Can I get some brutally honest opinions please? This is long and gunna sound like a lot of drama- please bear with me- but I'm wondering if this friendship is dead and I should let it go.
A few years ago before I became a parent my good friend Meg had a baby. I went to her baby shower and visited her baby after she was born.
When I became pregnant, all Meg did was send me a congratulations card. She never asked how things were going etc.
She confided in me a few months later that for about 18 months after the birth of her child she had severe post partum mental health issues that were now under control with medication. I told her I was here if she ever needed to talk. A few days later she texted me she was having some family issues and I responded via text "poor you. Lame drama just seems so attracted to you". She asked what I meant by that and I assured her I meant nothing bad.
So I didn't hear from her for months except for being mailed baby gifts. I then had her invited to my baby shower. When she received the invitation she emailed me and said she was surprised I wanted her there, that she immediately regretted telling me about her PPD and that it is not "lame drama". I responded that I couldn't believe that's what I was hearing from her about, pulled up text messages proving that I was referring to her family issues and not her PPD (it had been a few days after she mentioned having PPD that I made that comment) and that I had done nothing but support her and her family and that she should have told me she had an issue with what I said sooner. She apologized if she hurt my feelings over the misunderstanding but had felt I was referring to her life in general, and that included her mental health struggles.
Fast forward a month and she comes to my baby shower and brings another gift. She drove an hour and a half each way to come but only stayed an hour and a half before sneaking off without saying anything. When I texted her about it she said she had to get home to her child because her husband had to work and didn't want to make a scene.
I did not send her a thank you card for the gifts she mailed me while I was pregnant or for coming to my shower, but I did text her thanks.
I also did not personally tell her I had the baby, I did a general FB status update so she found out that way. She sent me a congratulations card and that was it. I have not heard from her otherwise, she has not offered to come and meet my baby or anything. She also deactivated her FB account.
My questions are: Did I do anything wrong in this? Was I being a bad friend at all or was she? Is this a friendship I should just let go of? Am I being unreasonable about anything here or is she?
I'd love all honest thoughts and opinions please and thank you- I can take it! Lol! Thanks so much everyone