Wednesday Randoms

AppleGrapeMSTK

@mrssinner402 I have been in your shoes. I was in massive pain while breastfeeding. Bloody, cracked, sore, blistered nipples. I was frustrated and angry at the baby tht he couldn't do it right and that he was hurting me. I got to the point where if he didn't latch perfectly, I pulled him off and passed him to DH. DH then got angry with me because he said I was shunning our child. I feel that 90% of my PPD stemmed from my inability to BF.

I pumped exclusively. My kid is my buddy and the love of my life. Not nursing did not mean we couldn't bond. With a handsfree nursing bra, I could pump with the baby in my lap while I fed him. I pumped while sitting on the floor next to him during tummy time. I pumped while rocking him back to sleep (toss a blanket over the motor to hush the noise).

EPing is not the end of the world, and once you get some relief, it could be the best thing for you and your relationship with your baby.

You are doing an amazing job!!!

MrsTinMKE

@lilmissfancy‌ - Good Luck!!

@ariel06‌ - Hope those levels come down for you quickly!

@savagek7 - Good luck, hoping today is IT for you!!

Today is my due date! I am feeling a little more rested today! My back is finally feeling better and I was able to sleep most of the night with the exception of potty breaks and H's snoring. Have my 40 week appointment today, it is with a different Dr. since mine is on vacation so not sure how this will go, if this dr. will schedule the induction, but hoping I am at least a little more dilated and find out if there is any progress.  I also keep getting messages from people like good luck today, today is the day right?  Like some how this baby is going to be like... oh! Its my due date, better hop on out there! Baby isn't going to magically appear because it is my due date, but thanks!

savicke2009

Didnt get checked today. . Lost two lbs & my doc is on call all weekend!! C'mon babay!

MuffinMom14

Good luck @lilmissfancy!

Thinking about you, @ariel06. Let us know how it goes.

Let us know about the appointment, @nightowl1989 and @savagek7. This sounds promising all around (but what do I know?).

@angeltennis3, I'm sorry you keep going through all of this. For the record, I'd not visit anymore, either. CDIF is nasty, and I know at least one way they cure it, and it's not fun (our cat actually had it).

@MrsSinner402 I'm also terrified of being alone with a tiny human. I had a meltdown about it the other day. But I'd rather be alone with this baby than alone with this baby AND my mother. And, I echo the BF support of everyone else. Take your time and decide what works for you.

@DreadGamerWife hang in there! I hope recovery is speedy!

Eastie156

No super moon baby here either, although I was convinced it was going to happen.

I'm nauseas and being a notch today. Also, if the guy that works in our lab walks by my office one more time and stares at me, I'm going to ask him if he needs something. He's starting to irritate me.

Saragoeswest

Happy due date @MrsTinMKE! 

MuffinMom14

golfingdarwinfish said:

I'm having a difficult time sleeping because of my cats.  Every time I switch sizes Benzene has to climb over me and get on the side where my arms are so that he can cuddle between them or burrow into my neck.  Then if I get up to pee I have to wedge myself back into bed between him and Calvin, because they both sleep pushed up against me.  It's very cute, but omg, it drove me mad last night.

This is me with Butters. I love him so much, but he needs to leave me the eff alone today. He would not leave me alone yesterday.

Syllessa

Labor vibes to all who want them!!

It's awesome that ds1 is old enough to send out to warm up the car. Plus, he feels so grown getting to start the car.

@MrsSinner402‌ whatever choice you make for your lo will be right, and if that's EPing, then it is. (((hugs))) Because making decisions about caring for our little ones can be hard and scary.

Wino411

lilmissfancy said:

40.4 weeks. I'm finally in labor. My water broke yesterday

Good luck! @lilmissfancy

Eastie156

MrsSinner402 said:

 Formula is not a poison.

@MrsSinner402, this 100%. Anyone who tries to make you feel this way sucks. We had serious BF-ing issues with DS and ended up supplementing his second week alive because of lack of bm. He was jaundice and needed to eat and I couldn't pump/nurse much at all. I could only get a little over 1 oz total pumping, and that was combined sides. I beat myself up over it and let everyone dictate what to do/how I should feel. Please know that you are doing what's best for your LO and what you decide is your choice.

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@lilmissfancy‌ Good luck!

@savagek7 FX today is the day!

@MrsSinner402‌ >:D<

@starla487‌ Wow... I am so sorry about your friend's loss. I can't even imagine. T&P's to you and to her family.

MrsTinMKE

I just got an IM from someone at work (a man) saying, "shouldn't you be in the hospital?!"  Umm no. Not until I go into labor!!!

