Frustrated to Tears

I am just so beyond frustrated with our agency. I am so tired of asking questions and not getting straight answers. Just one example- I asked today if I was correct that their were 11 couples approved and waiting with the agency (as that is what is on their website). I got a 'no, some couples opt not to advertise via the website'. Okay, I totally respect that... but then you're just basically ignoring the questions.

We're just shy of 20 months. Our profile has been shown twice (Feb '13 and May '13). The agency hasn't worked with any expectant mothers since May.

We know we probably need to sign on with a national agency, but we just don't have the extra $10,000.

I hate how much this whole process costs and how hard it is. We just want to be parents. I truly thought that our fifth loss, our son at 17 weeks, was the darkest times but I'm starting to feel like that was just a warm up to this crazy adoption roller coaster.

I feel like something needs to change or my head is gonna go pop!
TTC since June 2010
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Re: Frustrated to Tears

  • Sending lots of Hugs your way! 
    January 2014--Picked Agency, had informational Meeting and turned in Application
    June      2014--Started our Home Study (all paperwork &fingerprinting that ensued)
    August  2014--Finished our Home Study and Officially Waiting

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  • I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I know it's tough. 
  • Those #'s are really low....I wouldn't sign on with another agency, but rather with a group of referral agencies. If you pick around 5 you shouldn't spend more than maybe 3k and most of them won't charge you unless you are matched through them.
  • So sorry you're having such a rough time. Those numbers are kind if riduculous and I think your agency is irresponsible to continue taking new families knowing that. Hope something changes for the better soon.
    Birthmom to A, 1/8- the most beautiful thing I've ever seen.

    A Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. -Lao-Tzu

  • I'm so sorry. I hope you find a way to speed things up within your budget soon.
  • So sorry!



    "Even miracles take a little time"

  • (((hugs)))
    Love 2010 | Marriage 2011 | TTC #1 since 2012
    PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
  • Hugs to you!


  • Hugs.
    Ready to take the road less traveled. 
  • I just sent you a PM. Hope it helps.
    Cervical Cancer Survivor since 2007 TTC Since 2008 IUI#1 = BFN IUI#2 = BFN IUI#3 = BFN IUI#4 = BFN IVF #1 = BFN FET #1 = BFN FET #2 = BFN FET #3 = BFN IVF #2 = BFN IVF #3 = BFN FET #4 = BFN FET #5 = BFP!!! 06/10/2011 Miscarriage 06/21/2011 Adoption Application Submitted 09/2011, Personal Documents Submitted 11/18/2011, Home Visit 12/16/2011, Officially Waiting!!! 01/21/2013 MATCHED!!!! 01/24/2013 Baby Boy Born! Lilypie First Birthday tickers
  • I am sorry to hear that... I hate this process too. Hugs to you and wish you a better time with this process.
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