Things that you should NOT add to your registry.

digwriter

Maybe I'm being slightly judgemental, but I've just finished shopping from a friend's registry and I must admit to side eyeing a couple of things. Maybe it's just me but I really don't think that it's appropriate to register for a nursing bra and breast pads.

What things do you consider inappropriate to add to a registry?

Neesey

I bought off a target registry where the couple had registered for ding dongs and chips. Uh, no!

CatLadyTX

I was uncomfortable registering for things for my boobs, but is can see why people would. The amount of breast pads I went through was astounding.

michelle142

I'm in the "register for whatever the hell you want to" camp.

People might side-eye that, but side-eye all you want, you don't actually need to buy it. And if someone does buy it? Bonus. Especially if it's chips.

jennjilljo

I only added things I would want others to buy for me until after my shower with DS. After the shower the registry wad just a shopping list. A lot of people make a shopping list type registry before the shower though.

missnicoleo

If it's baby related I say go for it! I'm the last in my group to have a baby so they have seen and used alllll that stuff before. No need to be squeamish!

digwriter

To each their own. I just think it odd to ask someone to buy a bra for you.

jennasnipes

I put breast pads and nipple cream on my registry! I just considered them feeding and hygene essentials right along with baby shampoo and a nursing pillow. Maybe I'm an ignorant FTM, but I figured, why not!

lilybug319

I think the breast pads are okay but the bra is weird. Buy your own damn nursing bra.

ordinary1

Personally I'm not comfortable adding them, but don't side eye it. I side eye the people that put nursery decor or non baby related things. Also, garbage cans. Just because someone doesn't want a diaper genie or equivalent doesn't mean they should register for a garbage can.

ordinary1

Most people I know put the theme in the comments.

aggiebug

Neesey said:

I bought off a target registry where the couple had registered for ding dongs and chips. Uh, no!

haha to me this just sounds like a bored husband with the scanner gun.  If it was a couples shower I just might  purchase that as a gag gift for the H.  

BeckyP005

Can't remember which board I read it on but the Duggar girl that is pg registered for pop. Strange but I would expect that from them

ordinary1

I saw that on the BSB! (Is anyone surprised I hang out there lol.)

kdhuling

I think anything baby related is fair game. I'm not having a shower though so I guess it's a little different no one will be looking at mine so putting nipple cream and breast pads on my didn't feel weird. I guess it all just depends on individual comfort level. I would judge the hell out of someone who registered for non baby things though.

Sahara6971

I know a girl who registered for lamps. Not the kind that would go in a nursery, but oddly enough, they matched her bedroom perfectly!

I say anything baby related is fair game. I wouldn't put nursing bras on my registry because that is a bit too personal. But a breast pump and pads are alright IMO.

HailsMom

I personally think adding the nursing stuff gives people an idea that you plan to nurse.

psychobutthead

I wouldnt regist for nursing bras or nipple creams. I dont want people thinking about my boobs.

PippyLongstocking1

My cousin registered for a potty chair. Idk, I thought that was a little strange! The baby wouldn't use it for probably 2 years! But to each their own I guess! I agree that breast pads/pumps/creams are all ok, but I won't be registering for a nursing bra or tank tops!!

Angeldcf

NO List:
-Lots of clothes!  I wouldn't side-eye, but from experience, people will buy clothes anyways so register for things.  Plus clothes tend to be store-specific.

-Toddler stuff.  No official etiquette, but I think cut-off for a baby registry should be 12 months old.

-Non-baby related stuff: xbox, food, non-nursery furniture

I'm ok with breast pads, cream, milk bags, pump parts.  It helps to make the idea of breastfeeding less taboo for folks.

jaztastic

Some of y'all are crazy... With the exception of food (soda, candy, chips) I think everything is fair game. I have super expensive furniture all the way to cloth diaper liners on my registry. Side eye if you want, but if I need it because of the baby, I'm going to register for it. Everyone keeps saying on here that registries are just suggestions and you get what you get, so I don't think it matters either way. I have never looked at a friends registry and thought "eww tacky". I simply scrolled until I found the item in the category of what I wanted to purchase and got whatever was in my budget. I don't even pay the rest any attention honestly. Besides the rep at BRU told me to register for EVERYTHING to earn the credits/discounts. 

