How did/do you plan to commemorate EDD?

CreechMommy

Mine is coming up - Jan 1.  I know it's still a ways away, but the approaching "holiday season" has me thinking about it alot.  I normally spend time with family/friends on New Years Eve, but this year, I would like to do something simple just me and hubby to commemorate our LO.   I'm trying to think of ideas of what to do, but I'm coming up empty handed.  I like the idea of a balloon release, but we will most likely do something at night considering we will ring in her EDD along with the new year.  

What did/do you ladies plan on doing?

mflowers929

I honestly haven't thought much about it. I like the idea of some sort of release. I know you can get those floating lantern things, and since I live next to a river I would be safe to release it (as long as the wind is going the right direction... and it's not snowing).

Also, for some reason I always thought you were here for a while before I was, even though I've seen your siggy a thousand times. Not sure why I thought that.

mrskelly731

I have been trying to come up with something to remember this LO by and I really like the idea from @ktlovess about planting a tree.  We just bought our home so that would be perfect.  

I am nervous to see how my emotions run when the EDD approaches.

CreechMommy

@ktlovess I love the idea of a tree planting, but I have yet to keep a plant alive so I'm afraid to do that lol

@EurydiceNymph I like the idea of going away somewhere.  I could see how that would be very healing.  I also like the cake/cupcake idea.  

Just had an idea - we could do something with fire works.  Maybe get a fancy one and set it off in honor of her.  It would be nice to see the one dedicated to her make something beautiful in the sky

CreechMommy

@LDubHawksFan Sorry yours falls on a holiday too I was so excited when I found out the EDD, but now I see it very differently.  

meredithcarole

I think we are going to scatter some petals on a lake nearby.  I had thought of the balloons, but then I worried about killing some poor unsuspecting duck or something who got caught up in the remains.  On the other hand, we did balloons to say goodbye when it happened (a la "Up" with a little house for a note) so I am a bit torn on that point.  I do like the cupcake idea, too.  

LittleMrsW

My EDD is less than a month away (11/2) and I have no idea what we are going to do. I do like the thought of planting something but I'm really not that good at keeping plants alive. 

stephy1221

My EDD is today and after a lot of back and forth I finally decided on donating to my hospital for memory boxes they provide for parents who lose a child and also do a patch for a quilt they do in memory of miscarriage/child loss. Links below if anyone is interested in seeing either.

https://www.mispals.org/quilts.html

https://www.mispals.org/memorybox.html

beckynsean11

We went to the local butterfly garden, it was nice to be surrounded by them. I also planted some tulips which should bloom sometime around the day we lost her.

I love the idea of getting a special firework for you to set off for her. I also found some environmentally friendly lanterns. If you live in an area where you could do those, I think that would be pretty.

mflowers929

@creechmommy - just remember to look up if your town/city/county allows fireworks. I know in the town I'm in, they're completely illegal unless you have special permits.

Menrandes

My husband and I took the day and went on a long bike ride.  It ended up being a 26 mile ride.  There was a bend that opens up into this beautiful view of a lake and we picnicked there while just being together.  

scrang74

Our date was Thanksgiving. I cannot possibly imagine cooking a turkey dinner that day and/or socializing with a bunch of people. My hubby and I have decided to go on a little road trip to the Hearst Castle here in California. We're hoping to just relax, be with each other, and see some pretty sights. And maybe have some In & Out for "Thanksgiving" dinner!
Once we buy a house in the coming months, I plan on planting a tree to commemorate this lost but loved child.

CreechMommy

@scrang74 That sounds lovely Recently my MIL asked what we have planned for the holidays.  I felt panic when she asked.  This was a signal that I need to take it easy this holiday season.  Even though our EDD was in Jan, I had already dreamed about the holiday season and how great it would be with a big baby bump and I imagined how happy we would be.  A nice dinner with DH and some close friends (who also went through an early loss with their first pg) sounds so much more appealing than my whole family (some of whom are pg)

jjbmstinco

I haven't hit mine yet, but I will be in Paris.  I couldn't stand the thought of sitting around thinking about it all day.  So I planned a big trip to try to distract me.

hullabalou

We planted a tangerine tree Aug 17, the EDD of our first lost baby. We haven't really figured out what to do for the others yet, but we have a little time.

MSU_Girl1202

I honestly haven't thought about mine. I have a few EDDs now, but the one I'm most worried about (for now) staying composed for was my Dec 2nd EDDs since that's also my birthday. MH and mom keep talking about a party since it will be my 30th, but I just can't imagine partying on that day.
I do like the idea of taking a trip, so maybe I'll come up with something before then

kreardon11

We haven't really talked much about it. I'm not entirely sure we'll do anything other than share a moment together after work. We're trying so hard to focus on the present moment and TTC that I'm fearful it will still up old wounds.  :-<

tlc35

CreechMommy said:

@scrang74 That sounds lovely Recently my MIL asked what we have planned for the holidays.  I felt panic when she asked.  This was a signal that I need to take it easy this holiday season.  Even though our EDD was in Jan, I had already dreamed about the holiday season and how great it would be with a big baby bump and I imagined how happy we would be.  A nice dinner with DH and some close friends (who also went through an early loss with their first pg) sounds so much more appealing than my whole family (some of whom are pg)

I feel like this about the holidays too.  Me EDD was the day after Thanksgiving and I pictured all the Christmas and New Year's with a tiny baby and cute "My first Christmas" outfits.  So I just don't want to even deal with the holidays this year or buying presents for people.

Feegan

The entire month of November weighs heavily on my mind as it rapidly approaches and we are still without. Like @tlc35, our EDD is the day after Thanksgiving; I used the cost of our many fertility treatments these last few months as a way out of going home for the holiday, but the truth is I just couldn't face our family during such a happy time with my broken heart. We don't have any plans as of yet, but I'd like to do something, so I'll be following this post to see what others are coming up with. I do like the flower petal idea, it's simple and sweet. Hugs to all of you ladies.