Why is everyone so hostile?

MAYAA1

I don't understand why everything needs to turn hostile and people can't just answer a question like decent human beings. If you don't agree you don't agree...Simple as that. There is a way to give advice/your opinion without without belittling someone for asking a question. People have different views and beliefs and it is ignorant to think otherwise. Who knows maybe someone just is asking a question to see who else is in the same boat as them. Just because they didn't word it the way you want them to,have miss spelling or different views than you is not an excuse to make someone feel stupid.

I understand I am rambling now and this just may do the opposite of what I am saying. But come on! This is for support and giving people peace of mind! Not ganging up on people. And if this is your way of making yourself feel better please choose somewhere else to do it. This is the last place that needs to be so hostile. We know 99% of the ladies on here are not doctors, scientist or whatever. People just want your support, expiences, and decent advice.
Ok I'm done. Please don't try to twist my words around and if I offended you that was not my intent.

PrimRoseMama

Lol

MAYAA1

emmyg65 said:

Mostly it's because a bunch of us have been around here for a while and see the same questions (most which could be answered by a quick search either here or on Google or with common sense) asked 1,000 times. There's only so many times you can say "a line is a line," "if the test is negative, you're not pregnant" or "yes you can still use your facewash/drink coffee/go for a run" before you start to get annoyed.

I see what you are saying....drives me crazy sometimes when my son ask the same questions over and over again.

I used to come on here 4 years ago when I was pregnant with my son and it wasn't this bad. At least I didn't think it was.

But there are new people on here that don't know whatever they are asking. And I don't see how it's ok to put down what they are saying because you have seen it over and over again.

So haha in a nut shelI.....i understand it can be annoying but I personally don't think you should put them down for it.

PrimRoseMama

Do you think this post will change anything?

MAYAA1

Most likely not people are going to be who they are. But maybe someone will rethink a response or something. I'll never know.
It's worth a try though.

PrimRoseMama

MAYAA1 said:

Most likely not people are going to be who they are. But maybe someone will rethink a response or something. I'll never know.
It's worth a try though.

Perhaps you should rethink your approach? :-??

MAYAA1

CrazyMonkeyBear said:

If I can make a suggestion-- if you want support, a good bra might be the right idea.

The bump? I'm here for entertainment and to waste time when bored.

Haha thank you for you suggestion. That is one of the things I need to do by the way. My boobs are killing me by the end of the day sometimes.

MAYAA1

PrimRoseMama said:

MAYAA1 said:

Most likely not people are going to be who they are. But maybe someone will rethink a response or something. I'll never know.
It's worth a try though.

Perhaps you should rethink your approach? :-??

Yea you are probably right....I just feel bad for some of these people that ask questions and are bombarded with negativity.

PrimRoseMama

MAYAA1 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

MAYAA1 said:

Most likely not people are going to be who they are. But maybe someone will rethink a response or something. I'll never know.
It's worth a try though.

Perhaps you should rethink your approach? :-??

Yea you are probably right....I just feel bad for some of these people that ask questions and are bombarded with negativity.

Reality =/= negativity. Seriously.

CoPilot2012

MAYAA1

Kimbus22 said:

Where is the Friends "THIS IS COMPLETELY NEW INFORMATION!" GIF?  Someone throw that shit up in here.

I'm so tired of people bitching about how we respond to things.  No one makes you stay here.  You don't have to make a giant movie speech and be dramatic. If you don't like the tone of the board, just go.

You do realize you are bitching right now.

And I can also say the same. If you are tired of it don't bother with the thread.

Anyways yes that was probably a little too long bitching session for me. But I felt it needed to be said.

MAYAA1

PrimRoseMama said:

MAYAA1 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

MAYAA1 said:

Most likely not people are going to be who they are. But maybe someone will rethink a response or something. I'll never know.
It's worth a try though.

Perhaps you should rethink your approach? :-??

Yea you are probably right....I just feel bad for some of these people that ask questions and are bombarded with negativity.

