Not another miscarriage PLEASE.... Don't know whats happening

twobabiesforme

I am so petrified of going through another miscarriage!!

So here is my story. Last year around this time I was pregnant. I started spotting around week 5. Then about 2 weeks after that I lost the baby and saw the grey tissue in the toilet   Then I bled for about 10 weeks after that. My  (experienced) ob kept saying week after week that he believed it would go on its own. (whatever they were seeing on the ultrasound reports). I did about 10 vaginal and pelvic ultrasounds. Yes you read that right, TEN! Every single week for 10 weeks. And every time i would go in for the results my ob would tell me it has gone down a little and he thinks it would resolve on its own so lets avoid the surgery to remove it. 

Finally after the 10 weekly ultrasounds, the last tech said she believed in may be polyps. SO then i had a special ultrasound, don't remember the name of it, and that doctor still couldnt decide if it was polyps or retained product from the pregnancy. So, i ended up have a procedure to remove whatever it was. 

After waiting over a week for the results, i was told it wasn't polyps, it was thickened endometrium caused by the miscarriage. After that procedure, I still felt a random pain on my right side in my uterus. The ob checked me out manually, and also another ultrasound and told me he didnt see anything worrisome and that i was perfectly fine to get pregnant again. Not that i really wanted to at this point after the hell i went through. This entire miscarriage process took about 4 months.  I bled almost the entire time, so i was locked up in my apartment for the whole winter in fear of bleeding on the street randomly. Plus I had a then 6 month old baby with me, and my boyfriend overseas so i was alone. 

Now, that pregnancy happened right after my period ended. So we had sex around day 8. 

Fast forward to now:

My periods are very regular, plus or minus 1 or 2 days they are on time.

My last period started Sept 15th. On Sept 22nd we had unprotected sex. Well he pulled out so most of it didnt go inside me, but now i wonder if he pulled out on time because about 3 days later i felt this pain in my uterus (which reminded me of the pain i felt with both other pregnancies. What i believe were conception pains that were quick and sharp). And then the next day (only 4 days after intercourse) I felt something surely different with my uterus. I felt that expanding feeling that I remember when I was pregnant the first time, but much later in the pregnancy. And ever since then, a "full" feeling in my uterus. I also experienced some menstrual cramps and i have never experienced menstrual cramps mid-cycle ever!

Also, a couple of times if i moved fast or got up from laying down, my uterus would kind of ache.

I am TERRIFIED. I am pretty damn sure i'm pregnant. But i feel like im going to go through this horrible miscarriage again. 

With my successful pregnancy, we had sex around day 14. 

With my miscarriage, got pregnant right after period ended (around day 8)

Now this one, pregnant symptoms 4 days after sex. Sex happened around day 8)

Feel so upset.

Just saw my family doctor, and he saying its not really possible i'm pregnant since i have a regular period, i would ovulate around day 14

tlc35

If you think you may be pregnant, take a test.  We have no way of knowing and symptoms don't mean anything.

lcwed

Wow that is a lot for anyone to go through.  I am so sorry about your loss and all the complications.

It sounds like you are in the dreaded 2WW.  I would wait until mid October and then test.  Try to focus on other things and not think too much, easier said than done I know. 

From what you are talking about it sounds like you may have had ovulation pains and not conception pains, which I am not familiar with.  The pains you describe seem to be around day 12 making a possible day 14 ovulation.  So it is unlikely you are pregnant unless you had sex around the time you were having or had those sharp pains.  Most pregnancy symptoms come 2 weeks after conception and the egg doesn't even implant into the uterous until 7 days after ovulation.  If I am not mistaken, then is when HCG starts being produced and then symptoms can occur.  I know I sometimes get bloating and such just before I ovulate too.  I also get cramping if I am wearing tight pants or I am constipated.

Hope this helps.  Good luck!

siennamom

I know this is impossible during the 2ww, but try to stay positive.  agree with PP, POAS if AF doesn't show. sending good thoughts!

Davie813

@twobabiesforme, I'm sorry for your previous loss, and I'm sorry you're feeling anxious now. 

I agree with @lcwed that it would be impossible to have pregnancy symptoms at this point, and that it's very unlikely, given the timing you describe, that you are indeed pregnant.  If it's really only the sex on September 22 you're concerned about, taking a test early next week should definitely clear it up one way or the other.

If you are 35 or over and actively trying to conceive, you're welcome to join the group here and share your journey with the rest of us.  If you do so, please do read the post at the top of our page (marked "Welcome and Intro Message.") 

A lot of us have had a difficult time of it--we've put lots of time, money, physical pain, and heartbreak into trying to have a child, and some of us have experienced multiple losses.  A post including a previous child, a miscarriage, a pregnancy announcement (and an unintended pregnancy at that), and another threatened loss is a lot to take and needs (a few) warnings in the subject line.

Best of luck to you--I hope you get the outcome you want.

flyliceandcoffee

I'm confused, you do or you don't want to be pregnant? I'm assuming that you DO want to be pregnant, and being terrified of that is completely understandable considering what you went through with your previous mc. I'm really sorry that you had to go through that, I can't even imagine what that must have been like.

just trying to get a sense of your timeline of things, you're regular so I'm taking that to mean you have a normal 28 day cycle, you're on cd 18 today, dtd on cd 8, had pains on cd 11, and since cd12 you started feeling different? I suppose it's possible that you ovulated early in your cycle this time around, my guess is similar to @lcwed, in you probably ovulated somewhere around cd 12 which would be the pains you felt around those days. I generally get those sharp, kind of crampy but not really pains on one side or the other that come and go within a couple days of ovulation, sometimes the day of. That being said, it's very possible you COULD be pregnant if you dtd on cd8 since sperm can stay alive for up to a week (or so I've heard), but the pains you felt most likely aren't implantation type of pains (if that's what you mean by conception pain) because that seems really soon. You would have had to have sex 7-10 days before you feel any implantation pains since that's usually on average how long it takes for the egg to travel through the fallopian tubes. That would seem to put fertilization of an egg closer to day 3 or 4 of your cycle if my math is right.

As to the weird ute feelings, I've had similar feelings even when I knew I wasn't pregnant, so that could be almost anything. For me, when this happens, it usually means I'm ovulating late or not at all because my body thinks its getting there but then backs off.

Samuelismomma

This a troll she has also wrote all over the loss boards..bmb's etc don't feed her!!

TAT2MAMI

That is just effin' wrong and sick. Who the eff does this kind of shit? Get a life!!