/29/14
@jazibel – Kaden born 7/13/12 and Owen born 5/2/14, other parent (Aya) is EV
@newmompeanut – N (DD) born 2/12/13, other Momma is B
@CageyMack – W born 3/16/13
@JGY – Gabe born 3/24/13, other Mama is S.
@Stringy813 – M born May 2013
@Clairmeij – Alarico born 6/28/13, other mama is V
@Wallace323 – J and L born 8/8/13, surviving triplets born at 31 weeks
@Jrtmom – Henry born 8/15/13, other mama is L
@ATXmommas – Sebastian (“Ash”) born 11/21/13, other Momma is Z
@mwagner25 – Oliver born 11/27/13, other parent is L
@herbabymama – C (DD) born 12/10/13, other Mama is K
@Sarahtrpt – C born February 2014
@AmandaG47 – Twin girls born 2/22/14, other Mommy is J
@Mamosey & @Karlamo – R born 2/25/14
@shameless370087 - Anthony and Sati, born 3/9/2014, Other mom is S
@Filmfanatic82 – Charley born 3/15/14
@2momsinCA - B & O born 5/27/14
@KH826 – Will born 6/4/14
@redrockmama – M born 6/19/14, other Mama is J
@ball.and.chain – B born 6/28/14
@Flygirl1228 – Twins 7/25/14
@KLeigh1 - S born 7/25/14
@shelly2314 - Elise and Olivia, born 8/19/14, wife is M
@2MamazInSeattle - S born 8/21/14
@rkbo - Amelia born 9/22/14
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Re: Parenting Check-In (10/20)
First, we had such a lovely weekend with our guy. We think he was teething molars last week, which made for really terrible sleep Tu-Th. But as I mentioned in my Saturday post, he slept amazingly well Friday night. We ended up running errands Saturday morning before we went to a bridal shower in the afternoon, where he was passed around like a hot potato. People complimented him on what a good-natured boy he was and he charmed everyone.
Yesterday we started off our day with a family run (I ran 5 miles - woot! woot!) and then we let Ash play in the splash pads for a bit. After we changed his diaper, we had some diaper time in the grass. He took a good nap on the way home and then I took him to the grocery with me so that Z could bathe Bama. He was an angel in the grocery. Overall, just a good, fun weekend. Pics below.
I've noticed that over the past couple weekends, he is only nursing twice (as opposed to three times) between his first nursing of the day and his pre-dinner time nursing. I also got the green light from the pediatrician last week to start introducing plant-based milk to him. The pediatrician recommended soy milk rather than almond or other types of milk due to the higher protein content. I'm really not worried about his protein intake because he eats lots of legumes nod other sources of protein, but we're going ahead and starting with soy. I gave him some plain, unsweetened soy milk in a cup this weekend and he loved it. I'm sending bottles with 2oz BM + 1oz soy to daycare. We'll eventually move to 50/50, then 30/70.
I'm also thinking I'm going to move to a twice a day pumping routine this week. I've read that some people first make each of their pumping sessions shorter, but I think since he is only nursing twice during work hours on the weekend, I'll be fine with pumping twice. Fingers crossed!
As if I didn't have enough reasons to want to be done pumping, there's this: Z packs my huge water jug in the same bag as my pump stuff (cooler, parts, and pumping bra - I leave the actual pump at the office). I guess the jug wasn't completely closed because the ice water leaked all over my pumping bra last Friday. Not having any other viable options, I had to put on an ice cold bra on to pump. Terrible. And then today, I realize I forgot to wash/dry it over the weekend, so it sat folded up in my bag all weekend and is still wet and smells like mildew. #-o
11 months stats: He weighed 20lbs when we took him in for flu shot at 10 months, so he's probably 21-ish pounds now. Can't remember length. He's wearing mostly 12 month clothing, but can still wear 9 month pants. We put some 18 month shirts on him already because I didn't want to buy long sleeve 12 month shirts. He can pull them off even though they are a little big.
He's taking about 3-4 steps at a time, but not really walking yet. He says "mama," but I'm not really sure that he knows what it means. No other recognizable words. He still won't sit through story time most evenings. He would rather eat or bang the book on something. His favorite to do still is make loud noises by banging things together.
