So, do I just never get a break? Vent...

hab83

WTF.

DD has Girl Scouts on Thursday nights. DH offered to watch DS so I could have a break from baby. The trouble with this is my little dude is totally crazy. He doesn't eat much during the days he's at daycare - Tuesdays and Thursdays, so I make sure I feed him right before I left. However, DS just screams almost the whole time I'm gone. He screams basically any time at night that he's not on my boobs. I have to sleep with him every night because he won't sleep alone or with DH. I'm so frazzled and sleepy and irritated. The thing that irritates me most is tonight, the rare time I leave DS with DH, he sent me a text saying he "can't do this anymore" and I just have to take him with me.

It must be nice to be a man and to get to take a break any damn time you want.

And DS, I love you, too, but for real, you need to chill the heck out. You don't always have to have your mama. Daddy's a cool guy, too, if you give him a chance.

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I'm sorry, that's rough.    I know it's hard for your DH, too, but instead of giving up he should try to find something that works to soothe LO. DS1 was really tough and DH struggled a lot with soothing him when the boob wasn't available so a lot of times they just ended up in the car driving around because he would sleep in the car.

hab83

Thanks, @LeaLupins.  DH finally got DS to take a bottle, so things were a little better for the rest of the time I was gone.  It's the giving up so easily that frustrates me.  He apologized when I got home, but we'll see how it goes next week...

honeybee434

LO was doing this same thing and just wanted to eat all of her calories when I was home. Some days she would barely eat 6 ounces while I was gone. After 2 weeks I finally decided to try different bottles again. We had done this over a month ago (I have like 5 different bottle brands in singles)and went with the bottle she liked the most then, but when I rotated through them this time, and tried a size up nipple on her current bottle which didn't work, we found a bottle she for some reason decided she liked better now that she did a month ago. I almost wonder if her suction ability has changed since then or something. If she didn't like any of the ones I had, I was fully prepared to go to Target and buy one bottle of everything else ok the marker to find one that worked. So, I now get to pack up our Dr. Browns and go buy a bunch of Tommee Tippees, but it's worth my evenings being a little easier! This last week we've been getting 9-10 ounces consistently, and yesterday she even did 12! It's made a HUGE difference in how much I'm able to enjoy my evenings home with her and my sanity. Just a suggestion if you haven't tried switching her bottle up, yet!

ETA: Sorry this is a novel. I like words, apparently.

Nichole8787

We are in the same boat. I feel like I can never leave Baylor with dh. He always ends up screaming bloody murder when left with him. Terrible heart wrenching screaming until he falls asleep. Dh just can't comfort him. It's so sad and makes me feel like I can't leave baby.

fivetoparty

@honeybee434 have you tried the wide neck dr. Brown bottles? If your a fan of the dr. Brown bottles she may like these as well as the others downfall target doesn't have them.

Ylvelill

Hang in there and keep encouraging your husband to develop their relationship. They have to figure out what works for them some time.

honeybee434

@obrienerikaa‌ I haven't, yet. That may be where I go if she decided she doesn't want the Tommee Tippee's anymore.