Should I bother with announcement?

MrsRhedd

My work and family already know that I'm pregnant and I wanted to keep it a secret other than that. My dad (overly excited grandpa) blabbed to everyone at our church. The only people who really don't know are people I grew up with in high school and people I met overseas. Should I even bother with a pregnancy announcement? I really wanted to do the cute posie "tacos" "baby" written on our bellies. But my heart is just not in it anymore. I'm really quite bummed I didn't get to share the news and my dad kind of blew it. (Hormones and all don't help) I'm 14 weeks and was already told that we are (95% sure) having a boy.

jennypolkadots

We told our families and close friends around 12-14 weeks. I still haven't posted anything online. I just have Instagram but there are plenty of people on there that I am friends with but not close where I would call/text them our news. I don't like the idea of an announcement, it's just not me but I will post pictures in a few weeks when we go to a wedding and it will be pretty obvious. Or pictures of my shower, etc. So it won't just be random one day when I share a picture of our baby lol

I think it's fine to do the announcement if you want to. I like the ones with little shoes, or where the family pet is included. I personally cringe when I see the baby/burritos side by side because you are calling your husband fat and at 14 weeks with your first you are much more likely to be bloated than have a real baby bump. But do whatever you want, it's really no big deal to worry about! 

ksgsmu

I would wait to find out what you are having 100%

MrsRhedd

Well this question doesn't have anything to so with gender it's just about the actual fact we are having a baby.

And the food picture we wanted to do because our home has always been a home away from home for so many people. My mom and I are huuuuge cooks and our food is one of the things we take pride in so our friends would understand that. Not putting my hubs down at all, just meant to be silly.

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divinemsbee

Bliss+Berry said:

I would find it really odd to get a formal "pregnancy announcement" in the mail.  Are those a thing?   I would stick to a FB photo.  Anything else seems a little bit AWish. 

Agree with this. I think if you want to do a cute 'pregnancy announcement' photo, do it on Facebook (make it your cover or profile photo) or Instagram or something like that. I see people do that all the time and, while not my style, it doesn't bother me. Something in the mail to announce a pregnancy would be weird.

I will say that in my social circle birth announcement cards are common. Typically a picture of the baby with all of the baby info on it sent out within a couple months of the birth. But I know that's not common for everyone.

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Helenahhandbasket

I didn't personally do a FB announcement, but I know this is becoming the norm, so I will spare you my commentary on that.

If you want to "announce" on FB, I would absolutley wait until your anatomy scan and the sex is confirmed.  Then you can do a pregnancy/ sex announcement so at least your announcement will contain new information.  It's really silly to "announce" something that everyone already knows.

 

rachelcalderon525

My husband and  did a FB announcement at 14 weeks ( this past week). We found out it was a boy via U/S and a blood test. If you want to include the gender in your announcement, then I would wait til you know 100%. Although, with boys it can be pretty obvious. My stepmom is a U/S tech and she got a good shot between the legs at 12.5 weeks and could see it was a boy. We found out for sure via the blood test a few days later. But, its always a nice thing to include in the baby album too, if you take a picture.

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jennypolkadots

I remember reading that the 20 week ultrasound is considered 95% accurate. The only 100% way to know it a blood test. There is no way a 14 week scan can be 95% sure. At that point external genitalia look practically identical - girls parts can be swollen and a cord can be in the way looking like something it's not. But I assumed your announcement would have nothing to do with the sex because I've never seen the belly/food shots that also announce the sex of the baby. 

After you explained how your family is with food I get the relevance of the food/belly announcement. I guess we are just different. DH is in really great shape and we focus a lot on nutrition so it would be a really weird announcement for us if we chose to do one. I assumed you meant posting to FB so others (not family or people who know) could find out quickly, but please don't send something in the mail. That would be super weird! 

modernfairytale8709

aditigirl said:

Pregnancy announcements are so AWy.

Everything on Facebook is AW-y.

It's the nature of the beast that is social media. People post to get reactions.

OP, I get that your dad kind of stole your thunder. I'd still do a fun gender/pregnancy announcement if that's your style. But don't do it until you've confirmed the sex after your anatomy scan.

Bigboneded

And dont tell your dad first.... he cant keep a secret ;-)

tiffany1884

I waited till my second tri master told my family and work..im not posting nothing on facebook till i know what sex im having.

MrsPDX

I am dealing with the same question. Everyone knows that we are pregnant (no one could keep it a secret), but I always envisioned a cute pregnancy announcement...do I order and send out paper announcements to people who already know? Or skip and just put on Facebook? or neither? such a tough decision!!

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peeppeeppeep

Bliss+Berry said:

I am dealing with the same question. Everyone knows that we are pregnant (no one could keep it a secret), but I always envisioned a cute pregnancy announcement...do I order and send out paper announcements to people who already know? Or skip and just put on Facebook? or neither? such a tough decision!!

I would seriously side-eye anyone who mailed a formal pregnancy announcement. You don't need to attention whore your pregnancy and not everything needs to be Pinterest worthy.

This.  I'm not even sure I would do it on FB, either, because I have more acquaintances than friends on FB, many of them childhood friends or friends of friends that I don't know very well or haven't spoken with in years.  Instead, we had fun telling family members and good friends in person, along with a handful of people that live out of town that we called up to share our news.  It's not a secret, but I didn't see the need to make sure everyone I've ever known in my life knows I'm pregnant.  

mands1125

MrsPDX said:

I am dealing with the same question. Everyone knows that we are pregnant (no one could keep it a secret), but I always envisioned a cute pregnancy announcement...do I order and send out paper announcements to people who already know? Or skip and just put on Facebook? or neither? such a tough decision!!

Another vote for Neither. I got a mailed pregnancy announcement once but it was also a Christmas card so I didn't side-eye it too much. I was more annoyed finding out in the mail instead of in person from this person who I considered a pretty good friend.

Amstreagle

Yes mail them out right away and don't forget to put your registry info with them!!!!!!

ST3WD

I never bothered to "announce" anything on FB. The people who I speak to regularly have known for most of my pregnancy and have done an excellent job of keeping it offline as requested. It's not a secret, but I just didn't feel like posting that much about it. 

I'm sure some acquaintance will be pissy after Halloween though. I'll be 22 weeks and am making a cliche skeleton costume with a baby skeleton on my bump for a party I'm attending. (SO cute.) It's going to be the first time there are pictures of me " undoubtedly showing." Cue the social shaming for NOT posting it sooner! Bwahahahaha!

ST3WD

Sorry to bump an old thread! Opps!