WWPD?

aforst

DS1 told us at dinner last night that a friend of his, we'll call her "J", told him that her dad died.  He then went on to tell us that J told him that her dad was running late for work and her dad's boss had a gun and shot her dad.  I have no clue if this is true or not.  Our community isn't huge and I haven't heard anything like that on the news, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen.  If it did happen, that's obviously very sad.  I asked DS1 if he thought she was joking and he said he didn't know.

If this isn't true, is it concerning that she's telling stories like this?  I know kids have wild imaginations.  I guess my question is, would you mention anything to his teacher? I do not know her parents.  This little girl is not in his 1st grade class, but they are friends b/c of Kindergarten.  I can't tell if that's overreacting or not.  It would be one thing if she were telling him things about abuse, but she's not.  Again, I just can't tell if I should say anything or just leave it alone.  Thoughts?

BluepointToasted

I would mention it to the teacher. I feel like you probably would have heard about it if it were true, at least in my district we usually know when a student's parent dies unexpectedly. If it's not true I think it at least warrants a chat with the school counselor or psychologist for the little girl.  The making up stories is not concerning really at that age, but she could use a lesson on how a story like that could be damaging.

aforst

BluepointToasted said:

I would mention it to the teacher. I feel like you probably would have heard about it if it were true, at least in my district we usually know when a student's parent dies unexpectedly. If it's not true I think it at least warrants a chat with the school counselor or psychologist for the little girl.  The making up stories is not concerning really at that age, but she could use a lesson on how a story like that could be damaging.

We definitley took this opportunity to talk to DS about how we don't make up stories about things like this.  Again, it could be true, and I really hope it's not. I guess if it were DS that was telling stories like this on the playground, I would want to know.

phunkyphish

I'd probably mention it to the teacher. Like you said, if it were my child telling stories like this, I'd want to know.

cattuccino

I would also mention it to the teacher. 
If it isn't true, I'd be concerned at the stories being told. If it is true, or any part of it is true, then It's still important people are looking out for her. 

I say this with a lot of emotion. I have history and experience with stories being told, which stemmed from an abusive and unhealthy environment. 

BluepointToasted

cattuccino said:

....stories being told, which stemmed from an abusive and unhealthy environment. 

I didn't consider this possibility, but if this story is indeed not true, it could be her trying to make sense of something else going on in her life.