Crying because it's my "last" night alone with DH

golfingdarwinfish

Is this normal?  Did anyone else do this?  

I'm trying to be happy/excited, but all I want to do is cry!!! 

pnwlover12

Holy shit! Is your induction tomorrow?!

golfingdarwinfish

pnwlover12 said:

Holy shit! Is your induction tomorrow?!

@pnwlover12

No, but my mother arrives!  I get admitted Wed night for Thurs am induction.

Thank you for the reassurance, all!  I think that after what happened last time I never really believed we would make it this far, and now that we are ~72 hours from baby it's a bit overwhelming.

MuffinMom14

Dude. I feel you so hard. Wednesday will be difficult for me. This weekend was difficult, too.

Emerald27

>:D<

pnwlover12

golfingdarwinfish said:

pnwlover12 said:

Holy shit! Is your induction tomorrow?!

@pnwlover12

No, but my mother arrives!  I get admitted Wed night for Thurs am induction.

Thank you for the reassurance, all!  I think that after what happened last time I never really believed we would make it this far, and now that we are ~72 hours from baby it's a bit overwhelming.

So excited for you!

ashie0610

It's definitely bittersweet. You will do great though!

MollyC20

Di_126 said:

I think it's completely normal.  It's a huge change.  DH and I did this a little bit before DD, but I think my excitement and perhaps naivety made it easier to forget about the "just us" phase of life ending honestly.  I think it hit me a little afterwards.  Which made it better and worse, being that I had DD, and loved her immensely, but also felt a little regret as far as not having the forethought to take advantage of some of those moments as well.

This time around I am definitely having a harder time, in the same regard, but with DD.  Even DH has commented that I don't seem as excited this time around.  Which isn't necessarily true.  I am.  I am just coming to terms, and trying to cherish, my last few days/weeks of just DD and I at home.  It's bittersweet.  I really love the relationship we have currently and don't want to change it at all.  Although, I know I will fall in love just as deeply with DD2, and that will help a lot.  It's just extremely hard to feel that right now.  I wish I had some piece of advice to give.  I do understand the place you're at though, if that helps.  >:D<

I'm this way too. I feel it's harder this time around because I feel like it's our fault we'll be rocking DDs world soon, and feel guilty for taking time away from "our time" when baby gets here. I know it will be ok when he's here, the guilt is just hard!

jenndub

I definitely did that with baby #1. And then I cried with #2 because I'd be taking attention away from DD1. And I cried with #3 and #4. The change is scary and feels overwhelming before it actually happens. Then once the new kid shows up you're so happy to have them there. It feels weird to remember a time when you didn't have them.

Good luck!

trisharenee0316

I get it.  Hopefully you will have babysitters or relatives or other trusted people around so you can still have some occasional one on one time after your little one gets here.  It's different than pre-baby, but still lovely to have.  

But in the meantime, almost time for baby snuggles!  That's exciting!!

Nichole7041

It's definitely normal it hit me most the first week home w DS and after being in a hospital bed for 3 days and not being able to be near DH much.

Then I got home and when id finally cuddle up w DH my son would cry EVERY time! I started crying and my DH called MIL over so he could hold me for an hour and it was much better. This was crazy for me so this is totally normal what you're experiencing and you'll laugh about it later!

You'll get to the point where you can't imagine a time without LO in it.

BreandMikewedding

I started full out ugly crying the other day at target because my ds wanted me to carry him and as much as it hurt, I did it. My dh told me I was going to hurt myself and I told him that I wouldn't be able to hold my ds for awhile after my cs so I was going to hold him while I still can. I'm excited to have this lo but sad that some things will change. I think this is normal.

NavyFlyer

Totally normal :-). I would advise you to ignore any emotions you have between now and the induction because they are gonna be wacky for sure!

MrsSarahRenee

I had a few meltdowns in the last couple of months about being sad that my alone time with DH is ending. We have fun together and do spontaneous day trips. I know that is ending and it is really hard to let go even though we are so incredibly ready and happy for baby girl.
So I get it! I don't think it is weird at all. Hugs and good luck!

hippohat

We stood waiting at the elevator doors in the hospital while I sobbed, contracting the whole time. It's been much worse for me this time than for my first child, but I think it's completely normal. Hugs!

slsl509

Di_126 said:

This time around I am definitely having a harder time, in the same regard, but with DD.  Even DH has commented that I don't seem as excited this time around.  Which isn't necessarily true.  I am.  I am just coming to terms, and trying to cherish, my last few days/weeks of just DD and I at home.  It's bittersweet.  I really love the relationship we have currently and don't want to change it at all.  Although, I know I will fall in love just as deeply with DD2, and that will help a lot.  It's just extremely hard to feel that right now.  I wish I had some piece of advice to give.  I do understand the place you're at though, if that helps.  >:D<

I feel the same. I'm so much more worried about this than I was going from 0->1 (sorry DH). I feel like we have hit our stride with DD and our life and now it's all going to be turned completely upside down. I hope it's normal!

bennikki

Totally normal!  I felt the same way literally on the way to the hospital after my water broke.  I remember thinking, "omg, our lives are never going to be the same, I need another day, another week...I'm not ready for this."  

Now will DS2 around the corner, I find myself crying because it won't just be the three of us anymore.  

ohioloveyou

I feel the same way.  I've been snuggling up to my DH much more this week.  Unfortunately, he has an exam this week, so he's been having to study and I'm just left like "wah!  I'm lonely!"

lrobi13

I felt the same way. But I will say that I really do appreciate the moments we do have now when everything is handled and the baby is resting. We are still "us" but with joint focus.

Hang in there and like all the pp's have said, there are going to be all the feels so just hang on! You will be great and when that baby is born it will be so amazing!

slsl509

I will say, OP that I really and truly think my relationship with DH has only been enriched since having DD. We had a great relationship before and it's been great since - seeing him be a dad is just...amazing. So while it's really hard to imagine, you probably won't miss the old relationship as much as you think you will because of this new amazing family you'll have.

mcclan03

OP, I feel the same way. DH and I were on a walk last night and I started crying because I was sad about it being one of our last leisurely evening walks with just the two of us. Of course I'm so happy about this LO coming, but it's been just DH and me for so long that it's hard not to feel emotional about this huge change coming up.

On the one hand I feel so eager for the baby to be here, on the other I feel like, oh god, I need more time!

LaDyBostonRN

I just opened my computer and saw that I had started to write to you about this but then the kid started crying. So a really late but …

Oh, I totally understand - although I didn't even have time to do this being that I went early. I'm wishing you the best last night that provides you with tons of good memories with your DH.