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February 2014 Moms
Meghan14
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SAHM check-in 9/23
Meghan14
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Hi Girls! I hope everyone is doing well. I've been off tb for a bit, I hope I didn't miss anything important. But I've been looking forward to the check-in for a few days now.
What were your successes this week?
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
What helped save your sanity?
Topic for the week: Many of us have mentioned trying to get some "me time". How are you making time for yourself? How are you and your partner making time for each other?
GTKY: Favorite fall activities?
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.
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Re: SAHM check-in 9/23
What were your successes this week?
That I only broke down and cried from stress/ exhaustion once?
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
Really tough week. Short version: Sick baby= cranky with no naps. Allergic reaction to bug bite = trying to stay off my feet for 2 days. ILs invited themselves over to "help". DH stressed/busy at work = less help.
Also people expect us to be psychic in regards to their plans and not understanding that our availability is not what it was pre-baby. We can no longer make an OOT wedding a 4 day party, we have other responsibilities.
What helped save your sanity?
I declared Friday a sick day and only did what was essential to take care of LO. The rest of the day I just vegged and watched TV with my nasty swollen foot up. I did the same after the ILs left Saturday and just let DH do all baby things for about 3 hours.
Topic for the week: Many of us have mentioned trying to get some "me time". How are you making time for yourself? How are you and your partner making time for each other?
H and I have done a good job of making time for each other. His idea of a perfect date night is to cook a nice dinner and cuddle on the couch. So whenever we need us time we eat a little later after LO has gone to sleep.
Me time is a struggle. I feel like I have to schedule in advance and even then things come up (like ILs coming over-ugh!). I finally broke last night, handed H LO and ran his errands for him because it was a break from the whining. Not really my idea of me time, but at least it was quiet.
GTKY: Favorite fall activities?
Today is the first day I could turn off the AC and open the windows. I can't wait for sweatshirt weather, the 1 plus of the wedding we are attending in 2 weeks. I'm already excited for Halloween. I love getting to spend time outdoors this time of year, but it really makes me miss the Northeast.
UO- I hate all pumpkin flavored stuff.
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.
As mentioned I've been spending less time on TB. Nothing is wrong, I've just been feeling a bit overwhelmed. Sorry I haven't been here. Hopefully I'm back, I'm sure I have a lot to catch up on.
Hi @Meghan14! Sorry to hear you've been having a rough time. Hoping things are looking up for you.
@MissDemeanor I sent you PM yesterday, in case you didn't already see
What were your successes this week? Getting the house cleaned up, seeing my former principal for dinner, and taking LO to visit some family friends who haven't seen him in awhile.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week? I'm not in a great place today. Yesterday H left at 7am and didn't get home until 10pm. I feel like I'm a supporting character in the Mr. ShellBell Show. I've also had a cold and LO has had a cold, so it's been rough.
What helped save your sanity? Spending some time with my mom, loud music on the radio while I'm driving alone
Topic for the week: Many of us have mentioned trying to get some "me time". How are you making time for yourself? How are you and your partner making time for each other? Haaaahahahahaha. Yeah, right. On both accounts.
The only me time I've had in weeks is when I'm driving to or from work. I mean, it's something, but it's not a time I can do something I enjoy or relax. DH did take LO on a walk Sunday, but I was cleaning and couldn't just drop that to enjoy an empty house. I'm hard pressed to find a time to paint my nails. I have gotten better about taking some time during LOs afternoon nap to read or veg or watch TV. I'm ready for a break by 3pm! But I also need that nap for dinner prep too. I have a Friday off in a couple weeks, and I'm sending LO to DC and I'm spending some time by myself. In my house. Without someone climbing on me or making me feel bad about not scheduling my oil change yet.
Time with DH? That's a joke, right? We went to Tim Hortons after my surprise birthday party, so that was 20 minutes of romance. We have opportunities, but I feel like they're all wasted. We had a 90 minute drive on Friday and Sunday -- we could have had a nice talk. And DH talked the whole time about his work stuff and comparing different IT products. I have nothing to contribute there. In the evenings, we could have more time, but he's usually watching a TV show that I'm not interested in, so I read (or clean up toys and do dishes and pump). I guess I could choose not to read, but it's also one of the only times of day I can relax. Plus, I'd like him to make some effort too. I'm feeling very much like we're two grown ups who live in the same house and that's it. It's hard right now.
GTKY: Favorite fall activities? Baking apple crisp, going outside to see fall foliage, decorating my home for fall, Thanksgiving, wearing sweaters and scarves without having to bundle up in a winter coat. We're taking LO to a pumpkin farm on Saturday, and I'm excited for that. I have his outfit all picked out already. (OMG I'm a loser)
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.
