** Talking about God, I'm putting this warning as to not offend those who don't believe, so please don't respond if you want to say anything about God having nothing to do with it**
I feel like God is punishing me, that I am being put through all this cruelty because I'm a bad mother. I stay at home and do all I can for him, I love him more than anything but sometimes I snap at him or get frustrated with his attitude. When these things happen I feel like God is watching and thinking, this is why you don't have another child on Earth. Rationally I know this isn't true, but I don't know what to do about these thoughts. I'm hoping by writing them, I will feel a little better.
"Love is what makes pain bearable." - I love you my Angels.
**All After a Loss Welcome** BFP #1: 6/25/09 EDD 2/13/10 @ 6 weeks- Saw HB @ 9 weeks - DS born 2/11/10 (39w5d) BFP #2: 2/20/13 EDD 11/4/13 - Saw HB 3/19/13 (7w2d) - MMC discovered 4/13/13 (10w5d) - Est. loss @ 9w3d - D&C 4/14/13
BFP #3: 12/19/13 (4 w1d) EDD 8/27/14 - 1/1/14 discovered it was ectopic/ tube had burst/ had surgery to remove tube (@ 6 weeks) BFP #4: 9/10/14 (3w6d) EDD 5/21/15 - natural MC 9/23/14 @ 5w5d BFP #5: 11/23/14 (3w3d) EDD 8/4/15 - Please be our Rainbow!
I understand where you're coming from. I have felt the same way many times in the past. We are human, and we all lose our patience sometimes. when I start feeling this way, DH talks me down. I always try to remember that it's science and the God I believe in wouldn't be spiteful like that.
Easier said than done, but try to be gentle with yourself. You not getting pregnant has nothing to do with your parenting skills. And I'm sure you're an amazing mom.
I felt the same way last month. It's a horrible feeling. I don't have any magical coping mechanisms. I can just say that eventually that feeling faded.
Now I try to remember that God's timing will be perfect. It always is. That doesn't work on cd1 butI can usually remember it further in my cycle.
Everyone loses patience with their kids from time to time, I do with my 10 month old even though I know he doesn't know better and isn't try to get on my nerves. And I'm sure a toddler sometimes IS trying to get on your nerves, ha!
**Warning: Losses and living child mentioned** BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy. BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you. BFP#3 EDD 12/21/13, Baby Boots born 11/23/13Myrainbowbaby!
Hugs, @mara005 . I often question why God has given me back to back micarriages. As we prepare to try again, I'm trying to focus on the hopeful rainbow we will be blessed with, and blocking out the doubt. It rarely works unfortunately. For me, I keep wondering what my body has done that is causing the miscarriages, since I obviously seem to get pregnant easily- wtf is wrong with me?
DD 15.07.2012
BFP #2 01.18.2014, MMC 04.10.2014 15w5d
BFP #3 07.18.2014, MC 07.31.2014 5w6d
DX: RPL due to submucosal uterine fibroid. Hysteroscopy 12/16. All clear!
Just wanted to give you lots of hugs. My faith has never been challenged like this year. It's totally understandable that you feel that way but I can tell you it's not true. I hope you feel better soon.
I really hope you take all of these posts to heart. You ARE NOT a bad mother! I snap at DS and I feel super guilty when I do. I've also lost 2 babies and I know it's because of my body/other issues. It has nothing to do with the amazing job you are doing as a mom - sheesh we all have our moments! Hugs, God does not punish like that!
Aww I'm sorry you feel that way. Big hugs, life as a mom can be tough! Everything that was said above is so true. All biology.
Me: 32, DH: 33 DS #1: April 2010 DS #2: July 2015 (preemie born at 31 weeks) - our little miracle conceived through ART - unexplained secondary infertility/adenomyosis
Sorry you're feeling so down! I can relate. Sometimes it feels like there has to be a reason, right? Like why else would it be so hard? I try to hold onto the belief that maybe there's a GOOD reason did this...like god knows I need a bigger age gap than we hoped or planned for, like the perfect sibling for our DD is the next one to conceive, etc. The toughest times try us most and test our faith and it's so hard
Re: Feeling like I'm being punished
Easier said than done, but try to be gentle with yourself. You not getting pregnant has nothing to do with your parenting skills. And I'm sure you're an amazing mom.
Now I try to remember that God's timing will be perfect. It always is. That doesn't work on cd1 butI can usually remember it further in my cycle.
BFP #1 7/6/2012, EDD 3/13/2013, Delivered 3/14/2013
BFP #2 1/7/2014: EDD:9/14 MC: 1/9/2014 (confirmed via blood work)
BFP #3 7/5/2014: EDD 3/11/2015 MC: 7/15/2014
BFP #4 11/7/2014: EDD 7/17/2015~~Please be my RAINBOW!
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BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
BFP#3 EDD 12/21/13, Baby Boots born 11/23/13 My rainbow baby!
January PAL Siggy Challenge: Good Advice
DD 15.07.2012
BFP #2 01.18.2014, MMC 04.10.2014 15w5d
BFP #3 07.18.2014, MC 07.31.2014 5w6d
DX: RPL due to submucosal uterine fibroid. Hysteroscopy 12/16. All clear!
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Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
BFP #1: 6/25/09 EDD 2/13/10 @ 6 weeks- Saw HB @ 9 weeks - DS born 2/11/10 (39w5d)
BFP #2: 2/20/13 EDD 11/4/13 - Saw HB 3/19/13 (7w2d) - MMC discovered 4/13/13 (10w5d) - Est. loss @ 9w3d - D&C 4/14/13
BFP #4: 9/10/14 (3w6d) EDD 5/21/15 - natural MC 9/23/14 @ 5w5d
BFP #5: 11/23/14 (3w3d) EDD 8/4/15 - Please be our Rainbow!
BFP #1: 05/2012 DS born 12/30/12
BFP #2: 02/2014 Natural M/C 03/2014 @ 7 weeks
BFP #3: 06/2014 EDD: 02/17/2015 M/C @ 7w2d, D&E 7/15/14
DS #1: April 2010
DS #2: July 2015 (preemie born at 31 weeks) - our little miracle conceived through ART - unexplained secondary infertility/adenomyosis