Lchanek

2 convertible car seats and bases, disposable bibs, mostly duplicates of the same thing at multiple places.

jaztastic

Lchanek said:

2 convertible car seats and bases, disposable bibs, mostly duplicates of the same thing at multiple places.

Why? Should parents of multiples not have multiple seats? Am I not allowed to have a car seat for both my car and DH car? Or even a spare seat? I can't tell you how many times I've heard how one parent left with the car seat in their car and now the parent with the kid is stuck without a seat. 

If diapers are allowed, why not disposable bibs? 

And why can't I duplicate at different stores? 

Never mind, this post is bothering me. I think I'm hormonal. 

Lrjjj08

I think all nursing stuff is fair game. If you can register for bibs and bottles then why not nipple cream and pads!?

Ducktale

I personally didn't register for my own personal hygiene products (nipple cream, nursing pads, etc) but I will add them after my shower to get the completion discount. I don't side eye if others register for those though. And we put nursery furniture on the registry because BRU you get a percentage of all registry purchases back in a gift card so that's a lot of money I can get back just because they're on my registry. Not everything is put on a registry just to ask people to buy it for you.

 There's not anything I can think of that I would side eye someone else for putting. Oh, my friend put size large nipple shields on her registry. Nothing wrong but I'd feel awkward with people knowing I have large sized nipples.

ordinary1

The only time I side eye multiples is when I know it's so grandma can have her own crib/jumper/whatever else.

kcwnc

Wowwwww. Register for what you want for the baby. We had friends and family that bought some of our furniture and nursing pads, what wasn't purchased we bought using the completion discount for our 1st child. Carseats are a-ok. No one is thinking about your boobs except you. Relax and register for what you need.

jennjilljo

I've only ever side eyed a registry once and that was because the woman let me know she was just registering for expensive stuff so other people would buy it because she never would. No product research, no definite knowledge of this is the product for my child, only how much does it cost.

mandamoochie

Register for anything and everything in my opinion. I put my crib and furniture on there because I knew people already offered to buy it for us so they could know which stuff to get...?

My least favorite question of ALL TIME was when my DH's aunt missed my shower and asked me what I wanted off the registry. UH isn't that the point of a registry?? You buy what your comfortable buying in your price range or pick something/nothing else. So I picked something around what she spent at my bridal shower and less than a week after ds was born she was throwing around how she HAD to buy us an expensive high chair. We wrote her a check for the high chair in her thank you note and haven't spoken to her since.

Tl:dr people are weird when it comes to registries... put whatever makes you happy on there.

ordinary1

sugahcookie01 said:

ordinary1 said:

The only time I side eye multiples is when I know it's so grandma can have her own crib/jumper/whatever else.

Who gives a fuck? Will the baby use it? Then it's fine.

By that philosophy, anything the child will ever use is acceptable. The point of a shower is to shower the mother to be with gifts and love; not stock up the family for everything the child will need during his/her entire life.

MaryS001

Wow, I totally missed the mark when I read the title of this post-- thought it was going to be a "what don't I need to register for" kind of thing.

In which case I was going to say a changing table, because you pretty much end up changing the baby all over the place.

But seeing the way it's gone, I'll just exit quietly instead...

jaztastic

ordinary1 said:

sugahcookie01 said:

ordinary1 said:

The only time I side eye multiples is when I know it's so grandma can have her own crib/jumper/whatever else.

Who gives a fuck? Will the baby use it? Then it's fine.

By that philosophy, anything the child will ever use is acceptable. The point of a
shower is to shower the mother to be with gifts and love; not stock up the family for everything the child will need during his/her entire life.

