Cat is out of the bag (long - really, just a rant)

gsancho

I have some mixed feelings b/c I finally caved and told some people at work (that I'm not as close to) that I'm pregnant.  Part of me doesn't care who knows, but it's not something I'm broadcasting.  Everyone I work closely with knew about our IVF and most of them know or have figured out I'm pregnant by now...but like I said, I didn't want to volunteer the info to those I'm not as close to.

See, the thing is...the account I work on is moving to Chicago so everyone here who works 100% on the business is being laid off in 2 months.  I'm a little worried about less income, but I've already talked to the new agency about doing some freelance, along with side jobs for other people I know.  And I was getting a little burned out, anyways.  I feel very lucky that I have options and can be a little flexible as far as next career choice or if I want to work.  BUT the big talk at the office is always, Where are you interviewing?  Are you moving to Chicago?  Why didn't you follow up on that lead I gave you?  Come with me to this event so you can network!  Why won't you move? - I just wanted to be left alone about it.  

A lot of the positions I hear about require a ton of hours and travel.  When I started using the excuse that I may want to take a short break, people kept asking what I'll do with my time.  I can only give BS answers so long, so I finally just blurted out "I'm pregnant and I don't want to commit to anything!"  I guess I'm just a bad liar.  I feel bad I said something when I'm not even 10 weeks...but then again, I'm not super private so fuck it.

gsancho

Thanks @RammerJammer !  It's not like I said it all excited and squeee!  A group was huddled around the couch by my desk and it was just 20 questions regarding what everyone was doing for work.  They kept pestering me, so I caved and said it in a matter-of-fact tone.  Hopefully that shuts them up.  If I don't feel like interviewing for some "dream" position in NY, I no longer have to make up excuses.

southernyankeegirl

Yay for being public! To hell with the 'rules' - there isn't some magic trick that makes 12w some safe time. Once you've seen a heartbeat, your risks go way down, and slowly gets lower over time. 10w with all the monitoring you've had is plenty long enough!

Glad you can breathe with all the job chaos. It must be really nice to know you have time before you'd want to resume full time :-)

AMShark

I wouldn't like to feel forced to give that kind of information.  I hope it at least feels a little liberating to get it out there.  

I'll bet they're all relieved that they won't be competing with you for their next job - they were probably guessing that you already had your next role all locked up, and you were just being quiet about it until you gave your notice.  

Oh man, the fun you could have had with them by starting false rumors!  Maybe its not too late to drop hints and get some fun gossip going... it would serve them right for being so pushy. 

Cutiecruz327

I couldn't help myself, I was so excited I announced at 10 weeks. It was the anniversary of my grandmother's death so I told my mom she could tell her "people" (mom knew at 4 weeks, my family has been amazing support). I figured it would cheer her and my aunt up. We'll mom kind of spiraled out of control! She told her sister who told her kids who all text me within 2 hours of giving mom ok. Then mom felt bad and told her brothers before they found out. So we ended up announcing on facebook before anyone got offended. I probably should have been upset but I was just so excited to scream it from the roof tops! I will be 37 weeks in 2days!

I think am shark is right too. They are probably relieved not to have to compete with you.

CarSaidYes

That's annoying that you were bombarded with questions but at least you put it out there. 10 weeks is good and you're only a few shy of letting the cat out of the bag anyways. There's no rules when it comes to announcing

KT416

I'm sorry you felt pressured but I hope it feels good to be open. There's no right time IMO. A lot of my friends and family aren't nearby and I just haven't felt well and felt like sharing. I think a friend of mine was insulted when I told her I was 15w along yesterday.

I agree that it's not too early anyway, especially since you've already seen the heartbeat.

I bet everyone is relieved and I hope you get some awesome freelance work!

lcloffredo

I was forced to come out at work at 10 weeks too and it made me so nervous! I was going to wait but because I work at a hospital and was assigned to a patient that I couldn't get near is had to say something. Then I just let word slowly spread although I did go tell my boss because I didn't want her to hear it from somebody else. It's not the best way but it was kind of a relief to have it out in the open.

Saintelizabeth

Don’t feel bad about it, especially when you’re put in one of those situations! I also work long hours and travel where I’m sometimes working in construction sites or with hazardous chemicals so I told my supervisor when I was 8 wks pregnant. He had already known the many doctor appointments weeks before were IVF related so it wasn’t a huge shock to him and he was the one who suggested I stay office bound so early. He told the other PMs I’m not allowed to go into the field for “personal” reasons. At that point everyone knows why. I was pretty anxious about everyone “knowing but not knowing” but at the same time it was nice to not make up excuses on why I couldn’t go to New Jersey for a 6 week field project. I imagine it probably feels like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders now that you don’t have to make up excuses