sleep questions - feeling frustrated

beachgirl1977

ds will be 1 year in a week and still gets up 1-3 times a night. He is my 3rd and I have sleep trained before and in 3 nights they were sleeping fine.  I have stopped nursing at night, I don't pick him up, but he still needs me to come in.  When I go in I lay him down again and rub his back for a minute or so. sometimes he falls back asleep, other nights he is up for a while.  I have probably had 10 nights of him sleeping 7-4 in the last year. Any advice????

I am feeling hopeless and tired      and a bit like a failure

spring_time

That sounds awful!  How long did you try sleep training him?  Some kids take longer than 3 days.  How does he nap? Are his bedtime and nap time regular?  I am sure it is more difficult to stay on a schedule when he is the third.  Have you tried having your DH go in at night instead of you? It sounds like he has developed a habit.  I don't have much advice, but those are some of the questions that come to mind for me.

beachgirl1977

He falls asleep on his own for naps and bed. We have a regular nap schedule which we are pretty consistent on and he has a regular bedtime routine and time. It's haut the night wakings that are killing me.

Critter015

Does he have a lovey of some sort that he sleeps with? With my kids I gave them one of those glo worms to sleep with. At first I would turn it on at bedtime and then turn it back on to help them go back to sleep if they woke in the night. Now they do it on their own and it helps them put themselves back to sleep. DD used to just keep hitting the button every 10 minutes or however long it stays on until she fell back to sleep.

raraavis28

That sounds awful! Couple questions.....when he wakes up and you go in, does it seem that he's crying b/c he needs soothing for some reason (like a bad dream, separation anxiety etc) or is he just awake and wanting to play? Also, how long do you typically wait before you go in? My boys still will occasionally fuss in the middle of the night, but I always wait a few minutes to see if they settle back down on their own....9 times out of 10 they do.

The only advice I would give is maybe try stretching out how long you wait before you go in. I also like spring's idea to have your DH go in a couple times.....either to break a habit or at least give you a bit of a break.....you need your zzzs!

zbeesma86

I'm sorry! Is he restless? My DD did this for a bit. I'd lay her down and It was like she wasn't tired

Is his room too hot or cold? Do you have a sound machine? 

fintin

Does he have a night light? I know this sounds crazy but try having him sleep with it off. DD was waking up once a night and one night I forgot to turn on the scentsy (it's her nightlight) and she slept through the night. She now sleeps in pitch black and doesn't wake till morning.