TTC Check-in (10/6)

JGY

Good Morning Everyone!
How is your/your partner's TTC journey progressing, where are you at, and what's next?

*Reminder - If you have a BFP to announce, please do so by creating a new thread for everyone on the board to see. Thank you

QOTW: TTC can be so complicated and heartbreaking, at times.  But there are positives too!  What's one good thing that TTC has done for you and/or your relationship?

bfonz619

This cycle seems really on point for us timing wise, which is making it much less stressful than last cycle.  Our donor, is going to be moving out of state in the next couple of months leaving us with one cycle left to try if this isn't our magic cycle.  While that is a huge bummer for us, we are doing our best to not stress about things we cannot control and just go with whatever plan the universe has for us.

QOTW: TTC can be so complicated and heartbreaking, at times.  But there are positives too!  What's one good thing that TTC has done for you and/or your relationship?  I think it has brought out a new level of support we have for each other.  Her for me in terms of going through this process physically, and feeling pressure to ensure I am doing all I can to setup the best environment for our little one (health wise.) For me in terms of understanding her high level of excitement through this process, and being sensitive to her emotions as well.

mallory4284

Oh you know, just in the dreaded two week wait. I finally got my crosshairs this morning on FF and was slightly disappointed. According to that i ovulated on CD15, which means we did our inseminations 2 & 3 days before ovulation. It's not terrible but I was really hoping we were going to hit the day before.... But of course my body thought ovulating later than normal would be awesome this cycle!

Finger crossed two days before was good enough. I'm already being pessimistic about it, so hopefully if it didn't work, I won't be as disappointed?

QOTW: that's hard because J and I had a pretty good relationship to begin with? I don't think it really changed anything for the good or bad?

Officerofthelaw

We have an appt on Wednesday with the psychologist (clinic requires it) and as long as she clears us, our next appt will be on cd10 to check follicle size. Then we will get an IuI done as soon as I ovulate. I'm excited about this one because the doctor is so much more involved. This will be our first Unmedicated one. We will be in Vegas for Halloween during the two week wait!
This journey has def brought my wife and I closer. We love traveling and the last three months of negative tests we have been on trips when finding out which helps with the negatives! So for the 4th month in a row, we will be on a trip when we find out. It's def easier to cope when in vacation.
Good luck everyone!

channe9

CD3 today... Tomorrow is baseline bloods, ultrasound, and IUI dummy run. Donor sperm was shipped today and should be at our clinic tomorrow. As I've turned into an ovulates-on-CD12 lady, our first IUI could be a week from Wednesday. I'm still not super keen on moving this process to the clinic but am happy to be trying something different. 

QOTW: While TTC has been horrendous in lots of ways (hope, despair, rinse and repeat), I have managed to make some positive life changes. I'm eating healthier, taking vitamins that I've probably needed for years and feeling so much better as a result, exercising more (most of the time...), and I have re-jigged priorities so that I'm less stressed. Why didn't I do all of that years ago? It seems ridiculous that I wouldn't have done it for myself until I wanted to serve as an incubator for a tiny human but there you go... 

JGY

Well after last week's successful/clear SIS, we're now on hold until we can make a freakin' decision.  We have had some pretty good conversations lately, though.  Money is a huge concern for both of us, but we're on our way to figuring out how we might make it work.  So that's good.

Good luck @sdfonz619!  Glad you're feeling good about things.

@mallory4284, sometimes the ff crosshairs can be wrong.  This month, for me, it had to do with how ff reads an even temperature.  It gave me crosshairs, but I totally disagree with its decision. Anyway, here's hoping your timing was right on.

@crazyaunt84- all the love to you, and fx for your beta.

@officerofthelaw - yay for new Dr. and new protocol.  We had to do the phsycologist visit too, and while it's insulting, you can get some good out of it.  Our psych discussed things like how we planned to talk to our child/ren about how they were conceived.  It started some really good conversations between the two of us.

@channe9 - here's to mixing it up and trying something new.  Good luck!

@twomomsintx - Woohooooo!  Here we go!

 

Himee33

@sdfonz619 Fingers crossed that this cycle continues to be smooth.

@mallory4284 Fingers crossed for a smooth and stress free TWW.

@CrazyAunt84 Yeah! Keeping my fingers crossed and sending positive thoughts to you and C!

@Officerofthelaw So happy you found a new doctor! Good luck!

@TwoMomsInTX How exciting! Fingers crossed for a smooth month!

Yesterday I had a 7am appointment with my RE so she could check my lining. For the last week my lining has been a 7, which is good but they would like to see it thicker. So while the RE is looking at my lining she said its a 6, not a 7. Hmm well I guess it was good she was the one to do the ultrasound on me this time. So for now I am still taking my 3 Estrace pills in the morning and 3 at night. I'm also inserting 2 a day vaginally. Which is interesting. I'm supposed to start my PIO Wednesday but I have another appointment tomorrow to get my lining checked again. My RE thinks I will be fine and it will get thicker, but if not then I will stop everything and she will change my protocol. Kinda frustrating at this point. It also changes my transfer. If I stick with Saturday the 11th, it will be a 3 day transfer but if they can push it to day 5, which I would like, then I will be doing it Monday morning.  

QOTW: TTC has caused many arguments and fights. L likes to tell people she doesn't like to say no to the lady on fertility drugs. We also started TTC right after we got married. Its just been rough on me physically and emotionally. It's also really hard on L at times, but if anything this process has brought us closer and I love sharing everything with her. 

gayby

It's been awhile for me! My wife had a class a few weeks ago to learn how to give herself the injections for the trigger shot. She will be on Clomid, Ovidrel and Progesterone this next cycle. We aren't going to try again until November because my wife has a few business trips and such. We're nervous about the medicated cycles but about re so hopeful they will work.

Something that has brought us closer together? I would say we've tried to have much better communication since we've been TTC. Not that ours wasn't ideak, but it definitely had its downfalls here and there!

Mellebee

We are still in the game. After a BFN on IUI #6 in August, September was a break due to travel. It is also just harder for me to get my heart right back in it. This will be third medicated cycle with IUI likely at the end of this week. We will probably choose to do back to back again. After this I am guessing the doctor will suggest IVF if it is negative. I am still pretty sure we won't choose that route so we will consider what to do with 2 remaining vials. 

QOTW: In the beginning it was fun to plan for new future together. We have stopped talking like that recently, but in the meantime life has been good and we have other adventures to plan.

StacyLH24

Today is CD 2 for me, not that it really means anything at this point.  I still haven't heard from my RE nor has anyone called me back from Dr. KK's office.  I will probably call my RE's office tomorrow and see if I can speak with him, or at least leave a message. 

 

At this point, our personal plan is to wait until December to start BCPs for the next fresh cycle.  It's not the greatest weather to be traveling to Buffalo, but we also don't want to wait too long since we only have until July.  That is if things don't work out with insurance coverage for Dr. KK.

QOTW:  This question has made me realize how negative I have become.  I remember asking this question once as a QOTW, probably many months ago.  Now, I struggle to come up with an answer.  I'm not convinced that this process has brought C and I closer together.  I suppose it probably has in some ways, but it has also been stressful on us as a couple as well. 

I would say that this journey has helped me to live in the moment more.  I've always been a person who needed a plan in advance, especially for big things/events.  In the middle of TTC we went to Florida for a week, which drained a significant amount of money that I had been saving.  It was amazing and I would do it again in a heartbeat.  We made the decision about three weeks before we actually went and just plowed forward with it. 

kristi&p

We have an RE apt on thursday. It will pretty much be what the plan for partner ivf will be. I am getting excited but of course the financial part is always on my mind and that is scary. I know we are lucky for insurance but they can very well tell u more iui are needed on my SO end before approval. So we will see.

I got confirmation that we don't have to get a lawyer evolved becuase we are legally married in CT. We will still be looking in to second parent adoption to cover all ends for all states.

I am pretty happy I don't have to see the psychologist again. When we started iui process we had to meet with her and I was not her biggest fan so I am happy about that.

Another good thing is our sperm clinic is giving us a free vial of any prep due to no pregnancy so the ivf vial is covered and only have to pay for shipping.

QOTW one good thing this has done for me and my relationship is taught is to be a little more selfish. I know that sounds strange we have always been the couple with just the animals and no kids so we always felt obligated to do what ever was asked of us, babysitting, helping family members a lot more than just normal helping (example I pay for my sisters monthly school payment $250 each month) I was tired of always stretching our finances and time to help everyone and that left much less than what we desereved and work hard for. So this process has allowed us to step back and it was truly needed

mallory4284

Ugh, I'm really trying to not be a Debbie Downer and not think much into anything that's going on with my body right now.....

But I am not having good thoughts for this cycle. I'm being irrationally touchy about stupid things, I was mildly bitchy to J last night, and today, along with new acne, I'm having very mild, weird twinges (not quite cramps).....

The twinges are new, but everything else only tends to happen when I'm pmsing, so now I'm all bummed that I'm going to start my period in the next week or less.... Even though being bummed is irrational in itself because it's still really early for anything (I'm only on CD21/6DPO)

I think my main concern is that my cycle is "normally" 25 days, so I truly should be gearing up to start.... But seeing as how FF has me 6dpo, that means my LP is really short (if my body sticks to a 25 day cycle)

Sorry I know I'm overthinking all of this, but I needed to vent.