Reality =/= negativity. Seriously.

There's positivity too.

DawnLilly

MAYAA1 said "Just because they didn't word it the way you want them to,have miss spelling or different views than you is not an excuse to make someone feel stupid."

*have misspelled, or have different views than you...

This was a terrible sentence for you to make mistakes on if you had wanted me to take you seriously. Yes, I am an Oxford comma supporter.

MAYAA1

DawnLilly said:

MAYAA1 said "Just because they didn't word it the way you want them to,have miss spelling or different views than you is not an excuse to make someone feel stupid."

*have misspelled, or have different views than you...

This was a terrible sentence for you to make mistakes on if you had wanted me to take you seriously. Yes, I am an Oxford comma supporter.

Well I am sorry my grammer was not perfect but I feel that's besides the point.

I guess we will have to agree to disagree. Didn't realize this would make so many people angry and maybe the was ignorant of me. But I still belive it was worth a try. And with that being said I am done.

PrimRoseMama

MAYAA1 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

MAYAA1 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

MAYAA1 said:

Most likely not people are going to be who they are. But maybe someone will rethink a response or something. I'll never know.
It's worth a try though.

Perhaps you should rethink your approach? :-??

Yea you are probably right....I just feel bad for some of these people that ask questions and are bombarded with negativity.

Reality =/= negativity. Seriously.

There's positivity too.

Just to point out, you seem to be of the belief that anything NOT positive/fluffy is negative. That is a no-win approach for everyone.

Just because folks are keeping it real & are willing to put a little tough love out there does NOT mean they are being negative.

MAYAA1

PrimRoseMama said:

MAYAA1 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

MAYAA1 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

MAYAA1 said:

Most likely not people are going to be who they are. But maybe someone will rethink a response or something. I'll never know.
It's worth a try though.

Perhaps you should rethink your approach? :-??

Yea you are probably right....I just feel bad for some of these people that ask questions and are bombarded with negativity.

Reality =/= negativity. Seriously.

There's positivity too.

Just to point out, you seem to be of the belief that anything NOT positive/fluffy is negative. That is a no-win approach for everyone.

Just because folks are keeping it real & are willing to put a little tough love out there does NOT mean they are being negative.

Ok one more.....

No...everything is not positive. And I probably do seem like everything is dandy...With flowers and candy. Negativity was probably the wrong word to use. If i didn't believe someone was pregnant i would tell them that they may not be pregant. I'm saying we don't have to make then feel stupid and jump down their throat.

Maybe my whole little speech came out wrong at some points. I just think we should treat people like human beings.

PrimRoseMama

MAYAA1 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

MAYAA1 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

MAYAA1 said:

PrimRoseMama said:

MAYAA1 said:

Most likely not people are going to be who they are. But maybe someone will rethink a response or something. I'll never know.
It's worth a try though.

Perhaps you should rethink your approach? :-??

Yea you are probably right....I just feel bad for some of these people that ask questions and are bombarded with negativity.

Reality =/= negativity. Seriously.

There's positivity too.

Just to point out, you seem to be of the belief that anything NOT positive/fluffy is negative. That is a no-win approach for everyone.

Just because folks are keeping it real & are willing to put a little tough love out there does NOT mean they are being negative.

Ok one more.....

No...everything is not positive. And I probably do seem like everything is dandy...With flowers and candy. Negativity was probably the wrong word to use. If i didn't believe someone was pregnant i would tell them that they may not be pregant. I'm saying we don't have to make then feel stupid and jump down their throat.

Maybe my whole little speech came out wrong at some points. I just think we should treat people like human beings.

We can't make anyone feel anything. Everyone is an adult & responsible for their own feelings. If someone feels dumb for asking an internet message board to determine if they are pregnant* then that is on them. It's not a rational expectation.

No one is being inhumane to expect basic common sense.

ETA: not enough coffee to type

allrightmeow

Soooo this is all because you were told to talk to your doctor on your other post?  

MAYAA1

A little and I read the deodorant post. Plus I was proving a point to my husband.

