Intro and Question (warning: child mentioned in siggie)

katie0919

Hi Ladies - 

Let me just start off by saying I am so very sorry that all of you have experienced losses - this is something I would never wish upon anyone in the world. Big hugs to all of you.

I found out Tuesday (and confirmed yesterday) that my pregnancy will not be viable. I should be almost 8 weeks, and baby has been measuring 6 weeks over the course of the last week in 3 separate sonograms. The embryo still has a weak heartbeat, so my RE sent me home to stop the Progesterone supplements and try to pass the pregnancy naturally. If nothing happens in 7-10 days, we will schedule a D&C.

The idea of the surgery scares me - I have never been under before and I worry about the risks to my uterus or cervix - even if slight. But I am also scared of miscarrying at home, and how long this process might take. She also said I only have a 50/50 chance of entirely miscarrying on my own, so it's likely I will need a D&C anyway. 

I'm 35 and not getting any younger and would like to try again as soon as possible even though I am terrified to go through this again. The sooner I can move on, the better. My question is, has anyone miscarried at home this way - without miso or a D&C? Sitting around and waiting for this to start is already agony.

Again, I am so sorry for all of your losses.  

ctk181

Unfortunately, I can't offer any advice on natural mc since I went the D&C route after my MMC was discovered for a bunch of reasons but I wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss and that you are going through this. Take care of yourself.

purplehaze11

I'm sorry for your loss. I've unfortunately had the experience of both a d&c and a natural m/c (aided by the pill). The d&c was quick, and done with, while waiting for my body to carry this out naturally has been a long journey (I'm 50 days post m/c and still waiting for hcg to leave my system). This past m/c began without me even being aware there was an issue, but the OB recommended the pill to ensure I shedded all of the tissue.

tlc35

I am sorry to hear of your loss.  I hope that once you stop the progesterone, your body will do its job.  I opted for a D&C because I had to travel for work the following week so I don't have any good experience there.

KingLED

I'm sorry for your loss. My last loss I let them pass naturally and it was so incredibly draining emotionally. If I could go back and get the D&C instead, I would hands down. I've had multiple D&Cs and never have I had any complications or anything. I would really recommend it if you're on the fence. However, it's a very personal choice and you just need to do what's right for you.

centralperk

I remember you from the May 15 board and sadly I think I am joining you over here.

My first loss was an ectopic and I had surgery to remove it so I did not really bleed all that much after surgery and my period came 4 weeks later. Overall the physical progress was not too bad.

Miscarrying at home: This is going to be TMI
I am pretty sure I am in the process of miscarrying. I woke up around midnight last night to pretty painful back pain and nausea. (I have been spotting/light bleeding through this whole pregnancy so I wasn\t all that hopeful) I got up to go to the bathroom and felt this huge gush of fluid. I pretty much soaked through my underwear and pants.

It felt kind of like a running facet. I thought it stopped so I went to go lay back down but then felt the same rush maybe 30 minutes later along with some mild cramping. I starting passing some clots and knew in my heart it was over. It's pretty awful. I have never had clotting so I wasn't sure what to expect. The whole time I felt like I needed to throw up. The worse was feeling the clots coming out. I  pretty much was in the bathroom the rest of the night. Each time I would try to get up and go lay on the couch I could feel my pad was soaked so eventually I gave up and just brought the ipad in the bathroom with me for some kind of mental relief. It has now slowed down and I mainly feel like I am having a really bad period.

I honestly don\t know which is better. Each has there pros and cons. I guess if you are at all queasy over blood or bodily things I would opt for the d&c. I think getting over the physical mental images of the clots and what I am guess was the sacs is going to take me awhile.

I am so sorry you have to make this decision.

If you do decide to try naturally I would have the following things ready in the bathroom:

A couple pair of underwear and some pants/shorts whatever your comfortable in
A lot of pads
Plenty of toilet paper
A warm wash cloth for helping anything that gets stuck and it feels smoothly
Hot water bottle for cramps/back ache
Some old towels....to put down on the floor

FigureSkater8

Hello and sad to see you here- I think I was also on your month board.

You have to make the right choice for you...but I just literally got home from my first D&C and it was not a big deal (from a physical perspective).  I was dreading it so much- I hate hospitals.  Just to possibly ease your fears if you go that route- my experience is below. (There's also a great thread on D&Cs and other things on the second announcement for this board):

I went in at 1:30pm- did paperwork for 30 minutes, was called back and put on a hospital bed and changed into a gown.  My husband sat with me.  I was feeling teary and kind of "comatose" about the whole thing.  By 2:30pm they put an IV in my arm (not a big deal) and started giving me a little fluids and anti-anxiety medicine.  At about 3pm they said they were wheeling me to the OR.  Once there they put a little mask on my face with oxygen.  That's the last thing I remember.

I woke up and felt groggy and strangely happy (meds).  the clock said 4pm.  I felt no pain, I could feel my arms and legs (no residual sedative effects), and just talked to my husband. I was so happy that I literally had not felt or experienced anything related to the actual surgery

Before going through this, I was scared I'd be sore down there like after childbirth but it barely felt like anything had happened at all.  Certainly not like I'd had surgery.  I felt a little crampy and stingy when I had to pee, but it was OK.  Just a little bleeding and wearing a pad.  I asked for a percoset just in case, and took it, and was home by 5:30pm.  My husband brought in dinner and I have been fairly comfortable resting in my bed (where I still am) all evening.

Now I know I could have more cramping or bleeding in the next few days. But I wanted to say my D&C experience over-all so far was fairly positive.  I'm relieved it's over. For me, I couldn't stand the uncertainty and trauma of experiencing it at home.  Again- just me.

Hugs and best wishes with whatever you decide.

meredithcarole

So sorry for your loss. There is a thread at the top of the page that gives some idea of what to expect from all options. Feel free to join us on TTCAL and/or TTC > 35 if and when you are ready.

katie0919

centralperkFigureSkater8 I'm so sorry you lost your pregnancies also.

It looks like my body decided to do it's thing....I started cramping badly on Sunday, then yesterday afternoon I got more intense cramps and started to spot...then shortly after I had watery type bleeding. 

@centralperk - I felt a gush, just like what you described....it was very watery and tinged pinkish red. Then about a hour and a half later, I went to the bathroom before bed and the sac with the embryo came out....it was a bit larger than a golf ball size. I was so surprised. Today I have only medium flow bleeding, but intense cramps. I hope I can pass the rest of this on my own. I'm waiting on a call back from my RE so I can go in for the rhogham shot. Ugh, this is not how I wanted all this to go at all. It's so strange to think I'm not pregnant anymore....but I'm in such limbo right now. 

Thanks again everyone, and  I am so sorry for everyone's losses!!

katie0919

petitchou1019 - yes ma'am - the RE actually wants to give me a sono tomorrow which I think is too soon? Won't it take longer to pass everything? I am still heavily cramping and only medium type of bleeding. They want to start drawing betas tomorrow as well. Their goal is to get me KU asap so I don't think they will let me wait around long, but I thought it would take some time to pass everything. 

I see by your signature that you had a D&C after retained tissue was found, looks like 3 months after your miscarriage? I'm so sorry you went through what you did! This is what scares me a bit about miscarrying naturally.