Confessions

SummerLove21

Starting early.

DH is home and has had DS for most of the day while also working. I had a dentist appointment, a OB appointment, and practice (which I was late to because of OB appointment).  Now DH is out tutoring and where I am supposed to be making dinner and spending some time with my kid, I am lurking on the internet because my kid is happy and entertaining himself and I can.

And a small rant to add: apparently the NP I saw early in my pregnancy (the one I was less-than-thrilled with) forgot to put in the order for my antibody screening when I did the whole prenatal blood panel. So now I have to go back for another blood test just for that. Also, they wanted to retest me today to make sure my UTI was gone, but they didn't tell me that until after I had done the regular pee, so I have to go to the lab and do that too. Why can't they just remember when I come in? Why are they making me deal with all these little inconveniences??? (In the grand scheme, it's not so bad...but it is annoying.)

tamarar5

Confession. I printed off Carters coupons and put them in the diaper bag. When I go to the city with my mom on Saturday, I'm going to mention wanting to stop and look for the Sherpa pram I want for Amelia, knowing full well she can't resist spending money on cute baby clothes. She'll get E the long sleeved onsies he needs and I won't have to spend the money.

Completely shameful, right? I'm bringing discount coupons at least!

kleigh926

I've been fantasizing all week about how easy my life would be if I only had a newborn. I was an emotional mess when DD was born and totally didn't enjoy the newborn stage like I could have... I wish I could just lay around, sleeping, watching TV, and reading. With a toddler, I barely even have time to eat much less get any decent rest. I love my kids more than anything, but this kinda sucks. I'm tired.

On Saturday morning I'm going in to work with DH to help him organize his classroom and get it ready for open house. My IL's are watching DD and we're planning on taking DS with us. I keep hoping they'll offer to watch him too so we can go alone. I could use a few kid-free hours.

I sound like an awesome mom don't I. Ha.

ericalee27

@kleigh926 - No worries, you ARE an awesome mom!  I pretty much thought exactly what you did every day for a long time after DS2 was born, and I even had DS1 going to daycare.  It is hard work what you are doing!  You'll get through it though; hang in there.  Hugs.

kelly321

DC2London said:

I casually asked MIL if SIL had registered yet for her baby shower.  MIL practically choked herself making it QUITE clear that SIL had gotten advice from a friend and DIDN'T NEED MY HELP.

Ok.  I wasn't.....offering?

But I would have been more than happy to help.

I just looked over her registry and it's a mess.  Granted, different mothers and babies need/prefer different things and what worked for me wouldn't necessarily work for them, but I'm secretly laughing to myself bc she made every classic FTM registry mistake and I could have helped.....but my help was clearly not wanted.

Share! I'm not really in on the registry stuff since there are no showers here, so I want details on the common mistakes so I can shake my head and cluck

kelly321

DH is planning on going to a friend's birthday party next weekend. He'll be gone from after lunch on Saturday until late in the evening. No big deal, right?
Well, I'm feeling really resentful because he goes on occasional (2-3x / year) mountain tours with friends, maybe once a year goes to a theme park with his youngest brother, and now has this. It is utterly ridiculous and I know it because he is otherwise here and involved so much and these activities do not come up that often. I think it's more that I don't really have anything I can do that's similar without feeling extremely guilty (Internal monologue: "what? Go visit a friend for a weekend in another town and leave the girls with DH?? How could I do that? Poor DH!"). I should, though. He has the girls a lot, but it's always for me working, and I have them when he's working, too. I want a fun long outing, dang it.

tamarar5

@DC2London‌ My IRL friend asked me to go over her registry and tell her what she did and didn't need.

And then she said she wasn't inviting me to the shower.

She has a totally legit reason (it's going to be held across the state, in the evening, so I'd either have to take a motel and the kids, or drive back home with all the kids in the middle of the night) so she genuinely was thinking of what was best for me, but I would have liked to be invited. I want too celebrate with her too!

mishka29

@kelly321‌ you should do it bc you also deserve a break!

@DC2London‌ I've been registry stalking bc I have so many friends that are KU. It's fun! What kind of stuff is she registering for? And super rude mil comment.

ericalee27

DC2London said:

I just looked over her registry and it's a mess.  Granted, different mothers and babies need/prefer different things and what worked for me wouldn't necessarily work for them, but I'm secretly laughing to myself bc she made every classic FTM registry mistake and I could have helped.....but my help was clearly not wanted.

