I am so fortunate to be having a shower thrown for me by a good friend! Our baby, first of course, is due in March and the shower will be in January. I've learned a lot from reading this board. Previously, I would have worried that I should be helping, or offering to pay for stuff in order to be a good guest of honor. Honestly, I'm relieved to stay out of it as long as doing so doesn't cause her any headaches. She has asked for my input in planning - I have tried to make sure she knows I'm thankful and open to whatever works for her, and give her inexpensive/easy suggestions when she's asked me.
She did want me to give her a list of guests and contact information. I was wondering if there is any etiquette surrounding inviting your employers or supervisors to a shower? I've seen it discussed where it can be awkward to invite subordinates, but I wasn't sure about the other way around. The guest list will not be huge (15-20 people at the most), but I am fairly close to both of the ladies in question:
#1 - My teaching supervisor - knows about DH's and my fertility struggles and we've confided in each other quite a bit over the last few years. We tend to get lunch and stuff like that occasionally. She will know a couple of the other guests, including the host.
#2 - the mom of the family I babysit for - I also consider her a good friend and she has been tremendously supportive during this pregnancy. She will not know the other guests but she has talked about wanting to meet more friends - she is newish to the area and is very busy as a working mom.
Another point about woman #2, unrelated to the fact that she is my employer, is that she has been tremendously generous with giving us stuff (clothes and some pretty big items), and I would certainly not want her to think that what she's already giving us isn't enough.