Am I being unreasonable? Mil issues...

SJSLA

DH and I live about 10 min from the MIL. She insists on coming over everyday to spend time with my LO who is 9 months old. I love the mil, she is beyond kind and generous, and is a mother to 6 kids! The problem that is arising is in the way she handles my daughter, I've told her numerous times to be more gentle and to allow her some solo play but nope, She smothers poor baby Her hour visits always end in hysterical tears and meltdowns. I'm always nearby to sooth LO down but I'm at a point where I'm beginning to resent her visits. I know mil is eager to form a bond my LO, should I just continue to have patience and let it be? What would you all do?

inluv4life2

Someone is making your baby have a hysterical meltdown everyday? What is she doing to upset her?

Nope, not ok. You need to show your child that her feelings matter from day one and either better supervise the visits and stop the smothering behavior or reschedule them to a time when Io is more receptive.

shellbell3845

Mil's are like allergic to floor play.

You have to be the boss and enforce what you want and what LO needs. And if mil treads all over that, I'd get your h involved to tell her that smothering LO isn't the way to create a bond and that LO needs freedom to explore, play, and learn. If mil participates in this, the bond will come naturally.

And mil over every day? I'd be making noise about that. But whatever works.

BB0214

EVERYDAY??!? You're nicer than I am.
Stand your ground. Your LO is telling you by the meltdowns that it's too much. If your LO could talk, she would say that. This is no different. She doesn't mean to be, but She's being disrespectful to your LO, which does not make for a good relationship.