Ive actually been advised multiple times to register for all stages of baby/toddlers. I dont think Sugah was saying register for items for elementary school kids. But its for the baby (and by baby most people refer to 2 and under) why not?

StephanieLBerg

REGISTER FOR ALL THE THINGS!

But seriously though, if it's what you need for baby, nursing, or pregnancy at all; add it to the list. Most of the people shopping your list will probably have had kids of their own and know what to expect to see on a registry. Now, me personally, I would never add super expensive items to my registry just for the sake of them being super expensive and my baby absolutely must be given the best of the best. To me, that's just encouraging "silver spoon" syndrome for when the child gets older and expects to be given top shelf everything. But again, that's just me personally. As OP said in a response to this thread, "to each their own."

Sahara6971

jaztastic

I heart disposable bibs. For restaurant dining, they are a must. That is all.

jaztastic

Expensive is in the eye of the purchaser. AFM: After all of my infertility trouble, I proudly accept the role of silver spoon promoter.

cloe111479

I personally won't put the breast pads etc on the registry but my boobs are already too much conversation. I don't need anymore.

As far as the furniture, I don't expect people to get it but I want to have it on there to add to the bonus of the babies r us registry. Also, It has been hinted to me that others may want to get one of the pieces of furniture for us. (I.e. My office). It is not expected but it gives the option.

But I'm with others register for whatever ya want. It's your registry.

Ducktale

ordinary1 said:

The only time I side eye multiples is when I know it's so grandma can have her own crib/jumper/whatever else.

Who gives a fuck? Will the baby use it? Then it's fine.

By that philosophy, anything the child will ever use is acceptable. The point of a shower is to shower the mother to be with gifts and love; not stock up the family for everything the child will need during his/her entire life.

But registries are not just for showers. Put toilet paper on your registry for all I care if you can use a completion discount.

jennjilljo

I agree with that, @jaztastic‌. I say register for it if it's what you know you want and need for you and your baby. I think buying for a baby takes some level of effort and research based on your needs and limitations.

weansworld09

I registered for expensive furniture, nipple cream, nipple butter, and some toddler items. I agree if it's for the baby, then why the F not? I can understand people may be uncomfortable opening nipple shields or other personal type items at a shower, but in my case I don't feel that way.
I put items of all price ranges, etc. My cousin registered for nursing bras and post baby shapewear. It wasn't what I wanted to buy for her, so I didn't, but I also don't care that she registered for it.
I was hoping this thread would be more STMs giving advice on crap they didn't feel was necessary or maybe we could go without.

ordinary1

Fair enough on the for the baby not school age children. However, IMO, it is tacky to register for a crib so grandparents can have a crib (or whatever else), since a shower is for the mom not the family. I have always heard to register for the first year, within reason. (Ex: If you're going to use an infant seat don't register for a convertible seat, but that is more because it may cut down on the life of the convertible seat.)

I agree with jaztastic that expensive is in the eye of the beholder. To me, dropping $200 on a wrap for baby wearing isn't expensive; to someone else it is. However, if the parents wouldn't buy it, it shouldn't be on the registry. 

crabigator

Angeldcf said:

NO List:
-Lots of clothes!  I wouldn't side-eye, but from experience, people will buy clothes anyways so register for things.  Plus clothes tend to be store-specific.

-Toddler stuff.  No official etiquette, but I think cut-off for a baby registry should be 12 months old.

-Non-baby related stuff: xbox, food, non-nursery furniture

I'm ok with breast pads, cream, milk bags, pump parts.  It helps to make the idea of breastfeeding less taboo for folks.

I was waiting to see if someone would mention this. My friend registered for an Xbox, I think as a goof? They sell them at Babies R Us, but I am sure they didn't expect anyone to buy it for them -- lots of jokes at the shower though about "oh, do we think this one's going to be the Xbox... oh, darn, it's this awesome (insert baby gift) instead."