So I was talking to birthmom tonight on the phone, and she kind of caught me off guard. She says "when it comes time for finalization, I want to be there".
I have made no decision, just seeking outside input at this point, although I do have an opinion.
I foresee this day as a day about our family, my husband and I, and more than likely our parents. I fully understand we would not have this family without her, however, I don't want her to think that day is about her. Sorry if I offend anyone saying that.
We are meeting with her monthly, so it's not like she's not seeing him regularly.
And at this point we've kept our family out of our adoption circle. It's strictly been us and birthmom and her family. I'm not even sure how it would be with our parents there and her there and them meeting for the first time on such a special day. I don't want there to be any weirdness that day whatsoever.
Any advice, experience, negative or positive comments.
Again, I don't mean to offend anyone, this is still new to us, and extremely emotional.