OK to have a shower?

Christina80xoxo

My kids will be twelve years apart. My older is a girl, LO is a boy. I felt weird about having one, and everyone was shocked. They really want it. So I will have one. It's going to be more of a big co-Ed / party celebration for the baby rather than a traditional shower.
Honestly, in your situation I really wouldn't. That's just me though. I think the sip and see after baby comes is a great idea.

mightmommytobe

I would personally say you should have a diapers and wipes shower. As far as an actual babyshower, i wouldnt.

janda426

mightmommytobe said:

I would personally say you should have a diapers and wipes shower. As far as an actual babyshower, i wouldnt.

No. Telling people what to bring is tacky. If I'm spending my money on a gift I'll be picking what I want, not what someone told me to buy.

StephUng

Whatever. Your first kid is 6, who would expect you to have baby stuff that was still good? My first will be two, and my family wants to get together for a shower for my second. So, I'm game. I mean, if you follow generally tactful practices that show you're grateful, what's the big deal?

Skrittens

@janda426‌ - wish I was joking. Also - she allocates my "portion" of family gifts. One year we bought my father a $100 fire pit. My "share" was $79. No idea how she came up with that. Nope. I gave 1/3rd.

transplantedhawkeye

I just saw a sign at work yesterday for a fellow nurse's sprinkle.  It made me cringe.  She is due 4 months ahead of me with her second son, about 3 years apart.

I'm okay with being an excuse to get off the unit for a while and an excuse to eat cake, but please don't get me anything.  I'm dreading the unit secretaries trying to throw me a sprinkle.

kellbell1982

StephUng said:

Whatever. Your first kid is 6, who would expect you to have baby stuff that was still good? My first will be two, and my family wants to get together for a shower for my second. So, I'm game. I mean, if you follow generally tactful practices that show you're grateful, what's the big deal?

My daughter is ten, this is mine and my husbands first together and I still don't want a shower. Do I have baby stuff left over? No I don't but I also am a responsible ADULT who chose to get pregnant and therefore whatever I need for MY child will be furnished by me! I hate the entitlement of this generation. I can't believe what another poster said about new technology! Wtf!!! Babies don't NEED any of that crap. I'm going to accept any hand me downs that are offered and the rest will be handled by myself and my spouse.

janda426

StephUng said:

Whatever. Your first kid is 6, who would expect you to have baby stuff that was still good? My first will be two, and my family wants to get together for a shower for my second. So, I'm game. I mean, if you follow generally tactful practices that show you're grateful, what's the big deal?

Um, not everyone else's problem if she didn't save the shit they all bought her the first time. Not their responsibility to finance her new spawn.

Whitfry

My husband is 40 and we have a ton of his old baby clothes. Vintage 70's FTW! You would not believe some of the great stuff we found, like a little mini smoking jacket, a la Hugh Hefner. It's adorable. All because my MIL had a little foresight.

blinksmb

cwbandthenewbie said:

I'm not going to reiterate any of the common sense posted here about second showers EXCEPT to say, I also keep reading this thread title as if she's asking if she can take a shower @katydid2014‌. I really need for this thread to get pushed to page 2 so it can stop throwing me off.

Same. At first I came in here with caps lock on ready to scream WASH YOUR DAMN SELF, SICKO.

transplantedhawkeye

I'm glad I'm not the only one who wanted to initially respond with "Personal hygiene is for the best". 

crunchymamaof2

happymamax2 said:

@happymamax2‌ Does my love of troll-baiting override my disgust at the level of stressful drama we have suffered lately? This the question.

Yes let it override. Here, I'll give you some glitter

I finally showed my husband this gif. His eyes popped out of his head and asked me if he could like it.

Add me to the "I thought this was about showering" list. This was my face:

cinderella105

@hollmb‌ I laughed so loud reading your condoms comment hahahaha )

crunchymamaof2

Chunkymonkeylvr said:

Whatever. Your first kid is 6, who would expect you to have baby stuff that was still good? My first will be two, and my family wants to get together for a shower for my second. So, I'm game. I mean, if you follow generally tactful practices that show you're grateful, what's the big deal?

My DD was 9 when my DS was born and the only shower I had was with my work because they throw one for everything and everyone, not even asking just told me what day would it would be. I declined other showers, because I had a shower with my DD. It is no one's job but mine and my husband's to provide for our children.

@Chunkymonkeylvr‌ I will throw you a tacktackularly tacky perv shower. You can't say no.