Raesofsunshine1

@savagek7‌ hope this is finally it for you!

@MrsSinner402‌ I too, ended up EPing after the stress and pain just did me in. I was happier for it because I wasnt as stressed out and miserable. I also feel like I bonded very well with DD. You can do it! Best of luck!

AppleGrapeMSTK

At my OB appointment yesterday, I got checked and she said that I am a loose 3cm dilated and 50% effaced, which seemed to surprise her (I was not at all dilated or effaced, just soft, only 6 days ago).  She offered to do a membrane sweep, and I said, "Sure" because I don't want to go much more than a few days past my due date (one week).

I didn't realize that if the membrane sweep works, it works within the first 48 hours.  So then I panicked that the baby was on the way and hurried home to vacuum all my floors, and now I am over-analyzing every single ache and discomfort. I was up all night thinking, "Is this a contraction or just gas?"  I should probably go back to sleep.

pnwlover12

@MrsSinner402‌

I used formula exclusively from about 6 weeks on. I never felt like BFing the first 6 weeks was a bonding experience because I was always in tears and upset. Just being your baby's primary caregiver will let you two bond.

Every diaper change, every time you rock her to sleep, every experience will create bonding for you two. Don't let this get you down.

wearenutts

My husband works nights and when he came to bed this morning he rubbed my back for a bit since I was awake. However, I couldn't go back to sleep so I decided to get up and wash all the One Size cloth diapers I have. LO won't be able to fit in them for several weeks and I'll probably need to wash them again before then but I just had to wash those diapers this morning. 

[Deleted User]

Having an end of the month due date kind of sucks at the moment. Reading all these announcements/birth stories and seeing sweet baby pics makes me so envious! I know in actuality the next 3 weeks is going to fly by, but right now it feels like an eternity. I want to meet my LO!

Wino411

I'm in no rush for baby just yet but I am so ready for maternity leave! I'm so over work. All I wanted to do today was keep up with the randoms thread but I open up an email with all these changes I have to make to a project and I'm all... 

How come no one got the memo that

Liss1481

deezidee04 said:

Having an end of the month due date kind of sucks at the moment. Reading all these announcements/birth stories and seeing sweet baby pics makes me so envious! I know in actuality the next 3 weeks is going to fly by, but right now it feels like an eternity. I want to meet my LO!

I sympathize completely.  Plus all the maternity leave-starting makes me sad - I still have another 2.5 weeks to go

caranichole

@MrsSinner402 You can absolutely do it and you will find ways to bond with baby! Everything will be okay. No choice is the wrong choice. You are doing the best thing for you and your family and your own personal health. That is always the best choice! I had to pump and then supplement for DD1 and we are totes besties right now!

For all the due and past due - Fx for you that your moment is coming sooner than later!! 

@ariel06 Sorry to hear that you had to go back. T&Ps for you and LO. 

@lilmissfancy good luck!! Awesome delivery vibes are being sent your way.

Maggie6424

I hardly slept last night. Had strong contractions all night long, actually thought labor was starting. I let hubs sleep because I wanted him rested. Uterus says "ha ha!! gotcha sucka!"

caranichole

Once upon a time, I created a sticky to remember who the BSC-ies were...Now my sticky is used to keep track of people I want to respond to after I get through the several Randoms pages I've gotten behind on due to...real life things. Dang it real life!!! lol

Syllessa

Around 4:30 this morning FI decided it was a great idea to watch videos on his kindle in bed.  He woke up the spawn.  I grumped at FI about it, b/c I'm the one who has to get baby back to sleep.
FI's reaction: "Well, excuse me!  Maybe I should just sleep in the living room since I'm not wanted here."  ::cue massive man-pout::
Being too tired to argue and deal with this shit, I handed FI his pillow and (brightly) told him that the living room was a great idea.  Bye.

He was less than thrilled that I called his bluff and was still pouting when he left this morning.

caranichole

savagek7 said:

Alright folks. Just got out of the appointment. The good news, my cervix is shortening, and baby's heart rate is higher so I'm probably contracting on him. The bad news, I still haven't dilated any more, and this doc said I'm barely a fingertip instead of the 1 cm the other docs had said. They will be calling the hospital today to see where they can fit me in for an induction, and calling me back today or tomorrow. Best case scenario, I go into labor today or get an induction appt for tomorrow night. Worst case scenario, I get an induction appt for early next week. Thanks for all the thoughts and labor vibes! I'll keep y'all posted.

