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Unsupportive family...when to tell?

aspenpaul2aspenpaul2 member
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So as a little background to this question. My mom and I have a very difficult relationship, she's bi-polar and has severe mood swings. We actually haven't been talking much lately because she did something really horrible to me. At the same time my little brother can do no wrong in her eyes. She's constantly coming to his rescue, she pays all his bills, bails him out of jail, pays for his attorney, buys him cars, pays for his school, and many other things. For instance she's been paying his rent for years! But this month I had a horrible mix up with my pay (and it won't be here for another week or more), and I'm flat broke with no pay my rent this month. After chewing my ass out over being more responsible she sends me only 50 bucks. Don't get me wrong I appreciate the money, anything is better than nothing, but that won't pay a dime to my rent.

So in addition to all that, my screw up little brother just happened to get his girlfriend pregnant on accident (basically being dumb and not using condoms and hoping that it will be ok). Neither one of them work or seem to even be looking for work and are living off my mom. My mom also complains constantly how she doesn't want to support my brothers kid. She was really really negative about the whole thing.

But that aside at times my family can be really great. When my mom isn't like this she can be really awesome. I'm basically all alone besides my husband. I don't have many friends, and none really that I'm super close with. This is my first pregnancy, and I just found out today. And after I tell my husband I would soooo love to be able to tell my mom and have her be happy for me. I want someone I can go to for questions and who will help me cope with everything. Now I feel like the whole thing is ruined, like if I told her I won't get any support, and probably negativity. It only makes it worse that my little bro is having a baby (his will be the first grandchild, and I guess I'm little jealous that its not mine), the strain of his baby, and him not working is only going to stress my mom more and make her less likely to help me.

What would you do in this circumstance?
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