Haha, I'm totally a registry judgy mcjudgerson.  I admit it

SummerLove21

I got another.

Last night the counselor hit on an issue I've been actively trying to work out with DH for years.  When he argued it was "biological" (and therefore impossible to change) to every. single. suggestion she gave him, she looked him straight in the eye and said "You are making your wife miserable, and I don't give up." Message: you are going to find a solution, buddy.   

I was having a happy party in my head the whole freakin time.

Tulips114

kleigh926 said:

I've been fantasizing all week about how easy my life would be if I only had a newborn. I was an emotional mess when DD was born and totally didn't enjoy the newborn stage like I could have... I wish I could just lay around, sleeping, watching TV, and reading. 

@kleigh926 I think every mom comes to this realization after #2 is born!

tamarar5

DC2London said:

Like 35 pairs of socks, tons of little outfits, a walker but no bouncer or exersaucer.  10 of one kind of pacifier, a travel system.  A nursing cover.  

Or my friend — no crib sheets or changing pad, but THREE stationary exersaucers, a walker, and TWO swings! (Granted, that was bru telling her she *needed* this stuff.)

jesuisfatiguee

DC2London said:

Like 35 pairs of socks, tons of little outfits, a walker but no bouncer or exersaucer.  10 of one kind of pacifier, a travel system.  A nursing cover.  

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jesuisfatiguee

I guess I am a little smug about others' registries, too lol

jesuisfatiguee

I went on a date last night. Things escalated quickly. In the light of day, I'm not totally sure if he's dateable, even though I wasn't approaching the date as just a casual hookup. My heart is still hung up on Stupid Dad, and that's complicating things on my end. 

kelly321

Tulips114 said:

kleigh926 said:

I've been fantasizing all week about how easy my life would be if I only had a newborn. I was an emotional mess when DD was born and totally didn't enjoy the newborn stage like I could have... I wish I could just lay around, sleeping, watching TV, and reading. 

@kleigh926 I think every mom comes to this realization after #2 is born!

This!!
When we on this board had our babies, I totally sympathized with the new moms because I remembered how hard it was for me with DD1. And yet, at the same time, I was thinking - holy crap is it a heck of a lot harder with 2! (Except for the keeping the baby entertained, kleigh, which I know was sometimes something you talked about. That really is easier when you're just chasing a toddler around all day ).

And I'm totally afraid that if we have a third, I'm going to be thinking "holy crap was it easier when there were only two of them!" because I don't know if I can handle harder than this...

ericalee27

DC2London said:

Like 35 pairs of socks, tons of little outfits, a walker but no bouncer or exersaucer.  10 of one kind of pacifier, a travel system.  A nursing cover.  

Oh dear.  I would be all....

tamarar5

jesuisfatiguee said:

DC2London said:

Like 35 pairs of socks, tons of little outfits, a walker but no bouncer or exersaucer.  10 of one kind of pacifier, a travel system.  A nursing cover.  

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Am I bad that I'm not sure why A nursing cover is bad? Is it because she has only one? Is it terrible that I don't even remember to use one must of the time? Know the first child, second child Luvs commercials where she's bfing in the restaurant and tells the waiter, "eyes up here, she's already ordered," yeah... That's me. ">

jesuisfatiguee

I feel that nursing covers are essentially useless, IME. They're more hassle than they're worth. 

holly321

jesuisfatiguee said:

I feel that nursing covers are essentially useless, IME. They're more hassle than they're worth. 

My Ds didn't mind being covered, and I personally felt more comfortable covered when dh's friends were over.

Puck1182

jesuisfatiguee said:

I feel that nursing covers are essentially useless, IME. They're more hassle than they're worth. 

