Hello Hello! Here's my intro! (Loss mentioned)

martinisandmedicine

Hi ladies! I have been lurking this board for a while now (creepy? Nah.) and have decided that I'd love to get in on all the wonderful support and community here.
T (the hubby) and I began trying for a child in the summer of 2012. We finally got pregnant after 11 months but sadly suffered a chemical pregnancy a couple days later. After the year mark I tried to get in to a RE but they refused to see me until it had been a year since our loss. A few months later I found a fertility clinic that I was able to get into and we finally began our testing. All of my tests seemed to go well, but T's S/A revealed that he had a low count as well as a morphology issue. We were diagnosed with Male Factor Infertility. Our RE recommended IUI, but we later discovered that our insurance actually covers IVF. After a lot of late night talks we decided to go forward with IVF early next year. We are so excited to have a plan in place, but scared of getting our hopes up, but we really want to give it a go!

I hope you all will have me here. I'm excited to get to know all of you.

A little about me:

I love martinis. 
I take lots of medicine for my autoimmune disorder.

I love M*A*S*H.
^Betcha can't guess where my username came from.

I'm an artist.
I like dogs way more than people.

Reading is my favorite thing to do. ^_^

I have crazy in-laws. 

Thanks for taking the time to read my intro! I know they probably aren't the most exciting things in the world.

Hollowvic

Welcome to 3T  We're dealing with MFI also.  I would suggest having your H see a Urologist that specializes in IF.  I also love Martinis, dogs more than people and have crazy in-laws, we have a lot in common.  We're doing IVF right now, you are so lucky to have IVF coverage.  Good luck.

BethKate2

I'm sorry you find yourself here, but welcome. Personally, I think it's great that you've been lurking.

Our stories are pretty similar. I also started TTC in the summer of 2012, got pregnant after 11 months, and then suffered a loss (ectopic). I was also told I needed to TTC again for a year before starting to see an RE, but I actually believed that and waited until this past June to make an appointment.

Anyway, I hope you find this board helpful. Best of luck to you!

dancerspose

Sorry you have to be here, but welcome and good luck! Based on your intro it sounds like you'll fit in just fine around here. Yay to you for having IVF coverage, I'm totally jealous since we have no treatment coverage. I have no advice regarding MFI, but the other ladies seem to have covered that. I enjoy martinis, but only the gin kind. Vodka and I do not have the best history....

Kcheese

Welcome to the board!

martinisandmedicine

Thank you so much for the warm welcome.

Hollowvic said:

Welcome to 3T  We're dealing with MFI also.  I would suggest having your H see a Urologist that specializes in IF.  I also love Martinis, dogs more than people and have crazy in-laws, we have a lot in common.  We're doing IVF right now, you are so lucky to have IVF coverage.  Good luck.

I'm currently working to convince him of this. He's been pretty uncooporitive during this whole ordeal and struggles with the mindset of "it's the woman's problem (courtesy of my crazy in laws). As of now he refuses to do anything beyond providing a sample for IVF. Hoping to make some progress on that front, slowly but surely.

RazzyRN

Welcome to 3t I'm still kinda new here myself but the ladies who hang here are awesome good luck !!

Shauntee

Welcome! I am a big martini fan as well. I could go for an extra dirty vodka martini right now. You are very lucky to have IVF coverage and I wish you all the luck with that process.

BandM14

Hi, and welcome! I'm new too. Wishing you lots of luck!

martinisandmedicine

murrt said:

Welcome to 3T . We are dealing with MFI too. Sometimes you can find a correctable issue at the urologist so try to push for it. My DH has low testosterone causing MFI and he's on Clomid to hopefully help the issue. Check out the MFI check in each Wednesday led by @lemonliz for advice/updates/support. Good luck

I will let him know this! If there's hope to correct the morphology issue perhaps he'll cave.

martinisandmedicine

iPutKetchupOnKetchup said:

I like martinis. And those who lurk before jumping in. And non-generic avatars. 

Got nothin' for you on M*A*S*H with the exception that I used to play the game MASH in middle school to determine my future. That shit was dead wrong. I am still waiting on my 3 kids, mansion and Range Rover. Welcome to 3T. You'll do fine here. 

