Hey all! So, after S was born, I asked my clinic to contact our donor to see if she'd be willing to meet. I heard back this week and she said yes! She is willing to have a clinic-facilitated meeting, as a one-time thing, and no baby. She's about to get married and plans to try to have a baby and since she's not sure she'll get one (she's 34 now) she said it'd be too hard to meet one of her genetic offspring.
So now I'm kind of nervous and excited! To be honest, my goal is just to be able to tell Simone as much as I can about her. I didn't have a specific agenda, but now to avoid awkwardness I thought it'd be smart to have some things in mind to talk about or ask or share. I wondered - even for those of you who have no desire to meet your donor - but hypothetically, what would you want to get out if it? What would you ask/talk about or share?
We do plan to give her a sealed envelope with our contact info in case she would like to get in touch in the future and hope she will tell us her name so if Simone wants to find her at age 18, she can. But truthfully I hope she gets in touch sooner - esp. if she has a baby, which I have a hunch she might.
In any case...ideas, thoughts? I realize this is huge for her and want to be sensitive, and it's huge for us but I think in a different way. Thanks in advance for your thoughts and input!!
Lil'mamaz was born on Aug 21, 2014! She's PERFECT!
It's been a long road to here... Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+! June'12 - First RE Visit Sept. '12 - Tubes removed Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies! Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13 Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect. Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!! Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!! EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl! Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long. We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle