facebook fail

ToriGirl2014 · October 2014

After making it 30 weeks with no mention of my pregnancy on FB (on purpose), my BIL's wedding photographer went ahead and tagged me in a million photos from their wedding with my belly in full view on FB.

I didn't know until many hours later when someone I hadn't seen in several years texted me to congratulate me. I went onto FB and removed the tags from my timeline one by one, but I'm afraid the cat's out of the bag here.

:-w

Feel free to share your stories of being unexpectedly "outed" by a third party.

taberbtb · October 2014

How shitty!! I am afraid of having the same thing happen to me, as I was in my sister wedding 3 weeks ago. I have never been on fb so much in my life, trolling for pics posted by anyone who was in attendance. Hopefully you got them untagged before many people saw!

ToriGirl2014 · October 2014

taberbtb said:

How shitty!! I am afraid of having the same thing happen to me, as I was in my sister wedding 3 weeks ago. I have never been on fb so much in my life, trolling for pics posted by anyone who was in attendance. Hopefully you got them untagged before many people saw!

Yeah, I about went off the deep end, mostly because I'm under a lot of stress work-wise right now and that was really NOT what I needed to find out on a Sunday afternoon while stuck at my desk. I'm sure it'll be NBD to me in a few days, but I'm emotional right now!! Haha. I am trying not to fret because there's nothing I can do to change it.

pblge · October 2014

Sorry that happened to you! Making it 30 weeks is impressive!

For readers who don't want this to happen, you can change your privacy settings such that tags need your approval. I've been really worried my mother is going to let the cat out of the bag, so I locked my FB page down. No one can post, comment, or tag without my approval.

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Mom2anAngel2 · October 2014

Sorry you were outed. That really stinks!

I never mention my pregnancies on FB. With DS the first pic to make it to FB was when he was 1 hour old. So many people were shocked. This pregnancy has one pic on FB, however, my face is not in the pic.

Eliz77 · October 2014

I was outed on FB when I was around 20 weeks as well-one of my students posted a picture of us posing following winning a class on her horse, and the horse was nuzzling my pockets. Someone wrote,"I think the horse is trying to show us something!" Like two people picked up on it and I didn't acknowledge. Then about a week later, my Uncle saw it and wrote something like,"YAY! I'm going to be a Great Uncle and Great Godfather!" More people commented on that.

stefani103 · October 2014

I have the opposite story. We did post an announcement. Lots of likes and comments.

A few weeks later, my mom was talking to my aunt, who claimed to not know I was preggo. I went back and sure enough, she liked AND commented on our post.

Sorry to those who tried to keep it off the inter webs

BookishMomma · October 2014

GrailSeeker14 said:
. We did IVF and my MIL was bugging us for beta results for a week before we'd even have betas drawn... we stopped responding to her because we told her a million times when we'd get betas drawn, but she still took it to FB and posted in big capital letters on my timeline "SO DID YOU GET YOUR PREGNANCY TEST RESULTS BACK YET?"

OMG. *face palm*

ToriGirl2014 · October 2014

GrailSeeker14 said:

DOH! That sucks - I bet the photographer was totally well-intentioned but didn't think through that you might not want to be tagged. I'm sorry that happened!

My dad and my MIL both sorta outed us on FB very early on - luckily I have some good spies who alerted me so I could delete the comment/post before too many saw it. We did IVF and my MIL was bugging us for beta results for a week before we'd even have betas drawn... we stopped responding to her because we told her a million times when we'd get betas drawn, but she still took it to FB and posted in big capital letters on my timeline "SO DID YOU GET YOUR PREGNANCY TEST RESULTS BACK YET?" Still several days before betas were drawn even. Ugh. Good thing I deleted it before too many saw...

My dad, it wasn't so obvious - it was after we got our BFP he responded to something about planning for a family get-together with a "It'll be so fun to introduce all the kids to their new cousin..." kind of comment. I deleted it too and I think no one saw it.

In my case, it's the generation of parents who don't really understand how social media works.

Haha WOW! That's some next level ridiculous.

The photog definitely wasn't aware that I wouldn't want to be tagged. It definitely wasn't malicious, but I do wish some thought had been put into it before posting.

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beemaya83 · October 2014

Hughhhhh that sucks!!!! 30 weeks is impressive as pp said. I personally have deleted my FB since DH and I started TTC. But yes, other friends tend to upload pics when we meet up. Right now definitely no one can tell, but I'm worry about later on. I'd be so pissed if someone would out me on social media. No one should have the right to out anyone unless it's the parents-to-be!!!!

Samuelismomma · October 2014

I was afraid this would happen so we outed ourselves at 14 weeks...made sure grandparents knew. My DH's family is in a different country and wanted it to come from us, not a accidentally tagged pic. Social media is a blessing and curse:( sorry you had them happen:(

asglover514 · October 2014

That sucks! As mentioned making it to 30 weeks is impressive keeping such a big secret. I was outed by the hospital. I'm still listed on my Dads insurance since my BF and I aren't married (for that exact reason, why give up free insurance?) Anyway I kept it a secret for a few weeks after initially finding out, had my betas drawn and scheduled my appointment. After I made my appointment my Dad got a call confirming it, which led to a text asking why I had an appointment with OB to which I played dumb. Of course a few weeks later when we went to dinner with my parents they confronted me and I told them, for the most part we kept it a secret from everyone except my step-mom outing us to my BF's mom one day. After that no one but family and work knew until I reached 12 weeks.

MoreThanSparrows08 · October 2014

I have not ever been outed on FB, but with my 1st and 2nd pregnancies, my mom outed us to my MIL and then to my Dad/Step-Mom.

With my first, I had some off-kilter cycles after getting off birth control, and so I wasn't worried when my period didn't come. Then I got sick, and couldn't move off the couch for 3 days, so I went to the doc. My grandmother went with me, so she and my mom were the first to know. The same day, before DH and I had a chance to tell ANYONE, my mother calls my mother-in-law and spills the beans. We were seeing MIL that evening at church and were planning on telling her face-to-face, but my mom ruined that. MIL was LIVID that she found out from my mom and not DH and I...

With my second, we had told all family except my Dad and Step-mom. We were waiting until we saw them in person to tell them. Again, my mother ruined our surprise by calling my dad the day before we were going to see them to tell them. My dad was very upset, as was I. I went off on my mom after that...

This time around, we told her last so that she wouldn't have the chance to spoil our news.