babys last name..

chrissimommy

My girl is due in less than two weeks! We are naming her Elsie Autumn (: the only thing that could change is the last name /: my boyfriend is unfaithful, and at the last minute I could switch from his name to mine depending on how he acts in L&D.

On a happy note- what are you naming your little one? (:

MuffinMom14

Thanks, @cantisa!

pnwlover12

So...what do you think will change between now and the birth? He will magically become faithful? How involved of a parent is he going to be to your baby?

savicke2009

Just make up a last name.. thats legit

CNJ4EVA

chrissimommy said:

my boyfriend is unfaithful, and at the last minute I could switch from his name to mine depending on how he acts in L&D.

OK, I'll bite.

On the off chance that this isn't MUD, his behavior in L&D should not be the deciding factor here. Then again, naming the baby is the least of the concerns for your situation.

golfingdarwinfish

I feel like he should have to do more than behave during L&D for LO to have his last name.

MrMrsandBaby

What the fuck?

Jennifer18131

Bare belly avatar

ADH0906

The use of backwards smiley faces is so telling ...

golfingdarwinfish

Jennifer18131 said:

Bare belly avatar

It's not completely bare; it's wearing a bow!

Jennifer18131

ADH0906 said:

The use of backwards smiley faces is so telling ...

It's what the kids are doing these days.

chicitygirl7

Well, this is like something straight from a Jerry a Springer episode. Keepin it classy!

BreandMikewedding

I would advise you to give the baby your last name. If you are already having issues with the baby's father, he may not be involved long term and it will make it easier on you and your baby if you have the same last name. Just my two cents!

MUBride23

Sounds like a more complex situation then we can comment on here OP.  I would try to look at things as objectively as you can though.  Your BF is not faithful to you, but what was the status of the relationship when the pregnancy happened?  Has there been discussion as to how involved he plans to be with your child.  Your relationship may not work, but hopefully both of you can have a successful relationship with your child.  The name is beautiful.  Good Luck!

trisharenee0316

Saragoeswest

I want to shake my head but I can't because this feels so urgent. October starts this week! Your baby is coming! Give her your last name!

Aarg

theresat858 said:

BreandMikewedding said:

I would advise you to give the baby your last name. If you are already having issues with the baby's father, he may not be involved long term and it will make it easier on you and your baby if you have the same last name. Just my two cents!

I agree completely.

Same...

JessAnnJ

BreandMikewedding said:

I would advise you to give the baby your last name. If you are already having issues with the baby's father, he may not be involved long term and it will make it easier on you and your baby if you have the same last name. Just my two cents!

I also agree with this.

chrissimommy

My boyfriend stepped out for the first time this week. It was an unplanned pregnancy. He told me about it immediately and we are working it out. Because, you know, we are human.

Thanks for everyone with serious replies. I think it's a good plan to give her my name! (:

The irrelevant comments about things like my BEAUTIFUL bare belly and use of "backwards" smiley faces.. Well, I'll chalk that up to pregnancy hormones!

chrissimommy

sarahmr416 said:

Yay! The drama continues!

"Pregnancy hormones" had nothing to do with the replies you received.

So just "no manners" then haha doesn't surprise me either way.

chrissimommy

Kaylajade8911 said:

chrissimommy said:

sarahmr416 said:

Yay! The drama continues!

"Pregnancy hormones" had nothing to do with the replies you received.

So just "no manners" then haha doesn't surprise me either way.

Your quotation doesn't really make sense for the insult you are trying to achieve.

I'm not trying to insult anyone.

chrissimommy

MRSclarke08 said:

chrissimommy said:

My boyfriend stepped out for the first time this week. It was an unplanned pregnancy. He told me about it immediately and we are working it out. Because, you know, we are human.

Thanks for everyone with serious replies. I think it's a good plan to give her my name! (:

The irrelevant comments about things like my BEAUTIFUL bare belly and use of "backwards" smiley faces.. Well, I'll chalk that up to pregnancy hormones!

1.  This context probably would've been helpful to add into your first post. 

2.  You obviously haven't been around much to understand our reactions.

3.  Hormones and "no manners" .... just no.

Obviously I haven't!

MrsSinner402

GUISE!!1! You were all rudesies! Get your hormones in check, gosh! We're all here 4 supporting each other . That's what TB is for, right?!?!?!1?1

MrsSinner402

MRSclarke08 said:

MrsSinner402 said:

GUISE!!1! You were all rudesies! Get your hormones in check, gosh! We're all here 4 supporting each other . That's what TB is for, right?!?!?!1?1

Dammit.  Now I'm gonna lose my badge.  ):

I didn't mean to be a whore knight... err, white knight I mean. You can keep your badge, I'll step down.

krysngreg

I wouldn't give my baby his last name. He has to sign the birth certificate, Or you will never get help from him. Make him pay at the least. Even if he doesn't want to be a part of LOs life he should still have to support her financially. If you don't need help supporting her great, save if for college.

ADH0906

chrissimommy said:

My boyfriend stepped out for the first time this week. It was an unplanned pregnancy. He told me about it immediately and we are working it out. Because, you know, we are human.