Sheesh! I'll keep the vibes coming!! 

MrsSinner402

savagek7 said:

Alright folks. Just got out of the appointment. The good news, my cervix is shortening, and baby's heart rate is higher so I'm probably contracting on him. The bad news, I still haven't dilated any more, and this doc said I'm barely a fingertip instead of the 1 cm the other docs had said. They will be calling the hospital today to see where they can fit me in for an induction, and calling me back today or tomorrow. Best case scenario, I go into labor today or get an induction appt for tomorrow night. Worst case scenario, I get an induction appt for early next week.
Thanks for all the thoughts and labor vibes! I'll keep y'all posted.

If it makes you feel better, I went into my cervical check on a Monday and was locked up tighter than Fort Knox and high. I went into labor Tuesday at midnight and gave birth by Wednesday at 11am. Big hugs full of labor juice for you.

[Deleted User]

Guys! I lost two pounds. Now I'm waiting half naked for my first cervical check. Here's to hoping it's not super terrible.

[Deleted User]

@savagek7‌ FX you go into labor today. Sending positive thoughts your way!

vrj0522

savagek7 said:

Alright folks. Just got out of the appointment. The good news, my cervix is shortening, and baby's heart rate is higher so I'm probably contracting on him. The bad news, I still haven't dilated any more, and this doc said I'm barely a fingertip instead of the 1 cm the other docs had said. They will be calling the hospital today to see where they can fit me in for an induction, and calling me back today or tomorrow. Best case scenario, I go into labor today or get an induction appt for tomorrow night. Worst case scenario, I get an induction appt for early next week. Thanks for all the thoughts and labor vibes! I'll keep y'all posted.

Really hope that either way baby comes sooner rather than later!

vrj0522

Maggie6424 said:

I hardly slept last night. Had strong contractions all night long, actually thought labor was starting. I let hubs sleep because I wanted him rested. Uterus says "ha ha!! gotcha sucka!"

I hate that! I've been having contractions every night for the last few nights but nothing yet! So many mind games. lol 

vrj0522

Baby must have dropped last night. I've been peeing myself all morning. 

lrobi13

I'm with you @caranichole‌ ! I need a sticky to remember all I want to say once I get caught up on the randoms.

Big hugs to all that need them.

Sorry that the blood moon did not make all the term/post term babies pop out.

I had the worst nightmare last night. I woke up searching my blankets for my son.. in my dream he was covered up couldn't breath. I literally panicked because I couldn't find him to rescue him.

I had to turn my lamp on and search my bed before I remembered he was safely asleep in the rnp in the living room.

Worst dream ever since it took me more than a minute to realize it wasn't real. I was a sweaty mess after that and one can imagine my sleep has been less that restful since.

But today is hump day which means only two more whole days by myself and they2 I will have company again.

I am not cutout for the Stay At Home Mom thing. It is so overwhelming

MrsSinner402

I'm so freakin excited to read my TBBFF @Nicb13‌ 's birth story.

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crawford411 said:

I'm sure this is going to ruffle some "full term" feathers, but I don't give a shit at this point, so I'm going to share anyway.

Went to my OB today, who was shocked to see me still pregnant.  She did an exam and told me that I am a full 5 cm dilated and 90% effaced.  She stripped my membranes and offered me induction anytime after Saturday (39 weeks) for prodromal labor.  Cervix is anterior and incredibly favorable, baby is 0 station.  She would induce by breaking my water only, then use pitocin only if I did not progress after 12 hours. This kid is literally hanging on by a thread.  She does not want me working after this week, because if I go into labor, I might not have time to get my husband and get to the right hospital.  Add to all this my dwindling FMLA (down to <5 weeks) and 9 full weeks of uncomfortable contractions.

She is on call Saturday through Monday.  I am seriously thinking about inducing this weekend if this membrane sweep doesn't work. 

No ruffled feathers here! I'd probably do the same in your position. FX the membrane sweep does the trick!

windwithfingers

My mom is currently explaining to her cat how to change a diaper as she changes DS. The cat is watching from the arm of the couch.

MuffinMom14

crawford411 said:

I'm sure this is going to ruffle some "full term" feathers, but I don't give a shit at this point, so I'm going to share anyway.

Went to my OB today, who was shocked to see me still pregnant.  She did an exam and told me that I am a full 5 cm dilated and 90% effaced.  She stripped my membranes and offered me induction anytime after Saturday (39 weeks) for prodromal labor.  Cervix is anterior and incredibly favorable, baby is 0 station.  She would induce by breaking my water only, then use pitocin only if I did not progress after 12 hours. This kid is literally hanging on by a thread.  She does not want me working after this week, because if I go into labor, I might not have time to get my husband and get to the right hospital.  Add to all this my dwindling FMLA (down to <5 weeks) and 9 full weeks of uncomfortable contractions.

