One Year

jellybean529

So ladies...I've been single parenting for a whole year as of this past Sunday. And I survived! I was actually surprised because I didn't even remember the day had passed until today.

Emotionally I'm in such a better place than where I was a year ago. The rest of me is catching up. I'm not at all where or how I envisioned I'd be after a year but I'm in a good place.

Any ladies who are new here or new to single parenting and scared...you are so much stronger than you think. You can do this. Shit, if I can, anyone can.

Hugs to you all. And thank you 100 times over for all of the support you've given.

MinnesotaMomma91

I love you jelly! You are such an awesome mom and your dd is so lucky to have you

jellybean529

Thank you ladies!

@becwheat I have to share with you...the day my ex and I split, and he walked out, one of the first things I thought about was my time lurking on SP on TheBump and you were one of the first people who came to mind...I thought "I need to be strong like THAT". Sorry if that's creepy...haha...but you were an inspiration! 

tig594

I know you've had some rough patches and A has too. You're doing a great job though. I wish for great things for you both. you!

jellybean529

Thanks ladies I am proud of myself and I know great things are to come.

And ALL OF YOU LADIES SHOULD BE PROUD OF YOURSELVES TOO. Every last one of you

20thirteen

Happy one year anniversary sweetheart!

But seriously, you're doing great! I'm so glad you came here and we all got to know you!

MinnesotaMomma91

Creepy confession... when @jellybean529 introed i just knew shed be an awesome addition to the board and i was really hoping you werent going to be a drive by.

Maybe its because im the youngest mom on the board, but i look up to all of you.

jellybean529

You're all so sweet. Meeting all of you has been one of the best things to come out of this shitty situation

freeatlast2014

Wow that's such an accomplishment! Thank you for sharing your experiences and being an inspiration to me.

jellybean529

freeatlast2014 said:

Wow that's such an accomplishment! Thank you for sharing your experiences and being an inspiration to me.

Hugs @freeatlast2014. You're gonna rock this too. Hang in there!

Helenahhandbasket

This is a great post!

1) I think it's awesome that the day passed without you even realizing it.  IMO, that means you have moved on.  I think I remember reading somewhere that hate isn't the opposite of love, but indifference is.

2) Kudos to being a single mom for a full year.  I have been doing it now for 3 months and it's HARD, and I have a lot of help from my mom and my STBXH lives close. 

So good for you-- I hope in 9 months I will get to write a post like this

jellybean529

Helenahhandbasket said:

This is a great post!

1) I think it's awesome that the day passed without you even realizing it.  IMO, that means you have moved on.  I think I remember reading somewhere that hate isn't the opposite of love, but indifference is.

2) Kudos to being a single mom for a full year.  I have been doing it now for 3 months and it's HARD, and I have a lot of help from my mom and my STBXH lives close. 

So good for you-- I hope in 9 months I will get to write a post like this

Thank you I know in 9 months you'll be writing this same thing. You're right -- this shit is hard, even with help it's hard. Parenting is just hard work in general. But we buckle down and we do it for those special little people in our lives, right?

And you're also right about indifference being the opposite of love. I've definitely moved on and it feels really good to be in that place. 

Khaleesi07

@jellybean529 I'm exactly where you were at a year ago, and it's so inspiring to hear that you are doing so well one year later. Hopefully I can say the same in one year.

Keep up the good work!