"I'm a stay at home mom since we can't afford childcare. While there is $ on the horizon, there is none right now. Stuff has gotten lost since we moved and I've learned that there are things I didn't buy with my son that I wish we had, but right now, we can't afford anything. Is there a tactful way of having a shower for a second baby? I'm not going to lie, it's all about the stuff because we're stinking poor right now. I would think it would be ok though since I didn't really have one before? Right? Maybe?" Noooooo
Just big, fat No.
It is no one else's problem that you are having a baby you can't afford, lost things & are poor. That is why reliable birth control (condoms are cheap man, much cheaper than babies) exists.
Yes, BC fails , but tough shit. You are the only one responsible for providing for your kid. It is fucked up to use being poor as an excuse to try to shake others down. :-q
That's not actually Emily Post, you know. She passed away. That's someone giving advice in Emily's name, advice that would make her roll in her grave.
In no way is this a WK post or anything. But this link is supposedly from the emily post institute and the writers are actually her great-grandchildren.
I definitely say go for it (if someone offers to throw one for you of course). I do not think there is anything wrong with a shower for a 2nd child to honor mommy and baby. Especially, since you did not have one before. Just think about what a fun baby shower memory you'll have, which you otherwise would not get.
I agree. The other moms in here just don't want people to be happy. I love any excuse to give a gift and would wonder why she wasn't having a shower since she wasn't given one with her first.
I definitely say go for it (if someone offers to throw one for you of course). I do not think there is anything wrong with a shower for a 2nd child to honor mommy and baby. Especially, since you did not have one before. Just think about what a fun baby shower memory you'll have, which you otherwise would not get.
I agree. The other moms in here just don't want people to be happy. I love any excuse to give a gift and would wonder why she wasn't having a shower since she wasn't given one with her first.
How did you know! Geez you know us all so well! 8-| FYI you don't need an invitation to buy a gift and as stated multiple times in this thread, a shower is to welcome someone to motherhood and is especially tacky when you are throwing your own shower for the sole purpose of shaking your friends and family down because you are in a tight financial situation.
I definitely say go for it (if someone offers to throw one for you of course). I do not think there is anything wrong with a shower for a 2nd child to honor mommy and baby. Especially, since you did not have one before. Just think about what a fun baby shower memory you'll have, which you otherwise would not get.
I agree. The other moms in here just don't want people to be happy. I love any excuse to give a gift and would wonder why she wasn't having a shower since she wasn't given one with her first.
How did you know! Geez you know us all so well! 8-| FYI you don't need an invitation to buy a gift and as stated multiple times in this thread, a shower is to welcome someone to motherhood and is especially tacky when you are throwing your own shower for the sole purpose of shaking your friends and family down because you are in a tight financial situation.
Don't you know that if you don't tell people exactly what you want to hear, it means you are a miserable old cranky lady. It has nothing to do with the fact that they are adults with zero coping skills and need to be treated like the speshul snowflakes they are.
My SIL is having her 3rd boy and is getting a shower. Her and her husband are not hurting for money at all! In fact they have 2 nannies. My husband doesn't see why this is tacky at all. It makes me sick...
I definitely say go for it (if someone offers to throw one for you of course). I do not think there is anything wrong with a shower for a 2nd child to honor mommy and baby. Especially, since you did not have one before. Just think about what a fun baby shower memory you'll have, which you otherwise would not get.
I agree. The other moms in here just don't want people to be happy. I love any excuse to give a gift and would wonder why she wasn't having a shower since she wasn't given one with her first.
Fine. Give her a gift. But she doesn't get to thrown her own "Everyone! Give me gifts!" party.
Stop worrying about what anyone else thinks, especially people on the internet that you'll never meet.
ENJOY!
@LindsMichelle Holy fuck. The OP should care what others think, especially those she plans to hit up for more gifts. The amount of entitlement in your posts is absolutely appalling. Have you no shame at all?
LOL. If people want to buy gifts, they'll do so whether there is a shower or not. A baby shower doesn't require gift giving if you're in attendance... and I don't see many people demanding gifts on their invitations... and mainly, she shouldn't care about what people on the internet who she'll never meet care about... do you live your life based on TheBump/Knot/Nest standards?
Re: 2nd baby baby shower
Noooooo
Just big, fat No.
It is no one else's problem that you are having a baby you can't afford, lost things & are poor. That is why reliable birth control (condoms are cheap man, much cheaper than babies) exists.
Yes, BC fails , but tough shit. You are the only one responsible for providing for your kid. It is fucked up to use being poor as an excuse to try to shake others down. :-q
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
@Redheadbaker for the win.
The Tacky has been owned! (pwned?)
BFP #2: m/c at 7w, February, 2014
BFP #3: It's a BOY! Please be our rainbow! Due February, 2015
*everyone always welcome*
How did you know! Geez you know us all so well! 8-|
FYI you don't need an invitation to buy a gift and as stated multiple times in this thread, a shower is to welcome someone to motherhood and is especially tacky when you are throwing your own shower for the sole purpose of shaking your friends and family down because you are in a tight financial situation.
How did you know! Geez you know us all so well! 8-|
FYI you don't need an invitation to buy a gift and as stated multiple times in this thread, a shower is to welcome someone to motherhood and is especially tacky when you are throwing your own shower for the sole purpose of shaking your friends and family down because you are in a tight financial situation.
Don't you know that if you don't tell people exactly what you want to hear, it means you are a miserable old cranky lady. It has nothing to do with the fact that they are adults with zero coping skills and need to be treated like the speshul snowflakes they are.
You forgot fat!
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5w2d: HCG 15,179 Prog: 27.9
5w4d: HCG 18,000 Prog: 39