I found mine useful for like three months. Oversupply meant I was stuffing extra burp cloths down my shirt during every feed, so it was hard to get situation withou flashing boobs all over the place. Once my supply calmed down, I found the cover was (a) more trouble than it was worth and (b) way more obvious than just wearing two layers and pulling one up and the other down.

kelly321

Speaking of names, I've got another confession. DH's brother and SIL had a girl 5 months before we had DD2. The name they picked was very similar to the one we had already wanted, but not identical, so we gave them a heads-up in advance and still went with it. Since we've been planning a third, I'd already kind of picked out another girl's name. The same couple are having another girl very soon, and I found out a few days ago that they picked almost an identical one again (In both cases they had no idea what we were thinking of)! I mean, they have great taste, IMO, but I cannot believe that twice in a row out of all the names on the planet we chose pretty much the same names for our girls. There's no way we can do yet another close-but-not-quite name if we were to have another girl, and it's also stupid and pointless anyway because we haven't even started TTC3 yet, but I'm still disappointed that I won't be able to use the name I was getting all excited about
I spent yesterday morning on Nymbler trying to find another girl's name to get into, but nothing's doing it for me like that one was. An utterly ridiculous pity party is going on over here.

mishka29

@fishes‌ that's called the mold method. Let it grow on him. It just worked for my friend! GL!

35 pairs of socks! Does she know that sleepers have feet?!

mishka29

I wish the BRU website had a way to send the person a message. I would seriously lurk peoples registries and give them my two random cents.

ericalee27

mishka29 said:

I wish the BRU website had a way to send the person a message. I would seriously lurk peoples registries and give them my two random cents.

OMG, yes!!  this is brilliant.  )

TarheelMama202

kelly321 said:

Speaking of names, I've got another confession. DH's brother and SIL had a girl 5 months before we had DD2. The name they picked was very similar to the one we had already wanted, but not identical, so we gave them a heads-up in advance and still went with it. Since we've been planning a third, I'd already kind of picked out another girl's name. The same couple are having another girl very soon, and I found out a few days ago that they picked almost an identical one again (In both cases they had no idea what we were thinking of)! I mean, they have great taste, IMO, but I cannot believe that twice in a row out of all the names on the planet we chose pretty much the same names for our girls. There's no way we can do yet another close-but-not-quite name if we were to have another girl, and it's also stupid and pointless anyway because we haven't even started TTC3 yet, but I'm still disappointed that I won't be able to use the name I was getting all excited about
I spent yesterday morning on Nymbler trying to find another girl's name to get into, but nothing's doing it for me like that one was. An utterly ridiculous pity party is going on over here.

Okay I am never around here anymore. Grad school, SAHM mom life, and first tri are taking over my life. But YES, I have a very similar situation!

When I got pregnant with DS, my cousin asked us what we were going to name him and I told her. Apparently, our son's name (Henry James) was the boy name they had picked for their son. Both my cousin and I only do family names, thus the overlap in name choice. Fast forward three months and they find out they're pregnant. So they just named their son James.

Now, she's pregnant with #2 and is due in March, so about two months ahead of me. They just found out they're having another little boy. I asked her what they were going to name him, and she said they hadn't decided but they were going back and forth between a couple of family names. I have a feeling that this LO is another little boy for us, too. And I am secretly freaking out that they are going to pick the boy name that we have picked because, of course, it is a family name. AHH. 

SummerLove21

I will be in the minority and say I loved my nursing cover.  The only times I didn't use it were when I was at home, unless anyone besides my mom or husband were around, and then I did or went in another room. It made me so much more comfortable. I don't mind other people not wearing one around me, but between OALD and oversupply and a messy eater (I was tucking burp clothes into my folded down bra for at least six months), it just make my life simpler.  The first one I had wasn't very good, and when the strap broke a sprung for a pricier one that was popular in our mommies class and I LOVED it.  Planning on using the cover again for baby #2.

draeray

@fishes, what's the name?

We are TTC#2 and we have 1 girl name picked out and that's it. My cousin is pregnant and due in November with a girl and she isn't sharing names. I found out from her sister that our #1 name is a contender. I am holding my tongue hoping that they don't use it. I am not even pregnant yet and even if I was, I wouldn't know what I am having until we had the baby because we plan on going team green so it really shouldn't bother me as much as it does. We have several boy names on the list so that side is easier.

MalRiggs

Ya'll mine is BAD this week. My grandfather passed way last week, Immediately jumped on a plane to get to NY. The service is tomorrow and my grandmother asked me to come back and bring the kids. I didn't want to take another day off work. So that means I'm currently driving from NC to NY tonight and then turning around and driving home on Sunday morning. Its a 13 hour trip each way. My confession is I seriously don't want to go, it just going to be such a long weekend

kleigh926

Update: The IL's asked to watch DS too. It will just be DH and I tomorrow morning. Score! 

MalRiggs

FML!
we have 462 miles to go and DD just threw up ALL over the car.

