So DH told Reese that if she stayed on the couch next to him to watch the Yankees game, she wouldn't have to go upstairs to nap. If she got off the couch, she has to go upstairs. So, DH casually asked her to get him something. And Reese said "no. I can't!" We asked why not, and she said "If I get down I have to take a nap." She is stuck on the couch with DH all afternoon.
I don't think it sounds like a good idea either. What will it change? I feel like it'd make you feel worse, and not make anyrhing better. That's just me, though.
I am anti the meet up today.
I would text him and tell him that you don't want to meet up. You need time and you have plans.
Enjoy your time with JAP.
@jesuisfatiguee
I appreciate your input, I really do, but I am still having him come over. A 10 minute tear-and-apology-filled conversation over the phone was not satisfactory to me.
You better not have sex with him so help me God woman you don't let him put you in that box.
@jesuisfatiguee
Ok I'm stepping away now cause I'm getting pissed.
"Oh, you're probably getting back together with your ex wife? Here, have some pussy a parting gift."
So DH told Reese that if she stayed on the couch next to him to watch the Yankees game, she wouldn't have to go upstairs to nap. If she got off the couch, she has to go upstairs. So, DH casually asked her to get him something. And Reese said "no. I can't!" We asked why not, and she said "If I get down I have to take a nap." She is stuck on the couch with DH all afternoon.
I seriously chuckled.
It has been 40 minutes and she hasn't gotten off the couch.
I hope you didn't think I was judging I've Btdt and I would absolutely want closure I was just saying wait a day or 2 to get your thoughts together and make him sweat. I'll be here to drink with you later
I'd want closure but I don't think that I could handle having him come over right now. I'd need time to process my own emotions and figure out my thoughts before I gave him the chance to say anything else to me. I'd be afraid that what I'm feeling right now might cloud the situation.
I'm not judging. I've never been big on closure. I'm more of a rip the band aid off and walk away sort. If you want closure, I hope you get what you need.
And I don't mean to be insensitive. This exact situation has happened to me. It always made me feel worse when they'd try to explain why they didnt want me.
I've been in that same situation lots of times. I was always such a nice person. They really did care for me. I'm so great. I'm truly and amazing person and partner. They just don't want me for x bullshit reason.
And I don't mean to be insensitive. This exact situation has happened to me. It always made me feel worse when they'd try to explain why they didnt want me.
I've been in that same situation lots of times. I was always such a nice person. They really did care for me. I'm so great. I'm truly and amazing person and partner. They just don't want me for x bullshit reason.
Right!!! All it did for me is make me feel inadequate and then I'd go through a month or two trying to change who I am and act like a dumbass around that person because I thought if they saw the changes I'd be irresistible to them. I was fucking stupid.
Tell me about it... This is especially true for people who didn't want me because of looks or something like that. I can't tell you how many wardrobe changes, hair cuts, weight loss shit, or whatever I went through after a crappy break up,
Why oh why does it have to be fucking 80 million degrees out this weekend when we've had beautiful, comfortable FALL weather for the past 2 weeks now? Fuck summer...I'm done with you! AC units have already been taken out, and I'm ready for fall!
In other unrelated news, I am finding it near impossible to shave my Nether-regions when I can no longer see my vagina over my protruding, 6mo pregnant, and ever growing belly. There has to be a better way here!
Oh, and DH and I just had sex for the first time in probably about 3 months...we sorta lost count of how long its been. Big news here!!!!
Washing dishes with out a dishwasher is the worst!
Stupid broken dishwasher j ed bhrjejhd
I actually really enjoy washing dishes.
Yeah we havent had a dishwasher in years and it really doesnt bother me all that much. Probably bc I cant remember ever living anywhere besides my mama's house WITH a dishwasher, lol. So maybe its bc I dont know what im missing? Idk. Either way, I dont really care.
I just need any discussion to be the fuck overwith. The way we left it after our 10 minute convo I was like, "Okay, figure it out, and let me know."
No. If I decide I do want to give him a little time, then it's not going to be that open. I don't want him to think I'm telling him, "Well, go fuck your ex for awhile, decide if she's got your penis' forever home, and if not, then come on back."
No. It's not going to be like that. But I do want it over and done today.
I just need any discussion to be the fuck overwith. The way we left it after our 10 minute convo I was like, "Okay, figure it out, and let me know."
No. If I decide I do want to give him a little time, then it's not going to be that open. I don't want him to think I'm telling him, "Well, go fuck your ex for awhile, decide if she's got your penis' forever home, and if not, then come on back."
No. It's not going to be like that. But I do want it over and done today.
I agree, and I hope you guys get there today.
DS is 1DAF
"I realize I say the word fuck a lot, and I'd like to apologize but I don't give a shit." -Lewis Black
I just need any discussion to be the fuck overwith. The way we left it after our 10 minute convo I was like, "Okay, figure it out, and let me know."
No. If I decide I do want to give him a little time, then it's not going to be that open. I don't want him to think I'm telling him, "Well, go fuck your ex for awhile, decide if she's got your penis' forever home, and if not, then come on back."
No. It's not going to be like that. But I do want it over and done today.
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I would give yourself some time to process your own feelings and make him sweat
I also know that's easier said than done
I don't think it sounds like a good idea either. What will it change? I feel like it'd make you feel worse, and not make anyrhing better. That's just me, though.
While I don't agree with you I'll still be here with a shoulder to cry on and lots of alcohol when it's all done.
I'm not judging. I've never been big on closure. I'm more of a rip the band aid off and walk away sort. If you want closure, I hope you get what you need.
Do what you need to do.
I cried because the house will not be completely cleaned when he gets home. Then he got annoyed that I thought he cared if the house was perfect.
He was trying to make me happy by getting out early and I cry.
Welcome home, DH.
Tell me about it... This is especially true for people who didn't want me because of looks or something like that. I can't tell you how many wardrobe changes, hair cuts, weight loss shit, or whatever I went through after a crappy break up,
In other unrelated news, I am finding it near impossible to shave my Nether-regions when I can no longer see my vagina over my protruding, 6mo pregnant, and ever growing belly. There has to be a better way here!
Oh, and DH and I just had sex for the first time in probably about 3 months...we sorta lost count of how long its been. Big news here!!!!
Yeah we havent had a dishwasher in years and it really doesnt bother me all that much. Probably bc I cant remember ever living anywhere besides my mama's house WITH a dishwasher, lol. So maybe its bc I dont know what im missing? Idk. Either way, I dont really care.
Shes an ex for a reason, cute dad [-(
So sorry @jesuisfatiguee, big hugs!!
I agree, and I hope you guys get there today.