Thanks for everyone with serious replies. I think it's a good plan to give her my name! (:

The irrelevant comments about things like my BEAUTIFUL bare belly and use of "backwards" smiley faces.. Well, I'll chalk that up to pregnancy hormones!

I'm not pregnant.

slsl509

Stepped out for the first time this week? It's only Monday!

 Sad trombone.

BreandMikewedding

krysngreg said:

I wouldn't give my baby his last name. He has to sign the birth certificate, Or you will never get help from him. Make him pay at the least. Even if he doesn't want to be a part of LOs life he should still have to support her financially. If you don't need help supporting her great, save if for college.

No! No! No! ^ doesn't know what the fuck she is talking about!

1. It is 1000% easier to give the baby his name later if everything works out and he suddenly starts shitting rainbows than it is to change it from his last name to yours if things don't go perfectly.

2. He does NOT have to sign the birth certificate in order to be financially responsible for your child. You can prove paternity and he is responsible.

3. Because you are the mother and gave birth to your child, you have 100% say in your child's name. It is completely up to you.

duckr

krysngreg said:

I wouldn't give my baby his last name. He has to sign the birth certificate, Or you will never get help from him. Make him pay at the least. Even if he doesn't want to be a part of LOs life he should still have to support her financially. If you don't need help supporting her great, save if for college.

krysngreg

Whatever. I do know what I am talking about save your self the trouble and the attorney fees. Let him sign it. I have been throught this with my DHs ex. We had NO RIGHTs till we filed throught the AGs office on our selfs! After we had the test done. It seems to me he wants to be in there. So save your self some time and trouble.

Dont be such a bitch. I can't say anything on this site with out one of you rude bitches having something to say about it. Once paternity is proven he will be able to sign the birth certificate. Sounds to me like she knows he is the dad. So why complicate things

duckr

krysngreg said:

Whatever. I do know what I am talking about save your self the trouble and the attorney fees. Let him sign it. I have been throught this with my DHs ex. We had NO RIGHTs till we filed throught the AGs office on our selfs! After we had the test done. It seems to me he wants to be in there. So save your self some time and trouble. Dont be such a bitch. I can't say anything on this site with out one of you rude bitches having something to say about it. Once paternity is proven he will be able to sign the birth certificate. Sounds to me like she knows he is the dad. So why complicate things

trisharenee0316

krysngreg said:

Whatever. I do know what I am talking about save your self the trouble and the attorney fees. Let him sign it. I have been throught this with my DHs ex. We had NO RIGHTs till we filed throught the AGs office on our selfs! After we had the test done. It seems to me he wants to be in there. So save your self some time and trouble. Dont be such a bitch. I can't say anything on this site with out one of you rude bitches having something to say about it. Once paternity is proven he will be able to sign the birth certificate. Sounds to me like she knows he is the dad. So why complicate things

Truly, I have no idea what you're saying in this post.  I'm not trying to be rude, but I cannot understand what advice you really are giving the OP.  She can have him sign the birth certificate without giving the baby his last name.  The two aren't related.  

Also, I thought your ex didn't know until well after the baby's birth that the baby was his?  So really, you don't have experience with this type of situation.

krysngreg

Read my first post is was pretty clear. I never said she had to give the baby his name nor would I.

We had a test done ASA she was born. Texas state laws says she couldn't stay over night with us till after the age of 3. So really I DO.

Here you go again assuming you know me and my situation. Who the fuck are you to tell any one what they have experience in ? Let OP decide to take my advice or not I don't remember posting to engage in another bitch attack fest.

trisharenee0316

Hates everyone here, thinks everyone is a bitch, and can't stop herself from reading everything and commenting?

duckr

krysngreg said:

Read my first post is was pretty clear. I never said she had to give the baby his name nor would I. We had a test done ASA she was born. Texas state laws says she couldn't stay over night with us till after the age of 3. So really I DO. Here you go again assuming you know me and my situation. Who the fuck are you to tell any one what they have experience in ? Let OP decide to take my advice or not I don't remember posting to engage in another bitch attack fest.

trisharenee0316

krysngreg said:

Read my first post is was pretty clear. I never said she had to give the baby his name nor would I. We had a test done ASA she was born. Texas state laws says she couldn't stay over night with us till after the age of 3. So really I DO. Here you go again assuming you know me and my situation. Who the fuck are you to tell any one what they have experience in ? Let OP decide to take my advice or not I don't remember posting to engage in another bitch attack fest.

To the bolded: oooh, you got me. ) )

I only know what (nonsense, drivel, and lies) you post here.  Like where you judge people for smoking while pregnant, while admittedly smoking pot while pregnant.  

And I forgot, you do have experience of a significant other stepping out on you so maybe you feel bonded for that reason.  But just so I'm clear, I don't care about you or your situation, I just don't want you passing off crappy advice to someone who might actually think you know what you're talking about.

nikkiey18

I think a child should take the fathers last name. if things don't work out the way you want them to feel free to change the babies last name to yours. Give him the benefit of the doubt first, the way he treats you is not always going to be be how he will treat your baby.  

krysngreg

When did I EVER judge someone for smoking. Never. And I'm glad you can poke fun at someone's misfortunes. Does it make you feel good?