We've been approved and waiting for 20 months in our first adoption journey. We're with an NJ and a PA agency. We've created a FB page, and a personal webpage, but we have only been shown twice. I won't fib- its disheartening. I do my best to stay positive and remember that the right child will come into our lives and we will join their life when it's meant to be.
That said- I don't have a particularly close relationship with my mom. She lives about 3 hours away and we just don't see eye to eye on much. We're friendly and we communicate, but its definitely not like some of the other mother daughter relationships I envy from time to time.
Last night she called me and told me (I swear these are her words):
"you have been holding your lives in a rut to long. Clearly you are not going to be chosen by anyone and adoption isn't going to work out. You need to move on. If no one else wants to be honest with you, I will"
Talk about a flipping knife through the heart! Listen, I know we aren't close and we've had our ups and downs before, but who says that to someone? Let alone their daughter? I've spent most of today just feeling awful. She tried to text me today asking if I wanted to come visit her next week and help her paint the downstairs. She clearly sees nothing wrong with her words to me.
Why is it so difficult for some people to be supportive? Didn't they learn the lesson if if you have nothing nice to say, just keep shut? Don't go around stomping on other peoples dreams?