*slightly late* Intro

forevermyfenix

Hello all, 

I've been posting in the Ladies in Waiting check in, but I can't remember whether I did a general TTC After A Loss check in. (all of these checkins with both the loss board and here and the individual check ins, I just dont remember). 

We lost our firstborn son Fenix July 31 2014 at 36 weeks gestation. The cause is thought to be a tear in the umbilical cord, but we don't know and probably never will know for sure. He was 7lbs 3oz of beautiful baby boy, healthy and perfect aside from being born sleeping. I had a perfect pregnancy with no issues, and then on that 36 week appointment there was no heartbeat. I could go on and on about how it tore our life apart, but unfortunately I know you ladies can relate. 

I'm DH and I are both 23 and finishing up our Masters degrees in counseling. I'm going the school counseling route and DH is working with clinical mental health. Right now we share our home with 4 parrots and an English Mastiff who are our fur/feather babies. 

We are TTA until January 2015 in order to give me time to heal physically and to prepare ourselves emotionally for the roller coaster that is TTC after a loss. Doc said there's no physical reason for us to wait past the typical 6 week post delivery healing, but  we thought it best to wait at least until January. New Year, New Slate I guess is the mindframe. 

I have just recently started FF charting. I think it gives me a little bit of some sense of control, and plus I'm learning a lot. Thank you ladies for being here and helping me to prepare myself for this journey.

BookishMomma

Hi there. I've said this in the check-in, but I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your son. I'm glad you are taking some time to let your body and mind recover from what you've been through. ((hugs))

Km380

Welcome, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your son.

forevermyfenix

VesperLynch said:

You made me curious, though, what life with 4 parrots might be like :-)

Living with parrots is a lot of fun, most of the time. It really is like living with very needy forever-3 year olds. Lots of mess and noise and work, but also lots of love. 

Dante is our Red Sided eclectus who is 6 years old. He's by far the most "spirited" of the bunch. Always wanting to get into what he knows he's not supposed to, and he's very emotionally sensitive. He reflects whatever emotion you are feeling that day. These days when things are still fresh with the loss of Fenix, Dante has been acting up a bit and needs extra special attention. His favorite past times are sneaking into Daddy's desk drawers and tearing apart pens. And kisses. Lots and lots of kisses. 

Savannah is our Blue Front Amazon, who turned 10 years old in June. She's the "miss goody two shoes" and likes to sit back and watch the others get into trouble. She is very prim and proper when it comes to her feathers and she's definitely got an air about her that lets you know she thinks she's a princess and should be treated as such. Until you get food out, and then she's a food-junky. She knows exactly what every type of junk food is by the wrapper, and she will stop at nothing to try to get it. Peanut M&M's seem to be the most sought after, though she doesn't get them because they're not good for her. She loves sitting with me and snuggling. She's been a great comfort. 

Our two "littles" are green cheek conures Teagan and Homer. We actually just recently got them and they tend to keep to themselves lately. They do think they're 10 foot tall and bulletproof and they bully the bigger parrots around. 

Rachaeleigh

I'm sorry for the loss of your son. Sorry you have to be here, but welcome

jms627

I'm so, so sorry for the loss of your son.  It sounds like you have a very solid plan in place, and I wish you lots of comforting thoughts and prayers as you continue to heal.

NoeliaV

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Fenix. Welcome to the board. ((( hugs )))

LittleMrsW

Welcome, I'm so sorry about your sweet Fenix.

CreechMommy

So sorry for the loss of your precious son Fenix.  Hope you find the support you are looking for here.  

I also got my Masters in Clinical Mental Health

MSU_Girl1202

I'm so sorry for your loss of sweet Fenix. Big ((hugs))

rslh10

Welcome to the board. I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby boy. Take care of yourself during this hard time.

Also, I can't wait to see some pics of the parrots on Furbaby Friday. They count right? Fur/Feather

stinybean

I'm so sorry about your loss of Fenix. Take care of yourself.

Elliecat17

I am so sorry for the loss of your perfect little angel Fenix. I am glad you are taking time to heal. Welcome and big huge ((hugs))

rslh10

oops I see that you already posted them on Furbaby Friday! My bad! Adorable!

mrsjg2013

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your precious son. Welcome to the board. I hope you find comfort and support here.  

meredithcarole

I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome.

SummerB0607

I'm so sorry for the loss of precious Fenix. I lost my baby boy, Gentry, August 1st due to infection. Maybe our boys have found each other and have a friend

eliida

I am so sorry for the loss of your son, Fenix.

LittleDucky

Welcome.  I am so sorry to hear about the heartbreaking loss of your baby boy. 

I absolutely know what you mean about charting with FF giving a sense of control.  I feel so much more in sync with my body when I am charting.  Good luck to you as you heal from your loss, remember your son Fenix, and move forward in your TTCAL journey.

alm288

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. How heartbreaking! I do hope you can find some comfort here. Welcome.

matiekae

So sorry for the loss of your son. Welcome to the board, I hope you find the support you are looking for here.