When he's not teething, he's just a sweet, happy boy with the sweetest grin and most delicious laugh I've ever heard. The other day I was rocking him to sleep and I was reminded of that book, "Love You Forever," which I've always found a little creepy. But, in that moment, I just completely savored having my sleeping boy in my arms. It was one of those moments I felt like my heart was about to burst from my love and affection for him.
QOTW: Drummer. He loves to bang things together!
Resurfacing from being away for a few weeks.
**Warning, the following post may make your eyes glaze over and head spin****
So I'll start chronologicaly and throw in some good stuff to make this less debbie downer.
Two weeks ago we went to SF and had an AMAZING time! R did fantastic on the 6+hour plane ride. There were no tears both ways. This shocked the hell out of me since this was the part I was fearing the most. While we were there we toured the city and even made it to Napa for the day. R has definately inherrited our love of travel. So far we've been to ME, Indy, and Cali. Next up is TX for Xmas!
We got back last week Sunday and on Monday my in laws came to help out for the week. Mamosey had her wrist surgery on Tuesday. It went great and she came home at 8pm. At 8:15, R has a massive meltdown, at 9pm I started my period, and at 9:01pm I make the executive decision that no embbies are being put in my uterus this month!! The FET can wait till Nov.
The rest of the week was challenging for both of us; her with limted use of her arm and me dealing with a kid who refuses to sleep in his crib. Friday night R started with a bad, wet cough and at 2:30am he seemed like he was struggling to breathe so we called our Pedi who told us to go to the ER. So at 3am my post -op, one armed wife and me pack up R and head to the ER. He was dx with the croup and given steriods to help him breathe easier. He's doing much better now. We got home at 6am and went straight to bed only to be awoken at 8am by the landscapers cutting the grass. grrrr
Yesterday was a more normal day. We cooked and took R to a pumpkin patch. We weren't planning on going but we were feeling guilty by everyone else's fb and bump pic's of their LO's in a pumpkin patch. The thought of photoshopping him into one did cross my mind, lol. I'm glad we went, the cold air is good for babies with croup, helps them breathe better and we had fun too!
I'm lucky my wife and I are a good team and we're finding our new "normal" for the next 8 weeks while she's in a cast. My only wish is that we didn't buy wine by the case in Napa!
Phew! Told you it was winded post!
QOTD: G - probably a game designer for video games like Minecraft or Terreria. C - Basketball player (poor short kid doesn't have a chance) or football announcer/analyzer/etc. He loves football and knows the player stats, the teams histories, the strategies, etc.
@ ATXmommas, he is looking more like a little boy and less like a baby! What a cutie with the water. High five for 5 miles!!!!
@2brides, Roller coasters scare me. My wife will have to take the kids on them because I'm too chicken. Though when we go to Dinsey I ride them.
@ jazibel, Yikes, you had a crazy weekend too! I'm going to be looking at you when it comes to juggling 2 kids:)
@jazibel - I am so sorry that your weekend was so rough! I am glad you are feeling better though. I hope your boys take it easy on you today!
@ATXmommas - So glad you seem to have had such a great weekend and that Ash is back to his love bug self after a few challenging days! Also, congrats on starting the pump weaning transition -- I know how much you love it! HAHA
@Karlamo - holy smokes! You have had a busy few weeks. I hope R is on the mend soon - I am sure your ER experience was scary. I also hope @Mamosey's wrist heals with records speed. That is great that R did so well traveling, though! Way to go, R!
Will is 4 months (19.5 weeks old).
So, Saturday was a good day, and Sunday was rough for us... on Saturday we did our normal weekend routine of lunch out (we ate outside this time b/c the weather was beautiful, and Will loved it), followed by the grocery store. We did some cleaning, Will had some awesome tummy time, we gave him a bath and had some family play time. All in all, it was a good day.