Tell me about it. 
I was going to live a shack, but I was supposed to have so many kids you're head would explode gosh dang it! 

jenmcD11

Welcome! That's so great that IVF is covered for you. Good luck!

martinisandmedicine

iPutKetchupOnKetchup said:

Martinis&Medicine said:

iPutKetchupOnKetchup said:

I like martinis. And those who lurk before jumping in. And non-generic avatars. 

Got nothin' for you on M*A*S*H with the exception that I used to play the game MASH in middle school to determine my future. That shit was dead wrong. I am still waiting on my 3 kids, mansion and Range Rover. Welcome to 3T. You'll do fine here. 

Tell me about it. 
I was going to live a shack, but I was supposed to have so many kids you're head would explode gosh dang it dammit! 

FTFY. I failed to mention.. I like curse words. A lot. 

lovesmonkey

Hi! Look forward to getting to know you better.

theholmanherd

Martinis&Medicine said:

iPutKetchupOnKetchup said:

Martinis&Medicine said:

iPutKetchupOnKetchup said:

I like martinis. And those who lurk before jumping in. And non-generic avatars. 

Got nothin' for you on M*A*S*H with the exception that I used to play the game MASH in middle school to determine my future. That shit was dead wrong. I am still waiting on my 3 kids, mansion and Range Rover. Welcome to 3T. You'll do fine here. 

Tell me about it. 
I was going to live a shack, but I was supposed to have so many kids you're head would explode gosh dang it dammit! 

FTFY. I failed to mention.. I like curse words. A lot. 

I think I have a bump crush on you.

DSculley1824

Hello! Welcome to 3T! I'm fairly new as well and these ladies have been a life line for me. They're all so wonderful! How awesome your insurance covers IVF. Super lucky lady

martinisandmedicine

Thank you all again for the wonderful welcome and advice! I am already loving this board.

martinisandmedicine

lemonliz said:

Welcome, M&M! Twinsies - I also like dogs more than most people, my in-laws are bsc, and we're doing IVF in early 2015, too! It's very interesting having TTTC with in-laws who don't really understand the basics of reproduction or human biology. GL to you - you're in the right place!

Yes, in laws. Oh boy.
I told T that we are not telling anyone in his family that we are doing IVF (I'm afraid they would talk him out of it and have a family intervention with me). After it's successful (if it's successful), then I'm happy to be open about it. If they can look at their own grandchild or niece/nephew and still tell me it was a sin to have my baby, then they are welcome to. They may never see either of us ever again, but that's that.

End rant.

I go on rants. Sorry. 

kushie77

Welcome.  We're MFI also, but not correctable so we are working on Foster to Adopt and hoping for our miracle BFP.  

I too love a good martini, like animals more than people and have a MIL that is epic bat shit crazy.  I'll tell you about the time she broke into our house and decided to try to enhance our sex lives another day.  

I hope your stay here is short and sweet and you can get DH on board with IF tx. 

BunnyBerry

Welcome! Sorry for your loss...it doesn't seem fair that a CP should be considered a "success" and make you wait for treatment beyond a year! Glad you found a doctor. It's wonderful that you have IVF coverage!!

I'm on lots of meds too for Crohn's (also autoimmune) but since the GP, GI, GYN, and RE each independently looked into my meds and signed off on them, I feel okay TTC! Were you also told to stay on your meds if they're keeping things stable rather than cut down before TTC? 

martinisandmedicine

BunnyBerry said:

Welcome! Sorry for your loss...it doesn't seem fair that a CP should be considered a "success" and make you wait for treatment beyond a year! Glad you found a doctor. It's wonderful that you have IVF coverage!!

I'm on lots of meds too for Crohn's (also autoimmune) but since the GP, GI, GYN, and RE each independently looked into my meds and signed off on them, I feel okay TTC! Were you also told to stay on your meds if they're keeping things stable rather than cut down before TTC? 

@bunnyberry

I was on methotrexate when we were first married. That's a HUGE no no drug. After about 6 months I decided it wasn't worth the fear of getting pregnant on it and switched to medications that are safe either during pregnancy or up until the positive test.

saritacw

1) Hi!

2) So great your insurance covers IVF! That's worth several martini celebrations.

3) Thanks for the memory trip down MASH lane (the game).