~~TTCAL newbie check in 10/7/14~~

snflowr14

Hello everyone, I am new here. I lost my second pregnancy about weeks ago, and have one (god-knows-how-long) cycle of waiting before TTCing again. I still have not gotten a negative pg test, so I have ways to go.

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nikiswimr said:

@rslh10, thanks for the check-in.

I'm definitely a newbie, intro'd here yesterday.  Still really struggling.  Now I'm wishing we had told people we were pregnant because right now it's like my baby never happened.  No one knows.

I was getting set up for a D&C early next week but then my doctor convinced my to try Cytotec first (worried about scarring as we have had IF).  Picked up the Rx today to take tomorrow but started cramping and bleeding today after stopping progesterone last night.  So...  I guess that's that.

Halloween plans?  I'm with @lmkeeff0rts my plans involve wine, wine and more wine.  

I'm sorry for your loss.  I'm in the same boat as you.  We didn't tell anyone we were pregnant, nor does anyone even know we are trying so it's been a rough month here.   We are also IF so I know the struggle.   Hugs that things get better.

foodie12rn

Hey everyone. I'm also a n00b and intro'ed a couple of days ago. I'm still spotting, day 6 now, but I guess I'm lucky that I was able to m/c naturally and not have a D&C.

I feel ok when the sun is shining, but when it starts to get dark I keep thinking about my short pregnancy, how excited DH and I were, how he kissed my stomach when I told him we were expecting #2.. And then I replay the events of Sunday until now in my head and I just can't fall asleep.

I think I would actually feel more comforted if we could be intimate, but I know we have to wait another week. I started temping over the past couple of days and it helps to focus on preparing to TTC again.

Halloween plans are still up in the air at the moment. Man, I wish I drank booze!

rslh10

crimpgirl said:

@rslh10‌ wow! You are an awesome lady! Thanks for setting up this thread and literally responding to everyone! Happy birthday I hope it wasn't too rough. I was still miscarrying on mine last month and I just felt like I couldn't be bothered with it. I hope you found at least one reason to smile. It's really sweet so many ladies on here have supported me in telling people we had lost a baby. I just feel like I owe people an explanation when I'm not myself, I'm usually pretty bubbly. Some of the reactions I've gotten have been mixed, but it's so much easier to talk about now. Here's to a better check in next week for all

I'm actually taking over for the lovely @ktlovess who is slammed with her freakin' FELLOWSHIP! How amazing is that! She's the best, and we all miss her greatly

I'm so happy you are finding support and comfort here. We all hate to meet this way, but the women here are amazing because they all get it. I hope that you take care of yourself and will hang out on the check in with us

rslh10

snflowr14 said:

Hello everyone, I am new here. I lost my second pregnancy about weeks ago, and have one (god-knows-how-long) cycle of waiting before TTCing again. I still have not gotten a negative pg test, so I have ways to go.

Welcome to the check in! I'm so sorry you find yourself here. I'm assuming your cycles are wonky/long by your statement of a god knows how long cycle, or are you expecting it to be long after the loss? Have you intro'ed on the main board yet? If not, I highly suggest that. This way all of us can get to know you, what you're going through and how we can support you. If you've already posted, I apologize--it's been a busy few days for me and I haven't been able to be on as much as I would like

((hugs))

rslh10

hoping&waiting12 said:

Hey everyone. I'm also a n00b and intro'ed a couple of days ago. I'm still spotting, day 6 now, but I guess I'm lucky that I was able to m/c naturally and not have a D&C. I feel ok when the sun is shining, but when it starts to get dark I keep thinking about my short pregnancy, how excited DH and I were, how he kissed my stomach when I told him we were expecting #2.. And then I replay the events of Sunday until now in my head and I just can't fall asleep. I think I would actually feel more comforted if we could be intimate, but I know we have to wait another week. I started temping over the past couple of days and it helps to focus on preparing to TTC again. Halloween plans are still up in the air at the moment. Man, I wish I drank booze!

Welcome, I'm so sorry for your loss. It is absolutely normal to feel what you are. It's a horrible thing, loss. I'm sending you big ((hugs)). Some women find comfort in venting here, or some women feel comfort seeing a therapist. Whatever route you take I hope that it helps you. Like I said, the feelings are normal. 

Also, and I am NOT being mean (see my siggy) but as a general rule on the board we don't talk about our LC, or if we do, say in the context of explaining a story or your intro etc etc, we place a warning above the statement. (something like **warning--LC mentioned**)  It's so we don't hurt or upset any member at any time. Some women have been trying for years, with multiple losses. If they're having a bad day, and read something like what you posted up there it could upset them if they were blindsided. But I want you to know that I understand what you're saying, so here are more ((hugs))

mkfish31

Hey ladies! Sorry for the late post. I am doing pretty good this week. AF came on Sunday just after I took a BFN test. I was definitely upset and cried some ugly tears. I really thought this was our month! Looks like AF is about done and I'm getting my little sliver of hope back…which seems to always show up just in time. My RE wants me to start temping this month, so hopefully I will know more about my cycle. Hope everyone has a good day. FX for you @rslh10 !

renegadewhit

@mkfish31, I'm glad you're getting your hope back! I'm new at temping too, but it at least makes me feel like I'm doing something. Good luck!