On Sunday, Will just struggled all day, and we don't really know why. We went out in the mid-morning to an outdoor flea/antique/craft market. It was REALLY cold! We had Will bundled, but he did not like the cold at all. Or maybe he didn't like being bundled. Either way, he wasn't happy. We took turns carrying him and snuggling him, but he was just quietly whining and looking sad, so we left after about an hour (we did get him really cute elephant book ends for his room though!)... he had a poop explosion in the car about 5 mins down the road, so we pulled over and changed him in the back of the car, then we headed home. He fought naptime big time and just didn't want to go to sleep. After lots of protesting and fussing, he finally slept on me in the glider for about an hour in the late afternoon. When he woke up, it was just bad news bears. He woke up crying and he literally NEVER does that. Even in the morning when he wakes up in his lounger he just jibber jabbers to himself until we go get him. Anyway, he cried and whined for most of the afternoon and evening. He would fall asleep for maybe 20 mins then wakeup crying. It was very much NOT the Will we are used to. We even took him temp b/c he just seemed so off to us. His temp was normal. We did give him teething tablets, wondering if it was teething related, but they didn't really have an impact. Then bedtime came, he happily ate his bottle and went to bed. I thought for sure he would be up in the night, but he wasn't. Slept for 10 hours and woke up smiling like usual. SO WEIRD. So now I am thinking that either A) It was just a total fluke and a fussy period without much explanation or
He was hungry and we were too dumb to get it and feed him the extra that he needed yesterday! Ugh! Maybe he was going through a growth spurt and just needed a little extra? Why didn't I offer him a bottle?!?! I feel really badly b/c he is such an amazingly happy baby 99% of the time, and it breaks my heart to think that we let him be starving, if that was the case. I don't know...
My wife has been texting me today and says that he is doing just fine, and having a normal, happy day today. I am really glad to hear that.
It is also a wonder week (week 19). So there's that.
THINGS WILL IS CURRENTLY LOVING:
*Pulling moms' hair; Feeling moms' faces (particularly our noses); Eating Momma's necklaces and bracelets; Sitting up on the floor in the boppy; Chewing on books; High pitched screeching; belly laughs; Chewing on his bath time Sophie during tub time; The kids station on Pandora!
THINGS WILL IS NOT CURRENTLY LOVING:
*Allowing Momma to scrub behind his ears in the tub; cold weather; his puppy barking!
Oh, and here is another random parenting thing that is currently bugging me... I am not sure why it is bugging me, but it is. So, when my wife is out and about with Will during the day, everyone just assumes that she carried him. Several times in the last week or so people have stopped her to tell her that Will looks just like her. I don't know why this is bugging me. Maybe for the same reason it always bugged me when people would say that my wife and I looked like sisters. I don't think we look alike. I just don't see it. I also think Will looks a whole lot like me. I dunno.... maybe people just see a baby with a mom and that is one of the things that they say. I think my wife kind of likes it actually. She just says thank you. I hate that this bugs me a bit. I think it has less to do with people thinking he looks like her and more to do with the fact that I feel like I am missing out on a lot while I am at work and Will and my wife have this special little world Mon-Fri during the day that I am not a part of. I don't know... I have more processing to do on this issue...
QOTW: Based on his current personality, I would say some kind of entertainer. He is truly a ham. He also is starting to know what gets a reaction out of us when he is being cute or funny and he does things repeatedly to get us to laugh. I know this sounds super crazy b/c he is only 4.5 months old, but he has so much personality, and it honestly feels like he uses it with intention. But, I'm probably just crazy
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********@KH826, ugh, people can be so dumb!! I've never met you IRL and let me say that Will is your twin!!! Your part as a working mom is just as important as being a SAHM. It's because of your sacrafice and hard work that allows for Will to get the things he needs/wants. I know it's not the funnest part of the partenting role, but I'm sure your wife is very grateful to you for her being able to stay at home. Your're doing a great job as a working mom! I agree this would make a good parenting thread.
We sort of have the same thing going on over here. I get more time with R than mamosey does. On the days that I'm home with him, I let her have time with him when she gets home and I do the cooking/cleaning. Usually about that time I'm ready for a break from him and she has her 1 on 1 time to reconnect after a long day.
