Friend's m/c.

NicoleWI

We were supposed to have a play date tomorrow with a friend and her son. I e-mailed her to check on it on Tuesday and she e-mailed back that they had to cancel, as she had just found out that day that she had a miscarriage! She is very private and DH and I have been wondering for years whether they were trying to have another baby or not--she never talks about anything TTC related, and they had a very difficult first pregnancy and delivery and were not sure whether or not they could have more kids. She said not to tell anyone about the m/c. I have no idea whether they just started trying again or have been trying for years. Not sure if they have had other losses. And here I am, pregnant again with #4. I sent a nice e-mail back saying how sorry I was. 

Do you think I should call her? Or do you think she just wants to not talk and I should just respect her privacy? It's so hard with her b/c she's so quiet about everything. I don't want to intrude, but nor do I want her to end up upset b/c I didn't call. Not sure what to do.

Cherryblossoms07

First off, I am so sorry about your friend. If it were me, I would make a small jesture letting her know that you are there for her and are there if she needs someone to talk to. Maybe send flowers with a note or a card. I am a quiet person, especially when I am dealing with something. Once I have had time to process the issue myself then I start opening up to my friends about it. So, that is what I would do.

trizzie

Send her a card and let her know you are there if she wants to talk. I didn't want to talk to anyone when I was going through my (four) miscarriages.

caybeh

She has an older kid, right? When we went through our mc, I had a friend offer to babysit DS, so that DH and I could have a date night. We really needed that time together. It was a week or so after it.