AW: I need hugs, please I'm freaking out

buggirl72

mlal78 said:

PetraStonegirl said:

PinkCamino said:

Whatever, honestly I think it's time we have this discussion about platitudes. Just this week there was a comment made about it being promising that one of our new members gets pregnant quickly and apparently nobody but me was phased by it.

Let's have that conversation shall we? Because honestly, I'm so over the shit show that TTCAL has become.

WTF. I never saw it, or I damn sure would have said something.

ETA: In fact, I'm saying something.

I missed it too.

Same here.  Maybe after the ignorant person who spewed that shit is on this board for 6 months, 12 months, 18 months, 2 years, or more, they will realize that seeing someone get pregnant a month after coming here gives you the exact opposite of hope.

stephy1221

Hugs

PinkCamino

Thanks for all your support ladies. I was a mess last night and still pretty upset today. I just can't accept or understand why she would do this to me. She also lost a pregnancy so I suppose I imagined that she'd be more compassionate when the time came.

Dh spoke to his mother twice since last night. I tried to not listen in on his conversation and TBH I didn't even ask him for details because I just don't want to know what excuse she has for this. But, we don't live in the biggest house so I couldn't help but overhear certain parts of the conversation and I've gathered that both MIL and SIL feel that my reaction is a result of my jealousy for not getting pregnant first. They just couldn't be more wrong. The whole thing is so incredibly sad.

PinkCamino

wickedsugar said:

I swear, I want to come there & drop kick them both (((Hugs))

I can make meeting them a very real reality for you.

PinkCamino

cavewmn said:

I know how it is to think someone will be your biggest supporter and then the reality is they are more like an enemy in this. I still want to punch my 3rd SIL in the face repeatedly....

They don't want to get it and choose not to get it. Because everything is about them....

this is exactly it.

ImJessesGirl

You are definitely not a horrible person!!! I didn't go to a baby shower today because I just didn't have it in me. I got an email this week for my 24th week of pregnancy that isn't... and then today I got a free diaper sample in the mail from Huggies that had a really sentimental caption on it, and I cried. I just couldn't take going to a baby shower. I feel really shitty for not going because the mother lost twins in the 23rd week of pregnancy a year ago. I really am happy for her, but I just couldn't find happiness today for someone else getting to have a baby right now.

I'll be ok tomorrow, and I hope you will too! So many hugs, friend!

laswett

No, no, no, you are not horrible. As a woman who went through a loss herself. your SIL should understand. It's hard to see anyone expecting, let alone a family member. You are perfectly normal and healthy!

LizBlue

Sending big ((hugs)). You are NOT a horrible person.

jms627

Little bit late to the game, but really, really sorry you're dealing with that @pinkcamino.  Can't add anything that hasn't already been said except hugs to you.

imakeeff0rts

I'm so, so sorry that your SIL acted in such a twatly (I'm making thus a word if it's not already) way.

I'm also very sorry that someone decided that your post was the appropriate platform to say some absurd things.
((Hugs)).

MSU_Girl1202

PC, I'm so sorry about how insensitive your SIL is.I had a very similar thing happen with my SIL right after my loss in March (the same one that had her baby 2 days after my loss last week...). I feel like, even though they should, people just don't think sometimes or put anyone's situations into consideration before flaunting their joy.
Sending ((hugs)) your way.

jjbmstinco

Your IL make me ragy!  This just shows that they don't get it and they aren't really making it a point to try to get it.  

I am really sorry that you have to deal with this.  

MrsG80inTN

Oh pink I'm so sorry. She should have told you In a more respectful way. Especially if you were so respectful after her loss. Hugs

beckynsean11

Siggy warning

I'm so sorry your SIL &, apparently, MIL, are such enormous snatches. You are not a horrible person, any one of us would have reacted similarly. Big hugs to you & @wickedsugar & everyone else hurt by snatchtastic comments in this thread & other threads over the last few days. Thinking of you all

Tablefor5

So sorry Pink. (((HUGS)))

PinkCamino

Thanks for your continued support ladies.
:x

rmpar29

So many ((((HUGS))) Pink!  I'm sorry that I'm just seeing this, but know that I don't think you are horrible at all!  She certainly didn't take into account how this would make you feel and you shouldn't feel bad for reacting the way you did.  I wish I could find the words to make this easier for you, but we both know that they don't exist.  Just allow yourself to feel those emotions and work through them as you can.  Be kind to yourself and I hope that you can find some peace.