She is on call Saturday through Monday.  I am seriously thinking about inducing this weekend if this membrane sweep doesn't work. 

FWIW, I would do the same in your situation. 

Actually, I'm scared of being flamed when I come back from my appointment tomorrow with an induction date that is most likely going to be on or only a few days after I hit 40 weeks. In a perfect world, I'd get it at 41 weeks, but there are a lot of reasons why I'm scared to wait that long, PLUS, we are extremely limited to the times they have available. If one date is full, we go to the next. They can't just say "here's your day" if the delivery rooms will be full of inductions that day.

I don't want to force the baby out before she's ready. I really don't. But I'm at a place where I'm physically and mentally (although, I will say, MOSTLY mentally) done. I don't know how much more I can take. I have little to no positive feelings about meeting my baby because I'm so scared, and I feel like we need to get this over with so I can be medicated at a higher dose.

All the flames in the world.

MrsTinMKE

@crawford411 - I would do the same if I were you! Good luck, hope that baby comes soon  

jenndub

I realized after I posted about wanting to smack my sleeping DH that today is our wedding anniversary. Oops.

Good luck to everyone that's in labor, having appointments or anything else today!

@MrsSinner402‌ Have to agree with pps, anyway you feed your baby is the right way. I've had to supplement with all 4 of my kids because of supply issues. The guilt was so huge with the first one, I felt like a failure. Now my gorgeous, intelligent, practically perfect 9 year old helps me to keep things in perspective. She is amazing, and we're super close. You bond with your child in so many different ways. A happy mom is the best gift you can give your child. As long as you're feeding her, you're doing it right. Best of luck with your new little one.

Syllessa

erawka said:

This is amazing.

::bows::  Thank you. 

He'll be all apologetic when he gets home, and it won't happen again.  I feel kind of mean, but I have zero patience for that kind of crap.

angeltennis3

Great news! My moms tests for cdif came back negative. She has a super amazing nurse right now that tracked down a doctor to sign off on the results right away so we no longer have to gown up for visits.

I am still taking my "hospital break" today but am glad I can start visiting her again tomorrow. My dad starts back at work so he won't be able to spend as much time with her. I was hoping we would get answers before he had to go back to work because I would just hate for her to be sitting there all day by herself.

<:-P

swizz09

SPurp13 said:

crawford411 said:

I'm sure this is going to ruffle some "full term" feathers, but I don't give a shit at this point, so I'm going to share anyway.

Went to my OB today, who was shocked to see me still pregnant.  She did an exam and told me that I am a full 5 cm dilated and 90% effaced.  She stripped my membranes and offered me induction anytime after Saturday (39 weeks) for prodromal labor.  Cervix is anterior and incredibly favorable, baby is 0 station.  She would induce by breaking my water only, then use pitocin only if I did not progress after 12 hours. This kid is literally hanging on by a thread.  She does not want me working after this week, because if I go into labor, I might not have time to get my husband and get to the right hospital.  Add to all this my dwindling FMLA (down to <5 weeks) and 9 full weeks of uncomfortable contractions.

She is on call Saturday through Monday.  I am seriously thinking about inducing this weekend if this membrane sweep doesn't work. 

FWIW, I would do the same in your situation. 

Actually, I'm scared of being flamed when I come back from my appointment tomorrow with an induction date that is most likely going to be on or only a few days after I hit 40 weeks. In a perfect world, I'd get it at 41 weeks, but there are a lot of reasons why I'm scared to wait that long, PLUS, we are extremely limited to the times they have available. If one date is full, we go to the next. They can't just say "here's your day" if the delivery rooms will be full of inductions that day.

I don't want to force the baby out before she's ready. I really don't. But I'm at a place where I'm physically and mentally (although, I will say, MOSTLY mentally) done. I don't know how much more I can take. I have little to no positive feelings about meeting my baby because I'm so scared, and I feel like we need to get this over with so I can be medicated at a higher dose.

All the flames in the world.

If I remember correctly we are due date buddies, Monday right?

That being said, I have every intention of walking into my 39 week appointment to discuss the very same thing. I have stayed home from work the last 2 days, but if I don't figure something out I am going to have to go back. I only have 6 weeks and I don't want to start maternity leave before LO is born.

So basically I will share the flames with you

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