Surgery update and findings

mrskimmell

I had my laparoscopy yesterday morning to remove a chocolate cyst on my left ovary. My RE who was also the surgeon said he was expecting to find some endometriosis. After the surgery he said the cyst was a lot bigger than he originally expected. My ovary was also tripled in size. He removed that cyst and found a lot of endo. He removed all of what he could and actually found an unexpected cyst on the right ovary and he removed that as well. He wants to go over in more detail everything that went down in a week for my 7 day follow up. The first night was pretty crappy. I felt like I had this stupidly full bladder and I could not releive it. I finally was able to go and feel tons better. The gas is very uncomfortable and I can't believe how sore I feel. I wasn't expecting it to be so painful. My husband has been amazing trying so hard to take care of me and he has a terrible cold and I really don't want him around me I def don't want to catch it so really he can't do too much I feel so terrible. And then to top it all off we got the call we were hoping would happen much later on. The hubs got hurt in the marines he has had two knee surgeries and still needs a shoulder surgery and an elbow surgery. He is being forced out of the marines and we got the call this morning they have the finding of his disability in. They were really trying to get us to come in today. They like both parties to be there to ask questions. But I really don't want to be too far away from the potty at any time just yet. The hubs did finally talk them into meeting on Monday and he is worried sick. I hate this I hate that he has to go thru this. He is terrified they are going to tell him he is too "disabled" to work and we have to rely on VA and disability for the rest of his life. And frankly I have no real skill for us to fall back on I am a florist it's all I have done and know how to do. And we don't make much money. And to too it off I still have to get a bunch more tests done one my thyroid and have the growth in it biopsied and removed. I have no clue how to handle the stress or how to make my husband feel better. =[ My RE also recommended that we get to the baby making soon Because the endo has the tendency to come back and so do those cysts if we wait too long I will be back in the same boat and have to have an other lap to remove the crud in order to make it habitable. I still haven't told this to my husband I don't want to stress him out even more I don't know what to do. Feels like we are drowning in all this stress. This month is our anniversary it should be this stressful and unhappy.

RazzyRN

So many hugs

mrskimmell

@Rumbera28‌ thank you so much I appreciate all of the prayers.

mrskimmell

@murrt‌ I love creepy internet hugs! Thank you I am certainly smiling now thanks to you guys and all this support.

mrskimmell

@Rcvb22‌ I didn't even think if that I'm going to pull the heating pad out now. Thank you!

Hollowvic

When it rains it pours. Sorry you're dealing with this all at once. I don't have any advice on the Endo but wanted to say I'm here for support. Feel better and happy anniversary.

BandM14

Just wanted to say I'm so sorry for all that you and YH are going through right now. Sending lots of thoughts and prayers for a quick recovery from the surgery, and for the best outcome for your hubby in terms of his career. You sound like a really strong couple and I sincerely hope that everything works out soon!

mrskimmell

Hollowvic said:

When it rains it pours. Sorry you're dealing with this all at once. I don't have any advice on the Endo but wanted to say I'm here for support. Feel better and happy anniversary.

I was thinking the same thing. Maybe we can hurry through this little storm and settle down when we get out and get moved. Thank you

mrskimmell

lemonliz said:

This sounds super cheesy, but make sure to get some sleep.  I was super emotional after my surgery.  It took a couple of days at least before I was able to take a deep breath and feel like things were going to be okay.  Physically, I was okay.  Just the toll that the surgery and all of the anesthesia and the medication (I got high doses of meds for nausea on top of it all) can take alone was enough.  I had to just go back to sleep at times.  I slept 24 straight hours the first day and night, and my normal sleep routine is 6 or 7; I didn't know if I was going to get to sleep the next night, but sure enough I crashed again the next evening.    

Also, whenever you're ready, physically, be sure to get out of the house.  That did WONDERS for me.  MH and I went to see a movie 3 days post-op.  Got my mind off things for a while. It was a stupid movie, too, but it was just to get out of the house and did the trick.  

Hang in there!  It gets better!      

I haven't been able to sleep much at all. The pain meds feel like they aren't helping at all. I can't really get comfortable I tried laying in the bed but getting up and down to pee during the night was too hard the bed sits really high off the ground and in pretty short. So I migrated to the couch and got a total of four hours of sleep. I have insomnia and take meds for that but the doc said I can't have it for the first 24 hours it can't be combined with the
anesthesia. I would kill for some sleep right now. I'm counting down the hours till around 7/8 tonight which is super early I normally take it around ten but I am desperate for sleep.

dancerspose

Sending lots of hugs and prayers to you!  Thank you and YH husband so much for your service.  I'm very sorry to hear of his injuries, and hope things work out.

While you should be focusing on getting better, and not going crazy about what might happen on Monday and imagining the worst case scenarios please know that if YH husband does need to leave the military there are lots of resources and options for Veterans.  If/when that time does not come I and some others here may be able to help.

Good luck!

mrskimmell

Thanks to ALL of you. I will certainly be back posting as soon as we find anything more out. I can honestly say this group has been so amazing. I am so glad to be helped out and support by everyone and getting honest feedback.

dominicandreamer

Wow that's a lot to take in for you two.  Glad your RE was able to find and remove everything and I hope it stays away for you.  Sorry you guys are being forced to deal with so much all at once.  

Ann612

Any one of those things would be a lot, and here you are dealing with all of them at once.  I hope you find a way to enjoy your anniversary - it sounds like you could both use a quiet day with one another.  

Shauntee

I am sorry for everything you are going through right now.
Sending hugs your way.

CafeRed

I'm so sorry to hear about everything that you and your husband are going through.  First and foremost, please know that I'll be praying for you both during this time of uncertainty.  I know you have a lot on your plate, but I hope you're able to take things one day at a time (sometimes one minute at a time) and don't allow yourself to get overwhelmed (easier said than done, I know).  Hang in there, and I hope you get lots of rest this weekend as you continue to recover.  Hugs to you! 

BunnyBerry

I'm so sorry! It sounds like it's the time for you to take good care of yourself and heal. I'm saying a prayer that YH can continue to work!!

After my lap, GasX and Colace constantly (I think 4 or 5 times a day, whatever the packaging said) were such a help. I was able to go #2 the 3rd day and the 4th day it wasn't painful. And the referred shoulder pain from gas went away in a few hours. I hope meds will help with your discomfort/pain too!!

DSculley1824

Lots and lots of hugs your way!!