MalRiggs

We good now. I might have just given DD a bath in a gas station sink. I also spent an absurd amount of money on paper towels and cleaner. Of course she happy now and I realized I never went pee.

oh @DC2London‌ im totally waving at you as I drive by. I'm almost in Washington now

MalRiggs

I would LOVE to meet DC in real life, but not this trip. Maybe next time I go up. I'm a mama on a mission tonight

ericalee27

All the hugs to you @MalRiggs‌

Tulips114

Sagen said:

Tulips114 said:

kleigh926 said:

I've been fantasizing all week about how easy my life would be if I only had a newborn. I was an emotional mess when DD was born and totally didn't enjoy the newborn stage like I could have... I wish I could just lay around, sleeping, watching TV, and reading. 

@kleigh926 I think every mom comes to this realization after #2 is born!

This!!
When we on this board had our babies, I totally sympathized with the new moms because I remembered how hard it was for me with DD1. And yet, at the same time, I was thinking - holy crap is it a heck of a lot harder with 2! (Except for the keeping the baby entertained, kleigh, which I know was sometimes something you talked about. That really is easier when you're just chasing a toddler around all day ).

And I'm totally afraid that if we have a third, I'm going to be thinking "holy crap was it easier when there were only two of them!" because I don't know if I can handle harder than this...

If I am being honest I would have to say your instincts are right you can handle it though!

Hmmmm most other moms with 3+ have said the hardest transition is from 1 to 2. But I am nervous!

wineandcake

One of my cats just escaped as I was letting the dogs in. I tried to get her but she's too fast for me.

The flameful part, I'm not going to keep looking for her tonight. It's midnight, I just got home from work so I'm exhausted, and she does this all the time - cat needs to be taught a lesson and left outside a while.

fignewt74

Tulips114 said:

Sagen said:

kelly321 said:

Tulips114 said:

kleigh926 said:

I've been fantasizing all week about how easy my life would be if I only had a newborn. I was an emotional mess when DD was born and totally didn't enjoy the newborn stage like I could have... I wish I could just lay around, sleeping, watching TV, and reading. 

@kleigh926 I think every mom comes to this realization after #2 is born!

This!!
When we on this board had our babies, I totally sympathized with the new moms because I remembered how hard it was for me with DD1. And yet, at the same time, I was thinking - holy crap is it a heck of a lot harder with 2! (Except for the keeping the baby entertained, kleigh, which I know was sometimes something you talked about. That really is easier when you're just chasing a toddler around all day ).

And I'm totally afraid that if we have a third, I'm going to be thinking "holy crap was it easier when there were only two of them!" because I don't know if I can handle harder than this...

If I am being honest I would have to say your instincts are right you can handle it though!




Hmmmm most other moms with 3+ have said the hardest transition is from 1 to 2. But I am nervous!

From what i have heard, it depends a lot on the age gap. My two are 5 yrs apart, and the transition was relatively easy. I have a feeling (if i can convince Dh) if i add a third soon, it will not be as easy since these two would be closer in age. However, my good friend had her fist two 2 years apart, and the third child was 5 years later. In that case, the older two can play together, feel less threatened by a new addition, and may already be in school.
Anyway, that is just what i have heard/observed from talking to moms with 3+...

kelly321

Sagen said:

@kelly321 I kind of feel bad about what I said even though it was kind of in a teasing way. I actually do think 3 is harder than 2 in many ways, but in some ways not, and like I said you can do it. I feel like that could be interpreted as Debbie downer instead of the light hearted I was going for.

No worries, I took it as you meant it. But I'm still scared because I completely and totally believe you that 3 is harder than 2. When I think about how many times the girls fight over my lap and I explain repeatedly that I have two legs and they can each sit on one I think - well, that argument won't fly when there are three.
I just reread that, and... um... what the heck. Because obviously, that's my biggest concern with 3 children - where they'll all sit when I read to them. /:)

MalRiggs

Just FYI. Its 345am and I have arrived. Kids slept the majority of the ride. So happy to be out of the car

Amstreagle

I have a few.....
1, Ds still sleeps with us. People can judge and tell me we're creating a monster all they want but it works for us. I love cuddling all night and smelling his baby curls. My kid my choice!< br>2. It's taken me over 40 minutes to write this reply because I fall asleep every few words. This occurs nightly. 3. The Dodgers broke my heart.