WashingtonQueen

Alrighty then.

Amstreagle

Are you done yet?

allrightmeow

MAYAA1 said:

A little and I read the deodorant post. Plus I was proving a point to my husband.

Do tell. 

samiamagirl

kyliedaniellexx said:

I have a strong feeling your husband really doesn't give even half a fuck about us bitches on the pregnancy forum.

Unlurking to say that my husband's bigger worry is that some women only heed advice from people on a pregnancy forum and not their doctor.

Relurking.

MAYAA1

allrightmeow said:

MAYAA1 said:

A little and I read the deodorant post. Plus I was proving a point to my husband.

Do tell. 

He asked me why am I on here because it's l pretty much frustrated pregnant women taking out their frustration out on other people.

And I guess he was right...for some.

MAYAA1

Taking their frustration out*

Sorry I'm multitasking right now.

MAYAA1

And yes I was "trolling". I was curious.

MAYAA1

Ok wait what exactly is trolling.

If that means reading a thread then I guess I did.

MAYAA1

Haha ok I done. Yes, I know it's the second time saying that.

MAYAA1

Haha ok I'm* done. Yes, I know it's the second time saying that.

allrightmeow

You wrote that whole thing because you were told to seek the advice of a medical professional instead of strangers on the net.  Which was 100% legit advice.  Then you read a post by someone looking for "pregnancy safe" deodorant, which is not a thing.  Some people had a giggle and pointed out how ridiculous that was.  While others told her that they continue to use deodorant of the regular variety.  From those two interactions you have deemed everyone here hostile.  

Cool beans.

PrimRoseMama

MAYAA1 said:

A little and I read the deodorant post. Plus I was proving a point to my husband.

Uh, I love my husband-- but aside from the funny gifs I don't really get into "proving a point" to him about anything on here. What exactly were you out to prove to him?

This is insane. You are taking the internet far too seriously. Sweet Jeebus.

WashingtonQueen

MAYAA1 said:

And yes I was "trolling". I was curious.

FYI, trolling is not allowed.

Alygohome

YAWN

Amstreagle

katehgee said:

MAYAA1 said "Just because they didn't word it the way you want them to,have miss spelling or different views than you is not an excuse to make someone feel stupid." *have misspelled, or have different views than you... This was a terrible sentence for you to make mistakes on if you had wanted me to take you seriously. Yes, I am an Oxford comma supporter.

Well I am sorry my grammer was not perfect but I feel that's besides the point. I guess we will have to agree to disagree. Didn't realize this would make so many people angry and maybe the was ignorant of me. But I still belive it was worth a try. And with that being said I am done.

Ugh... How about this: *grammar *beside the point *that was ignorant *believe Proper use of the English language is no joke. And for the rest of this, you can't dictate how people respond on an OPEN, PUBLIC Internet forum. And yes, trying to tell adults what to do is a great way to piss people off.

SuperTinkerham

MommyOfAMiracle

 

@supertinkerham - Your swag gif...

AWESOME.

kimmycup

@dawnlilly This is really random but, do you still have a crush on Jensen? Because...hello

DawnLilly

@kimmycup NOT RANDOM! Are you mobile? You should click on desktop view because he's in my siggy. You also posted pretty much my favorite picture of him too.

Um you're scaring me a little though. You must have an excellent memory. You are going to have to refresh my memory as to how you knew that.

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kimmycup

@dawnlilly haha don't worry, I'm not a stalker! I'm on the desktop and I saw your siggy challenge. I happen to love Jensen, and Supernatural, so your siggy stuck out to me. I was curious if you still liked him, or if it was just a teen crush. 

That is funny that I picked your favorite picture of him. That was coincidence! 

DawnLilly

Oh lol. On and off he has made an appearance in my siggy for years and my favorite memes are usually of him that's why I though you might have remembered something prior to this. He's such a good physical actor. I don't know anyone, even on the big screen, that can express things through mannerisms like he does. Definitely not just a teen crush