I have ds 2 1/2 . I never had a shower with him and didn't plan on having one with this pregnancy . I made the kids we will support them:) my H has Hispanic coworkers and some elderly ladies from our church that have approached my H about shower. He and my sister got together and planned a small one for about 30 people. The list is actually most of the women asking. I'm afraid I will be side eyed or gift grabby. Should i have said no? Do I go through with it and make sure my sister says no gifts necessary? The ladies know I have had 3 losses and they said they wanted to celebrate the successful pregnancy. I would of done sip and see....but sister has ordered a lot of things plus the church fellowship hall...what would you ladies do?
Re: Second shower(read before wanting to kill me!);)
A shower welcomes a woman to motherhood and you are already a mother. I would definitely side eye it. If I were you I would politely decline and bring the attention back to a meet the baby party.
I am very sorry for your previous losses.
ETA: 30 people is a small shower?