As for the "he looks just like you", mamosey posted a pic of R on fb and a not so close friend commented on it saying that was the first pic of R that she could see a resemeblence of her in him. Poor girl had no idea we used my eggs even though we talked about it. She must be so confused when everyone says how much R and I look alike. :-/
@ATXmommas Ash is getting so big! Glad the soy went well and the pumping mishaps are so frustrating. I can't tell you how many times I have had to hand express for one reason or another.
Thijs is 4 months old as of yesterday, where does the time go? His 4 month check up is on Thursday so I don't know his stats yet, but he is getting soooo heavy. He is just starting to grow out of his 0-3 month clothes, time to go shopping.
Our weekend was ok. Friday was J's birthday. The nanny had Thijs make her a really cute card. Saturday we met her aunt and cousin at the mall for lunch and then went shopping for clothes for our photos today and got some other stuff as well. Thijs fell asleep while I was holding him for the first time ever! Yesterday was crappy. We were supposed to go for a birthday hike, but I had a migraine. I hate migraines, they ruin everything.
I'm feeling a little better today. Thijs and I went to the grocery store to get pumpkins for the photo shoot and he didn't cry in the car at all!!
He laughed a real laugh for the first time on Friday night. It was so cute, J missed it though. He hasn't really done it since. He loves reading books and being outside.
QOTW: because his favorite thing is to be outside in nature, I would say a park ranger, or a photographer for national geographic or something similar.
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********Yes! Absolutely this!
As much as I am not proud of this, I want credit for Will!
I don't want to take any credit away from my wife...but when people assume he is her's biologically, where does that leave me? What am I, the aunt? friend? babysitter? ... People don't see us and think "Oh, what a nice little lesbian family. Congrats to you two moms on a beautiful baby"... people think the baby belongs to the woman holding him and that "the other mom" is just somebody else...
I want my wife to get just as much "credit" and praise about Will as I do, but I don't want to be overlooked in the process. Unfortunately, when I think about it, it makes the jealous little creature inside of me want to say "Hey! I grew that baby for 10 months! I was in labor for 6 days with him! I pushed his almost 10 lb butt out, and he gets those dimples from ME, thank you!".... but that makes me a lesser version of myself. I don't like it. I also don't want my wife to know I feel this way, because it isn't fair to her. So I will just tell you fine peeps....
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********And based on my experience, people focus far less on biology and asking "who carried" as they get older. Of course our friends who've been around a long time know who carried the boys and a few newer friends that we've had that conversation with (typically related to infertility/infertility treatments), but this summer one of their friends said something about twins and her mother said, "When they were in Ms. L's (DP) tummy..." I just chuckled and kept quiet. :P
But that being said, don't feel badly for your feelings.
@Karlamo - what a busy few weeks! I'm glad the traveling went well. And I hope R recovers quickly. Your talk about photoshopping R into a pumpkin patch picture made me laugh! If I had any proficiency in the area, I might consider it for Ash! We keep intending to go, but haven't yet.
@2brides - sounds like a great weekend for both your boys! And, I think you have a very interesting point about people being less concerned with who carried the kids the older they get.
@KH826 - first off, Will is totally your mini-me. He could not look more like you. Second, I echo what @Jazibel said about this being a safe place. I think I might have mentioned before feeling jealous of Z at times. For different reasons, but jealously for any reason doesn't feel good. I think what makes jealousy less destructive is your ability to recognize it and process what it really means. You're doing that and we're hear to listen.
@redrockmama - glad you had a good weekend! Baby laughs are the BEST! How is the new nanny working out? Sounds like a good situation.
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********If we weren't grieving the loss of baby-to-be and my sweet cousin at the same time, it truly would have been perfect. But, we're feeling hopeful and grief is finding its place. (Now, if I could only change my damn signature, which is driving me crazy every time I see that little plum...)
QOTD: Luke loves, loves, loves music. From the time he was born, he would gravitate to the music. His favorite toys are his guitar, drums, and piano. His tempo is better than mine. Perhaps he'll be a rock star or a concert cellist:)
Ohhhh! I'm in!
Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect.
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle