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TTC After a Loss
breaker0506
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Introduction
breaker0506
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Hello everyone,
I have been hesitant about joining any TTC boards but after lurking here I feel like this community is a safe, positive space. DH and I have been married four years, been together for ten. We started TTC in March, got a BFP in April. Baby's heart stopped beating at 8 weeks and 5 days, but my body kept thinking it was pregnant until what would have been my eleventh week. I was overseas when I started having mc symptoms, which was an ordeal.
I am a 1st year medical student and it has been difficult to study human embryology while recovering from this loss. Having it in my face, day in and day out, takes a toll. It was also pretty terrible to have been told "Well, maybe it was for the best. I can't imagine how you both would have done it having a baby halfway through your first year in medical school!" (I have never wanted to hit anyone in my life until that moment.) I hope I can support you wonderful ladies here, and that we get to know each other. (and I promise I will work on my siggy asap!)
I have been hesitant about joining any TTC boards but after lurking here I feel like this community is a safe, positive space. DH and I have been married four years, been together for ten. We started TTC in March, got a BFP in April. Baby's heart stopped beating at 8 weeks and 5 days, but my body kept thinking it was pregnant until what would have been my eleventh week. I was overseas when I started having mc symptoms, which was an ordeal.
I am a 1st year medical student and it has been difficult to study human embryology while recovering from this loss. Having it in my face, day in and day out, takes a toll. It was also pretty terrible to have been told "Well, maybe it was for the best. I can't imagine how you both would have done it having a baby halfway through your first year in medical school!" (I have never wanted to hit anyone in my life until that moment.) I hope I can support you wonderful ladies here, and that we get to know each other. (and I promise I will work on my siggy asap!)
BFP 04/21/2014
Spotting 06/13/2014
US 06/16/2014, 8wk 5 day embryo w/ no cardiac activity
Delayed MC diagnosis 06/16/2014, no D&C recommended
Cleared to TTC 08/2014
Spotting 06/13/2014
US 06/16/2014, 8wk 5 day embryo w/ no cardiac activity
Delayed MC diagnosis 06/16/2014, no D&C recommended
Cleared to TTC 08/2014
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Re: Introduction
DH & I are both 28 Together: 12 years Married: 09/24/2011
BFP#1: January '12 - DD1 09/16/2012
Preterm labor 31 weeks. Monitored for Hellp and diagnosed with oligohydramnios July '12
BFP #2: 06/25 - EDD 03/05/15 MMC confirmed 8/1 - D&E 8/4 retained tissue discovered 8/20
BFP #3 11/24 - 12/15 Heartbeat detected - DD2 07/29/15
PgAL welcome
Married 6/11/2011
Me & Hubby: 34
TTC journey started 12/2012
BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks
BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)
Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.
Also have hypothyroidism
Started TTC again 12/2013
IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN
IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN
Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/502498
My Ovulation Chart
DH: 45
BFP #1 3/19/14 EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
BFP #2 12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
Saw heartbeat 12/29. Please be a rainbow.
All welcome
I'm sosorry for your loss. People are ridiculous sometimes. My coworker said "don't worry, youre young and at least you know you can get pregnant. Plus, now you wont be bloated at your wedding." We had a loss a couple of weeks before our marriage. The comment made me laugh it was so absurd.
We've gotten several less than supportive comments, too. People just get rude/awkward during these situations.
@nikiswimr Thank you for the advice. I feel like that is the consensus among doctors and med students who have kids- there really is no easy or "perfect" time! I definitely have lost a few nights of sleep wondering what could have gone wrong. It's been one of the hardest processes of my grieving is just letting go and being at peace with just never "knowing".
Spotting 06/13/2014
US 06/16/2014, 8wk 5 day embryo w/ no cardiac activity
Delayed MC diagnosis 06/16/2014, no D&C recommended
Cleared to TTC 08/2014
TTC since 2012
BFP#1~ EDD: 06/21/2014 ~ TFMR --Holoprosencephaly
Said goodbye on 2/10/2014 at 21 weeks. We miss our baby girl "J"
My Chart