@Misdemeanor : ((HUGS)) sorry your BF isn't more help. I hope the trip goes ok.
@MadisonPenny : Yay for finishing your deep cleaning. The idea of a really clean house turns me on a little... I'm a crazy person. I am so sorry to hear about the migraine. Is there anything worse? Your fall activities make me super jealous it's still 80+ here. Did you post pics (yours or what you copied) of you new hair. I'd love to see it. I'm sorry you hate it, I'm sure it looks great.
@Shellbell3845 : I'm sorry things are a bit rough for you too. I hadn't thought of the "supporting character" things before, but it's a good way to some up how I sometimes feel now that I'm home all the time. I'm sorry you time has been a struggle. I'm looking forward to your Friday off for you. I'm sorry you and DH aren't spending enough time together. OMG- apple crisp sounds so good. Also, I want to go to a pumpkin patch!!!! Maybe I'll try to squeeze that in during our trip north.
@Meghan14- That sounds like a horrible week at your house! If I’m sick I much prefer to send LO out to MIL’s so I don’t feel judged on what I do or feel like I have to still entertain.
@Madisonpenny –I’ve only had 1 migraine and that was enough to know that I am lucky to never get them. I can’t imagine having that with a baby! Hopefully it fades soon! And sorry about the haircut! That’s the worst when it should rejuvenate us but we regret the time in the chair.
@mevaroo are you a distance runner? I’m a 5K/10K person myself. Past that there is no such thing as fun in running. J
What were your successes this week?
Finally sickness free! LO’s cold lasted 17 days again.
Got a gym membership and have gone twice. 1 day a week I will be leaving LO at the gym daycare other days he stays with MIL for the hour. A little nervous for how he will do but excited to get me time and to work on my body. (I gained 50+ pounds in pregnancy. I had a fairly cute figure pre-baby and want it back!!!)
We got a few errands run with LO on Saturday. He’s been doing great in the car and at stores. We’re loving that our son is finally turning into a great baby.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
Hit a low on Wednesday. Best friend just had a baby and that caused all sorts of stupid feelings. (Jealousy, guilt for feeling jealous, stuff that doesn’t make ANY sense ya know?)
Trying to be patient with LO. He has some great nap days, other days all 5 of his naps are 45 minutes max. And nothing people suggest works. He is what he is and I’m still trying to accept that.
What helped save your sanity?
DH during my meltdown day, and the gym. Also having some plans for this week has been great—even if most of them are just doctors appointments, it’s still getting out of the house.
Topic for the week: Many of us have mentioned trying to get some "me time". How are you making time for yourself? How are you and your partner making time for each other?
I’m still a work in progress balancing relaxing time with getting things done around the house during naps. I’ve already failed this week a little at that. I want to have “me” time for both of us but we are bad and usually end up doing dishes, cleaning or DH does homework. Most of the time, just a few minutes not having to entertain the baby is enough. DH doesn’t really have a hobby aside from gaming. But I think he enjoys doing things around our new house. 2 weekends ago I got him to go out with his siblings for dessert. He’s always great about making sure I’m getting out though.
GTKY: Favorite fall activities?
Carving pumpkins for sure! Excited for that with LO this year. We aren’t big on Halloween but it brings on this craziness of baking in me too….not a good mix for trying to lose weight. Oh boy!.
I also was a band geek in high school so I LOVE going to football games and watching the halftime shows. My heart still races when I hear drum lines warming up.
Anything else? (I’m adding this one this week…hope that’s okay!)
LO has started screaming/yelling when he’s mad/cranky. Just curious how you ladies deal with it. He’s a little young to understand but I don’t want him to think it’s okay.
What were your successes this week? first tooth came through and it made all the drama well worth it.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week? we all got sick and it was awful. taking care of lo while i felt like crap was not fun. i got nothing done housework wise
What helped save your sanity? my mom was a big help. she had me come over and took care of lo and let me sleep. i don't know what i would've done without her this week. and normally my mother is NO help so it was very out of character for her. it was a nice change
Topic for the week: Many of us have mentioned trying to get some "me time". How are you making time for yourself? How are you and your partner making time for each other? ha! whats that? bc i can't even go to the bathroom without LO coming in to try and knock over the trash can.
GTKY: Favorite fall activities? ooooh the apple orchards and getting fresh apple pie. and Costco's pumpkin pie. best $14 ever spent
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having. i find out next week if ill have to go back to work or not! keep your fingers crossed that the finances work in my favor and i won't have to go back to work